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The distinction between social anxiety and social anxiety disorder is in severity. We are not all affected by the same symptoms or relentlessness. The characteristics and traits are equivalent. These conditions originate homogeneously, their trajectories differentiated by environment, experience, and the diversity of human thought and behavior. While comorbidities dramatically benefit, the recovery methods identified are for social anxiety and social anxiety disorder, and reference to one includes the other.

Defense Mechanisms

Excerpts from our upcoming book, A Tough Love, Common Sense Approach to Recovery from Social Anxiety, currently in final editing.

The overwhelming thoughts and emotions caused by our condition can be challenging for our minds to manage. To cope, we develop defense mechanisms—unconscious strategies meant to protect our emotional health from threats.

We deny, avoid, or compensate for a problem rather than acknowledge it. We rationalize our actions, project them onto others, or displace them by kicking the dog.

When used temporarily, defense mechanisms offer an escape from situations that threaten our fragile self-image. Without these strategies, we can experience decompensation—a state where we cannot effectively handle stress, leading to a breakdown in our ability to function and maintain our mental health.

In simpler terms, decompensation is mental overload, where the stress becomes too much for us to handle, and we struggle with our daily tasks and our mental health.

Defense mechanisms are healthy when used to manage short-term trauma, but become problematic when we rely on them to avoid facing reality. Recovery involves examining and understanding how these strategies support our irrational thoughts and behaviors, helping us avoid conflicts with our fragile self-image.

Recognizing how we use defense mechanisms to bypass or avoid reality is a vital step toward recovery. It enables us to turn defense strategies into tools for growth and healing. It empowers us to take control of our mental well-being and navigate our recovery with confidence.

Psychologists have identified approximately thirty defense mechanisms to date. Eight are especially relevant to social anxiety:

  1. avoidance (e.g., evading thoughts, feelings, or situations that cause anxiety or discomfort),
  2. compensation (e.g., overachieving to hide feelings of inadequacy),
  3. denial (e.g., refusing to acknowledge a problem),
  4. displacement (e.g., taking frustrations out on others),
  5. dissociation (e.g., mentally and emotionally distancing ourselves from unpleasant situations),
  6. projection (e.g., attributing our flaws to others),
  7. rationalization (e.g., justifying uncomfortable or inappropriate feelings or behaviors with seemingly logical explanations),
  8. and the related triad of repression, suppression, and regression.

The thirteen cognitive distortions, also particularly relevant to our social anxiety, are also considered defense mechanisms—patterns of biased or distorted thinking that skew our perception of reality.

This post focuses on eight defense mechanisms germane to social anxiety.

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Avoidance

A primary SAD symptom is our intense fear or anxiety during social situations, causing us to avoid interacting with others. Human interconnectivity, however, is essential for emotional health. Turning down opportunities to socialize exacerbates our isolation and opportunities for intimacy and friendship.

This does not mean that we need to challenge every situation. There is a clear distinction between avoiding something out of fear and avoiding it for a good reason. Discretion about who and where we engage is essential, as is adhering to our established boundaries and avoiding situations that pose a threat to our physical well-being.

Avoidance can be a reasonable alternative.

Compensation

Compensation is a defense strategy we turn to when we try to excel in one area of our lives to hide perceived flaws in another. It helps us conceal or overcome struggles in one area by becoming skilled at something else. In simple terms, we overachieve in one part of our lives to make up for deficiencies or incapacity in another.

For example, a student might compensate for academic difficulties by excelling in sports or other extracurricular activities. Someone who feels intellectually inferior might become an artisan; a socially awkward person might become a performer; and someone with body dysmorphia may become a fitness enthusiast.

When used wisely, compensation can be a powerful tool for healing. We counteract our perceived flaws with positive, productive traits. We boost our self-esteem by reclaiming our character strengths, virtues, attributes, and achievements. And we replace negative thoughts with positive stimuli.

Overcompensation is common among those of us experiencing social anxiety. In fact, it is often part of our daily struggles. The term refers to an overreaction to feelings of inferiority, incompetence, or inadequacy, leading to overzealous attempts to overwhelm the feelings by striving for perfection or seeking validation from others.


We tend to overcompensate for our perceived shortcomings, going to extremes to make up for imagined deficiencies, and setting unrealistically high expectations we cannot meet.

Perfectionism closely resembles the characteristics of social anxiety. Understanding this connection helps us recognize the role of perfectionism in our condition. Perfectionism isn’t just about wanting to do well; it’s an obsessive need to be flawless, with anything less being unacceptable.

As perfectionists, we harshly criticize ourselves when we fall short of our standards. We worry excessively about our behavior before and during social situations, ruminating on these worries long afterward. When things don’t go as planned, we find it hard to move forward.

Social Anxiety and Perfectionism

Social anxiety and perfectionism are closely linked. Both tend to involve higher anxiety levels and lower psychological well-being.

People with SAD often see situations in extremes. To a perfectionist, anything less than perfect is disastrous. We view others as either supporting us or opposing us. The world appears black-and-white, with no middle ground or room for compromise. We see ourselves as either exceptional or failures.

This mindset fuels cognitive distortions such as the need to be always right, personalization, and polarized thinking.

Perfectionists and those with SAD tend to avoid situations that might lead to disaster, disappointment, or embarrassment. We fear saying or doing the wrong thing. We dread criticism and ridicule. These worries intensify our self-criticism and defensiveness.

Our perfectionism pushes us to set unreasonable expectations, like performing flawlessly, never making mistakes, and being in complete control. When we can’t meet these expectations, we become disappointed and feel even more incompetent and inadequate.

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Denial

Denial is a defense strategy that induces us to refuse to accept facts or recognize reality to avoid facing certain truths. It protects us from thoughts and emotions we cannot manage emotionally. It shields us from potentially destructive stimuli by blocking our conscious awareness of the harmful or threatening elements of our memories, experiences, and environment.

We can also be in denial about something we’re not ready to reveal or something that challenges our core beliefs and deeply held convictions.

Denial is a common way to avoid taking responsibility for our behaviors. Many individuals experiencing drug or alcohol addiction deny their habit. Trauma victims often deny that the disturbing experience ever occurred to avoid emotional confrontation. 

While denial can offer temporary respite from things our minds find unmanageable, its persistent use can impede our ability to face our fears and control our lives. Freud called it the ostrich effect because denial is simply burying our problems in the sand.

Individuals denying their social anxiety is a pervasive problem. The inability or unwillingness to accept the personal impact of our condition is patently hostile to recovery. Even worse is the number of individuals who know they are affected but resist recovery. This reticence is rooted in our core beliefs of hopelessness and worthlessness, which preclude us from making the effort.

We must be fully aware (recognize, comprehend, and accept) of our social anxiety to recover from it. Denying it is like Blanche complaining that Baby Jane wouldn’t abuse her if Blanche weren’t confined to a wheelchair. ‘But you are, Blanche! You are in that chair.’

We cannot allow ourselves the luxury of ignorance.

Displacement

Displacement is a defense strategy where we redirect negative or hostile emotions to a less threatening or more acceptable target. Our minds find a safer outlet for triggers that are challenging or dangerous. Displacement allows us to cope with unmanageable feelings by transferring them onto something or someone else.

By displacing negative emotions or distressing experiences, we momentarily alleviate the anxiety associated with the source of distress. In common vernacular, we take our frustrations out on someone else.

Unleashing our unmanageable feelings onto those who pose a limited threat, such as a roommate, sibling, or associate, has obvious repercussions. A chastised worker might go home, shout at his wife, run the lawnmower into the flowerbed, and upend the cat. Each recipient of their displacement is adversely affected.

Examples of displacement include the student, upset about poor grades, who bullies someone on the playground during recess, and the wife, frustrated by her husband’s lack of attention, who seeks another sexual outlet to quash her feelings of rejection.

Another form of displacement is sublimation, where we redirect unacceptable urges into socially acceptable activities, such as the woman who sublimates her self-sabotaging desires by working out at the gym or the man who frequents the local tavern.

Individuals experiencing social anxiety are prone to displacement and sublimation as a relief from their continual self-doubt, isolation, and negative self-appraisal. For example, when we become overwhelmed by unresolved fears at the company convention, we might displace our anger and self-disappointment onto someone we dislike or sublimate them by getting out on the dance floor.

It is crucial to recognize that, like all defense mechanisms, the relief from displacement is temporary. It tells us that we must become more conscious of our emotional processes and the need for more productive coping strategies.

Dissociation

An essential component of our recovery is distancing ourselves from our condition—to step outside the bullseye, as it were. As long as we remain entwined with our social anxiety disorder, we tend to see ourselves as helpless, hopeless, and worthless. These are core beliefs that contribute to our social anxiety and depression, as identified by the pioneer of cognitive-behavioral therapy, Dr. Aaron Beck.

The concept of undesirability, characterized by the feeling of being unwanted or unattractive, is a common manifestation in our workshops, where we discuss and address negative self-appraisal.

Traditionally, dissociation is an unconscious disconnection from reality. It allows individuals to mitigate the effects of trauma by severing specific mental connections. Theoretically, our mind unconsciously blocks memories, emotions, thoughts, and impulses that are hazardous to our emotional well-being.

For instance, a person who has experienced a traumatic event might dissociate themselves from triggers that might rekindle the trauma, effectively ‘shutting off’ the emotions and memories related to the event.

Dissociation can present itself as depersonalization (self-detachment) or derealization (environmental detachment). The broad spectrum of dissociation ranges from listening to music to a total disconnect from reality.

Daydreaming or streaming television to avoid conflict is a harmless form of dissociation, while morphing into multiple personalities is a psychosis called DID (dissociative identity disorder) that requires specialized treatment.

Our first exercise in this book was to begin dissociating ourselves from our social anxiety. We redefine ourselves by our character assets, such as kindness, intelligence, creativity, and resilience, rather than by the symptoms of our condition. We’re not our social anxiety. We are intelligent and resilient individuals experiencing the reparable symptoms of social anxiety.

This shift in self-appraisal enables us to take control of our condition, which significantly weakens it.

Uncoupling ourselves from our condition enables us to objectively analyze our negative thoughts and behaviors, allowing us to respond rationally and productively. By consciously disassociating, we gain the power to deactivate the self-destructive aspects of our condition and activate our strengths, virtues, attributes, and accomplishments. This encourages us to focus on the positive aspects of our character, overriding the negative self-appraisals triggered by our social anxiety.

We are not our social anxiety. When we break a leg, we don’t become the broken limb; we experience the discomfort of a broken bone. The same logic applies to our condition. We are not our symptoms and traits. We are individuals experiencing the distress of a devious and powerful mental health condition. This understanding liberates us from the shackles of our condition, enabling us to thrive.

Projection

Projection is a psychological defense strategy in which we attribute our undesirable thoughts, feelings, impulses, or behaviors to another person or group to avoid confronting and dealing with them.

When we project, we subconsciously deny certain negative character traits but recognize or create them in others. For example, we might project our fears of negative evaluation by ridiculing someone else’s inept attempt at socializing. Or if we carry repressed anger to a company event, we might perceive others as belligerent and aggressive rather than acknowledging our hostility.

Projection acts as a protective shield for our emotional well-being, providing relief from anxiety-provoking thoughts or feelings. By attributing our problems to someone or something else, we create a safe distance from what we find distressing within ourselves.

For instance someone who is dishonest might constantly suspect others of lying, or the bar patron on his fifth scotch, might criticize the obvious inebriation of the person at the other table.

Often, when we instinctively dislike or avoid someone, we unconsciously project our disagreeable traits and impulses onto them. 

Psychological projection occurs when we are unable or unwilling to take responsibility for our fears, anxieties, prejudices, and irrational thoughts and behaviors. It is easier to recognize negative emotions in others than it is to acknowledge them in ourselves.

Like many defense mechanisms, projecting may be healthy in the short term; however, recovery compels us to address the causes of our projection.

The long-term effects of persistent anxiety projection are detrimental to our health and may aggravate traditional symptoms of our social anxiety, including chronic stress, the constant influx of fear- and anxiety-provoking chemical hormones, and decreased or static self-esteem.

Anxiety Projection

Anxiety projection is particularly relevant to our condition. Unconsciously projecting our anxious thoughts, feelings, or impulses onto others or external situations helps us cope with emotions that threaten our emotional stability. Rather than acknowledging our fears or insecurities, we deny them by attributing them to external sources.

The traits that lead to anxiety projection are not uncommon in social anxiety. They include social avoidance, overthinking, perfectionism, porous emotional boundaries, and codependency. Recognizing these traits can help us better understand and manage our condition, knowing that we are not alone in this struggle.

Socially, projected anxiety can create a cycle of misunderstanding and conflict. For instance, a person projecting their insecurities might accuse their partner of being unfaithful without evidence, which can easily lead to relationship conflicts. We tend to avoid companionship and intimacy in anticipation of rejection. Projecting these fears allows us to evade responsibility.

Practical strategies for managing anxiety projection are within our reach. They focus on increasing self-awareness, challenging cognitive distortions, and reframing our fears and self-appraisals. By implementing these strategies, we learn to manage our issues rather than projecting them onto some unsuspecting external source.

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Rationalization

Rationalization is not the same as rational thought or rational coping statements. Which are logical, self-affirming responses to our automatic negative and intrusive thoughts and other irrational and destructive self-appraisals that threaten our emotional well-being.

Rationalization is a defense strategy in which we justify uncomfortable or errant feelings or behaviors with allegedly logical explanations rather than acknowledging the actual reason behind them.

In essence, we deny or distort reality to reduce our emotional discomfort​ and self-disappointment by inventing a plausible excuse to disguise the real explanation for our behavior or feelings. For example, if we are rejected socially, we might say that the person is already in a relationship. If our presentation is substandard, we blame the lighting and tech.

These excuses protect us from self-recrimination and disappointment.

Rationalization allows us to reframe our actions or feelings in a more socially and personally acceptable manner, protecting our self-esteem and avoiding emotions that challenge our self-image. Psychologists consider defense mechanisms like rationalization and projection, unconscious strategies that protect us from threats to our self-esteem​.

Although rationalizations misrepresent our true motivations, they protect us from the feelings of shame, guilt, or anxiety we might experience when we fail to fulfill our true intentions. Rationalization plays a crucial role in maintaining our emotional stability by revising our interpretations of outcomes.

We rationalize our thoughts and behaviors to make them more acceptable, which shields us from negative self-appraisal and helps us maintain a positive self-image. This reassurance is a key function of rationalization.

We rationalize to protect our self-esteem and maintain a positive outlook, and in the short term, this provides comforting relief. It allows us to alleviate stress until we are better equipped to process our motivations.

However, excessive use of rationalization can lead to further problems. Denying, ignoring, or subordinating the truth of a traumatic situation, consciously or unconsciously, prevents us from honestly evaluating our reactions and responses and making positive changes.

Deflecting Responsibility

When we experience anxiety or guilt about our actions, rationalization offers an emotional escape. It replaces discomfort with emotionally acceptable explanations, but it also enables us to evade responsibility for the outcome, a crucial aspect to consider.

An excellent example of rationalization would be the dieter who opts out of the recommended exercises because they are too time-consuming and have failed them in the past —so what’s the point?

Rationalization versus Lying

It’s important to distinguish between rationalization and deception. While lying is a deliberate attempt to mislead, rationalization is a partly or primarily unconscious strategy. Both conceal the truth and disguise our real motives.

Rationalization, in its various forms—such as minimizing, deflecting, blaming, and attacking—is a common human experience. We’ve all been in situations where we downplay the importance of a task, shift blame to others, or make excuses for our actions. It’s a natural defense strategy that prevents us from taking responsibility and shields us from feelings that could challenge our self-esteem.

While it defends against distressing thoughts, erratic behaviors, and failed outcomes, rationalization avoids the deeper problems that require attention.

Repression, Suppression, Regression

Repression operates at the deepest level of our unconscious mind. It’s a process where we unknowingly suppress traumatic memories or thoughts that our minds find too challenging to handle. In psychology, repression refers to the process by which we prevent specific thoughts, memories, or feelings from surfacing into conscious awareness.

While repression may shield us from immediate distress, it’s crucial to understand that it can lead to enduring psychological issues. These memories, buried in our unconscious, subtly shape our thoughts and actions. For instance, a repressed memory of a past failure could breed self-doubt in similar situations, or a buried traumatic event might steer us from specific triggers without our conscious knowledge.

These occurrences can stir up anxiety, stress, and depression, underscoring the profound and potentially long-term implications of repression on our mental health. It’s essential to address these issues to prevent them from developing into enduring psychological problems.

Suppression

Suppression is a voluntary form of repression. It’s a conscious choice to subdue painful thoughts and memories to deal with them at a more appropriate time. This conscious control over our thoughts and emotions is a powerful tool in recovery. It allows us to resolve the issues that we have temporarily suppressed.

The distinction between suppression and dissociation in recovery is also essential to understand. Suppression is a conscious choice to postpone dealing with specific distressing thoughts and behaviors. Dissociation, as used in recovery, is a conscious decision to mentally separate ourselves from the symptoms of our condition to address them dispassionately and objectively.

Understanding these nuances can provide a deeper insight into our psychological processes during recovery. Making us more knowledgeable and better equipped to handle our emotional issues.

Repression is often confused with the defense strategy, denial, in which we refuse to admit to unacceptable thoughts and behaviors, even with evidence to the contrary. Denial involves a conscious refusal to accept the truth. For example, a person in denial about their addiction may refuse to acknowledge their problem despite clear evidence. Repression, on the other hand, involves unconscious mental dismissal. It’s like the mind’s way of protecting us from overwhelming trauma by pushing it out of conscious awareness.

Regression

We also sometimes conflate regression with repression. Regression is reverting to an earlier or less mature stage of psychological development, where we feel safe from emotional conflict. Repression is a psychological attempt to unconsciously forget or block distressing memories, thoughts, or desires.

Both are psychological attempts to unconsciously forget or block distressing memories, thoughts, or desires. However, regression is a severe psychological issue that requires more specialized treatment, something a traditional recovery program does not provide.

A primary objective of a treatment program is to unblock these memories and emotions to address the root causes of our unconscious unwillingness or inability to confront certain distressing or traumatic events or situations.

Certain aspects of our person are broken. It is impossible to fix something that is broken unless we have a clear understanding of its causes. It’s like a novice attempting to rebuild a transmission without knowing the basics of engine operation.

How do we identify the defense strategy we use to avoid dealing with an uncomfortable or unmanageable issue? It’s like recognizing a familiar face in a crowd. You may not be able to explain precisely how you know, but you do. Similarly, we often recognize our defense mechanisms when we see them in action. This underscores the importance of self-awareness in identifying, understanding, and accepting why we use certain defense mechanisms to avoid facing the true nature of our traumatic thoughts and experiences.

This suggests, correctly, that increased self-awareness is necessary to identify, comprehend, and accept our use of defense mechanisms to avoid facing the true nature of our traumatic thoughts and experiences. It’s important to note that during the recovery process, we learn specific coping strategies that help reduce our emotional reliance on defense mechanisms.

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Robert F. Mullen, PhD
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The distinction between social anxiety and social anxiety disorder is in severity. We are not all affected by the same symptoms or relentlessness. The characteristics and traits are equivalent. These conditions originate homogeneously, their trajectories differentiated by environment, experience, and the diversity of human thought and behavior. While comorbidities dramatically benefit, the recovery methods identified are for social anxiety and social anxiety disorder, and reference to one includes the other.

Coping Strategies

Excerpts from our upcoming book, A Tough Love, Common Sense Approach to Recovery from Social Anxiety, currently in final editing.

A coping strategy is a technique we use to manage stress and negative emotions. It’s crucial to understand that there are both constructive (adaptive) and destructive (maladaptive) ways to cope with stress. Choosing adaptive strategies can significantly improve our mental and emotional well-being.

Adaptive coping strategies include relaxation and breathing techniques, rational coping statements, and exercise, which are healthy and supportive. Unhealthy or maladaptive coping strategies, such as substance abuse, negative verbal outbursts, and avoidance due to fear, can be harmful to the entire body system, causing mental, physical, and emotional distress.

Many people confuse unhealthy coping strategies with defense mechanisms. Both are meant to protect our emotional health from threats. However, defense mechanisms are usually unconscious reactions to unmanageable stress, while maladaptive coping strategies are intentional, like procrastination, codependence, or self-harm.

There are various types of coping strategies; some are listed here. Some of the more effective ones for recovery include:

Active or problem-solving strategies aid in identifying and solving problems that cause stress, such as seeking professional help, grounding, cognitive reframing, and many of the approaches we will utilize in our upcoming fear situation plan. This plan is a structured approach to facing and managing our fears in specific situations, providing step-by-step guidance and tools to help us cope effectively.

Accommodative coping strategies demonstrate how to set reasonable expectations and establish boundaries, which are like a safety net that protects us from overwhelming stress. These strategies, covered later in this chapter, provide a sense of security and control in our lives.

Emotional coping strategies help us regulate and control our emotions. Behavioral strategies include stress-reducing activities such as gardening, hiking, and going to the gym. Cognitive strategies help us change our irrational perspectives and thought patterns.

Let’s discuss the two major clinical approaches we use in recovery to develop the most effective coping strategies for specific problems or situations: cognitive-behavioral therapy and positive psychology.

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Cognitive Behavioral Therapy

Cognitive-behavioral therapy examines the significant relationships among our thoughts, feelings, and behaviors, aiming to transform our negative self-appraisals into more productive, rational thoughts and behaviors. It is a corrective and rehabilitative process based on the concept that our thoughts determine our feelings and behaviors. By identifying their origins and validity, we engage strategies to challenge and overcome them.

Social anxiety distorts our perceptions of reality. As we recover, we learn to recognize that our problems, such as feeling constantly judged or fearing social situations, are primarily based on learned patterns of irrational thinking. CBT equips us with knowledge of the sources of these patterns and develops problem-solving skills and coping strategies to address them, instilling a strong sense of self-assurance as we take control of our mental health.

As previously stated, a one-size-fits-all solution cannot adequately address the complexity of the human experience.  When utilized with complementary methods such as positive psychology and self-esteem-specific exercises, CBT is an effective support tool for recovery from SAD. This individualized approach ensures that each person’s unique needs and experiences are understood and addressed, fostering a sense of being valued and respected throughout the recovery process.

Positive Psychology

Positive psychology, with its focus on character strengths, virtues, and attributes, is a potent tool for reclaiming and rebuilding our self-esteem. It empowers us to become aware of and utilize our dominant, positive traits, gradually counteracting the years of negative self-appraisal caused by our social anxiety.

The first wave of positive psychology, which originated in the late 1990s, focused on our potential well-being by emphasizing our strengths, virtues, attributes, and positive experiences. By nurturing these assets, we can reclaim and rebuild our self-esteem, reintegrate into society, and ultimately improve our overall life satisfaction. This wave laid the foundation for the subsequent developments in positive psychology.

Positive Psychology 2.0

Positive Psychology 2.0, in recognizing the dialectical nature of human experience, emphasizes the importance of considering both the positive and negative aspects of our character. This balanced perspective is crucial for healing and advancement, fostering a sense of balance and self-awareness, and leading to a deeper understanding of ourselves.

Positive Psychology 3.0

The latest wave of positive psychology (3.0) has expanded research beyond the individual to include relationships, groups, and organizations, examining how our character and values influence society and how society influences our character and values.

PP 3.0 supports our final objective of reclaiming and rebuilding self-esteem as we reintegrate into society. This wave represents a shift towards a more holistic understanding of positive psychology, considering not only individual well-being but also the broader societal impact of positive character traits and values.

Positive psychology plays a vital role in our recovery. It helps us rediscover and identify our strengths and attributes, which have been dismissed or superseded by our social anxiety.

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Reframing

A core CBT tool is cognitive reframing, which helps us identify, challenge, and replace distorted thought patterns with healthier, positive perspectives. Reframing helps us develop a more positive view of ourselves, others, and the world, alleviating the symptoms of anxiety and depression.

Reframing is a versatile cognitive technique that can be applied in various situations. It prompts us to shift a negative perspective into a positive one. For instance, we can reframe a problem or issue as a challenge or opportunity. We can defuse an argument by considering the other person’s perspective. Similarly, when faced with a difficult task at work, we can reframe the frustration as an opportunity to learn and grow. When stuck in traffic, we can reframe it as a chance to listen to our favorite podcast or audiobook.

In each of these situations, reframing helps us develop a more positive view of ourselves, others, and the world, thereby alleviating the symptoms of anxiety and depression

During a snowstorm, we can feel trapped and despondent, or we can take out the sleds and ice skates and make the most of the day.

Experts agree that reframing is crucial for emotional well-being.

Every situation has multiple perspectives. While we cannot control everything that happens around us, we can manage how we react and respond. We possess the inherent ability to choose how we view people and situations. If given the option to select emotional well-being over anxiety and depression, it is illogical not to seize that opportunity.

Childhood disturbances, negative core and intermediate beliefs, and adverse self-appraisal have rooted themselves in our minds like squatters resisting eviction. Moreover, we are exposed to ongoing cynical input from external sources, including misleading media, adverse public opinion, stigma, and disinformation. Overcoming negative thinking can be a significant challenge.

Reframing is not just an abstract commitment to changing every negative thought or situation into a positive one. Multiple strategies support our efforts to replace disagreeable prospects with a more favorable perspective.

Through these strategies, we create a more nuanced and balanced perspective that encourages positivity, growth, and resilience. A key component of this process is emotional self-regulation, which is the ability to manage and respond to emotional experiences in ways that are healthy and productive.

It’s about being aware of our emotions, understanding what triggers them, and choosing how to respond in a way that aligns with our values and goals. By practicing emotional self-regulation, we reduce the frequency and severity of our adversarial perspectives.

Grounding

This involves intentionally shifting our attention away from anxiety-provoking thoughts or worries by focusing on what surrounds us in our present environment. Grounding techniques help us break free from the grip of traumatic memories or sensations by redirecting our emotional distress into a conscious awareness of the present. When anxiety or stress threatens to overwhelm us, we reframe our focus away from our triggers and other discomforting situations.

The 5-4-3-2-1 method is a practical and accessible grounding technique. It encourages us to connect with one or more of our five senses to anchor ourselves to our physical environment. This practicality makes it easy to remember and apply in various situations.

For instance, if we’re feeling overwhelmed at work, we can take a moment to focus on the click-clack of our typing, the visuals of our computer screen, the reassuring aroma of our cologne, the bitter taste of our coffee, or the sensation of our ergonomic chair against our back. Our anxiety takes a back seat to our senses, and we become more capable of managing our emotions.

For some of us, performing the entire 5-4-3-2-1 sequence is cumbersome. Focusing on one or two senses is just as effective, making the process more manageable.

The vagus nerve is a network of fibers that regulates heart rate, respiration, mood, and stress responses. A significant component of our parasympathetic nervous system, the vagus nerve is the longest nerve in the body, running from our brainstem to the abdomen, and it plays a crucial role in deactivating the fight-or-flight responses.

Other effective grounding methods, such as progressive muscle relaxation and controlled breathing, stimulate the vagus nerve to slow our heart rate and breathing, which also moderates the level of our stress response.

A common symptom of social anxiety is the persistent worry that others will become aware of our condition by observing specific physical reactions such as blushing, hyperventilating, sweating, trembling, or vocal tremors. Grounding reduces our fear of visibility by refocusing our attention on the immediate environment and our presence in it.

Visualization

Visualization involves creating mental images to counteract fear situations, reduce anxiety, and boost performance and confidence. By visualizing a positive experience, we reframe our worst-case scenario projections. For instance, if we feel overly anxious before a public speaking event, visualizing a successful presentation in detail helps us replace negative thoughts and behaviors with healthier, productive ones.

The same activity benefits any fear situation by replacing a negative outlook with a positive, productive one.

All information passes through our brain’s thalamus, which makes no distinction between inner and outer realities. Whether we imagine an action or physically perform it, the same neural regions are activated. Visualizing raising our left hand is, to our brain, the same as physically raising it, providing similar neural benefits.

Visualization is a scientifically supported tool that helps us manage anxiety and fear. It activates our dopaminergic reward system, decreasing the neurotransmission of anxiety- and fear-provoking hormones and accelerating and consolidating the transmission of beneficial hormones.

This dynamic tool helps manage anxiety and fear by activating our dopaminergic reward system, which releases dopamine—the neurotransmitter linked to pleasure and reward. When activated, it reduces the transmission of anxiety-inducing hormones and speeds up the release of beneficial ones.

Additionally, when we visualize, our brain generates alpha waves, which can significantly lessen symptoms of anxiety and depression, making us feel calmer and less stressed.

Research indicates that visualizing a situation beforehand not only improves mental and physical skills but also enhances social abilities. By consciously creating positive scenarios, we can significantly improve social interaction and increase our chances of success in real-life situations.

Since a key goal of visualization is to replace or overcome negative patterns with positive outcomes, it is important to visualize detailed, positive scenarios f situations where we tend to project worst-case outcomes.

Setting Boundaries

One of the best ways to avoid a potential threat is not to put ourselves in that situation in the first place. We do that by establishing boundaries.

Boundaries are the standards of treatment we believe we are entitled to and are comfortable with. They define which behaviors towards us are acceptable or unacceptable and shield us from invasions of our space, feelings, limitations, and expectations. They allow us to assert our identity, empower our goals and objectives, and prevent others from manipulating, exploiting, or taking advantage of us. Boundaries give us the power to shape our lives, instilling a profound sense of control and confidence. 

Our social anxiety has a profound effect on our ability to express ourselves and hold others accountable. Our fear of criticism and rejection can lead to obsessive concern about how people evaluate us. And our yearning for acceptance often overshadows our need to set conditions for our own security and happiness. The fear of upsetting or distancing others can inhibit our ability to set boundaries.

It’s not uncommon for us to create codependent relationships where one partner prioritizes the other’s needs over their own, maintaining excessive emotional reliance on their partner. In these dysfunctional situations, our low self-esteem and craving for approval can lead us to attach ourselves to controlling or manipulative individuals, becoming dependent on them for a sense of worth.

Relationship Boundaries

Our social impotence often leads us to believe that setting boundaries hinders our ability to form and maintain healthy relationships. We fear asserting ourselves will lead to rejection and isolation, and think that setting boundaries will only aggravate our loneliness. Rather than saying no, we often overextend ourselves and prioritize others’ needs above our own, which can leave us feeling inferior, resentful, and exploited.

Learning to say no, however, brings a profound sense of relief, easing the tendency to put others’ needs before our own and lightening our emotional load.

Boundaries serve as the foundation of all healthy relationships. They don’t distance us from others but bring us closer by clearly defining our needs and wants. By setting boundaries, we encourage open communication, ensuring we live in alignment with our values while respecting those of others, fostering a deep sense of connection and understanding.

Social Anxiety’s Impact on Boundaries

Our obsession with perfection consistently reminds us of our insecurities. Our symptomatic negative self-analysis provokes those core beliefs of helplessness, hopelessness, undesirability, and worthlessness. 

The long and short of it is that we want to be loved, but we don’t believe we are because we think we are unworthy. In pursuing perfectionism, we become consummate enablers and codependents, compensating for our feelings of inadequacy. We seek affirmation and appreciation, yet we allow ourselves to be bullied and taken advantage of.

Boundaries not only establish the standard of treatment we believe we are entitled to, but they also empower us to assert our rights. Like fences that provide us with privacy and help us feel safe, boundaries protect our emotional and mental well-being.

One client who held a degreeless job in the college system felt intimidated and frustrated at social events where everyone discussed their academic accomplishments and publications. He simply set a boundary with his employer, where he would not be required to attend these sessions. It may seem like an insignificant demand, but it helped him maintain his sense of self-esteem and value to the institution.

Setting boundaries can be particularly daunting for those grappling with issues of self-worth. However, there are strategies we can employ to prioritize our needs and avoid feelings of inferiority, resentment, and loneliness.

Let’s focus on eight types of boundaries that we should consider establishing.

Physical boundaries include the autonomy of our bodies and personal space. Healthy boundaries establish our comfort zone. We might say, ‘I prefer not to hug people,’ to set a physical boundary. ‘It’s a personal choice,’ or ‘It’s a cultural thing.’

Intellectual boundaries comprise our ideas, beliefs, and thoughts.  A thoughtful boundary also respects others’ boundaries. Dismissing or belittling ideas, beliefs, thoughts, and opinions about us invalidates our intellectual boundary. If we disagree, it’s better to say, ‘I appreciate your opinion, but I don’t fully support it,’ or ‘Let’s agree to disagree.’

Our feelings and personal details are part of our emotional boundaries. When someone criticizes, minimizes, or shares our feelings or personal information without our permission, they violate these boundaries, leading to feelings of betrayal, loss of trust, and emotional distress.

Material boundaries refer to our financial resources and possessions. When we feel pressured to lend or give things away or to spend money when we prefer not to, our boundaries for financial resources and belongings are breached. One effective response might be, ‘I’m on a tight budget. I prefer to share expenses this evening.’

Internal boundaries support self-regulation. Occasionally, we prioritize the energy we expend upon others over our personal needs. This is especially relevant to our desire for acceptance and companionship. When someone attempts to invade our internal boundaries, an acceptable response might be, ‘I’ve been working all week. I need time to recoup and spend quality time with myself. I’ll call you tomorrow.’

Conversational boundaries establish topics we may or may not feel comfortable discussing. Money, religion, and politics easily fall within this category. So, an adequate response to someone infringing on these boundaries might be, ‘ I am uncomfortable discussing this and would rather not be part of this conversation.’

Maintaining healthy time boundaries can be challenging as we juggle a job, relationships, children, and other responsibilities. These boundaries are crossed when others make unreasonable demands or requests for our time and attention. We overextend ourselves by taking on more than we can handle. Establishing time boundaries early avoids miscommunication. ‘I can only stay for half an hour. I have another commitment later this afternoon.’

Sexual boundaries protect our intimate personal space. When someone pressures us into unwanted or unwarranted intimacy, touching, or sexual activity, or when someone expresses hostility toward our choices, they invade our sexual boundaries.

We establish and maintain healthy boundaries when we:

  1. Retain the ability to decline anything we don’t want to do.
  2. Express our feelings responsibly.
  3. Talk about our shared experiences freely and honestly.
  4. Set our boundaries in the moment.
  5. Address problems directly with the person involved rather than with a third party.
  6. Make our expectations clear. It is irrational to assume people will figure them out.
  7. Can say ‘no’ comfortably and accept when someone else says ‘no.’
  8. Communicate our wants and needs clearly.
  9. Honor and respect the needs of others without compromising our own.
  10. Respect the values and beliefs of others even if they conflict with our own.

Unhealthy Boundaries

Where unhealthy boundaries exist, safety in the relationship is compromised, leading to dysfunctional relationships where needs remain unmet. Here are some examples of times we failed to set appropriate boundaries. When we:

  1. Find it challenging to say ‘no’ or have difficulty accepting ‘no’ from others.
  2. Neglect to communicate our needs and wants clearly.
  3. Easily compromise our personal values, beliefs, and opinions to satisfy others.
  4. Become coercive or manipulative to persuade others to do something they don’t want.
  5. Overshare personal information.

How to Set Healthy Boundaries

Setting healthy boundaries is about being transparent about our expectations and creating a safe and respectful space where needs are met. It requires good communication skills that convey clarity and assertiveness, ensuring that our interests are valued and that we are in control of our lives.

Assertiveness is a key component of setting healthy boundaries. It’s not about making demands, but about expressing our feelings openly, respectfully, and without hostility. It’s a communication style that fosters understanding and respect by asserting our needs and priorities.

Here are a few things to consider when we set our boundaries:

  • Have a Clear Goal. What is the outcome we want to achieve in setting this boundary?
  • Understand Our Motivations. Why do we need to set this boundary?
  • Be Courageous. Setting boundaries can have repercussions, such as people becoming defensive, argumentative, or even ending the relationship.
  • Keep It Simple. Setting boundaries doesN’t have to be complicated. In fact, less is often more when it comes to communicating our boundaries. It’s prudent not to overload the other with too many details. 

Be kind to yourself and others. Remember, setting boundaries is not about being biased or manipulative. It’s about respecting yourself and others. So, be thoughtful with your words and actions, and always consider others’ feelings and needs.

Completions

Our need for perfectionism causes us to procrastinate completing tasks because we fear they will not meet our expectations. Our constant fear and worry that we will be criticized or rejected causes us to put off attending social events or scheduling classes. Delaying or postponing things leaves things we need or want to do unfinished, creating self-disappointment and resentment.

Completion is not just about ticking off a task from our to-do list; it’s about achieving a sense of accomplishment and satisfaction. It involves taking action, finding resolutions, and achieving fulfillment. When we finally complete tasks, especially those we’ve been procrastinating on, we experience a profound sense of relief and liberation.

Completions create mental space for new learning, ideas, and concepts to emerge. Psychologically, these completions provide a sense of closure, crucial for our emotional well-being.

Experts recommend adding items to an active list whenever a task or idea comes to mind. Sometimes, small projects seem unimportant, causing us to skip listing them and forget about them. Writing down ideas, projects, and other important or productive tasks does two things: it prevents us from forgetting something crucial and frees up our minds for other activities.

I prioritize my tasks using a color-coding system: turquoise for urgent tasks, pink for high-priority projects, and so on. This system helps me stay organized and in control. I review this list regularly to see how well I am managing my tasks.

During recovery, we use graded exposure (systematic desensitization) to address completion anxiety – the fear or discomfort that can happen when facing a task that needs finishing. We start with smaller projects, like cleaning out the garage, weeding the garden, or reconnecting with family members.

These small victories are not insignificant; they are formidable steps to greater accomplishments. Achieving a sense of completion and closure is essential for our emotional health. And it also clears mental space for other pursuits.

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INDIVIDUAL RECOVERY. The symptoms of social anxiety make it challenging for some to participate in a collective workshop. Dr. Mullen works one-on-one with a select group of individuals uneasy in a group setting. ReChanneling offers scholarships to accommodate the costs. What is absent in group activities is provided in our monthly Graduate Recovery Group. In this supportive community, graduates interact with others who have completed the program.  Contact ‘rmullenphd@gmail.com’.

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Recovery from social anxiety and related conditions

Robert F Mullen
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The distinction between social anxiety and social anxiety disorder is in severity. We are not all affected by the same symptoms or relentlessness. The characteristics and traits are equivalent. These conditions originate homogeneously, their trajectories differentiated by environment, experience, and the diversity of human thought and behavior. While comorbidities dramatically benefit, the recovery methods identified are for social anxiety, social phobia, and social anxiety disorder, and reference to one includes the others.          

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Excerpts from our upcoming book, A Tough Love, Common Sense Approach to Recovery from Social Anxiety, currently in final editing.

Brief History of Social Anxiety

While Hippocrates wrote of shyness and social inadequacy roughly 2,500 years ago, the term’ social anxiety’ is a relatively recent diagnosis. The 1930s saw the introduction of ‘social neurosis’ to describe extreme shyness, which later evolved into ‘social phobia’ in 1980 and eventually ‘social anxiety disorder’ in 1994.

This historical evolution of the term’ social anxiety‘ provides us with a deeper understanding of its complexities and helps us navigate its modern manifestations. Over this period, SAD was conflated with generalized anxiety disorder and avoidant personality disorder. Even today, experts sometimes confuse social anxiety with social phobia, agoraphobia, and other emotional issues.

In fact, most of us dealing with social anxiety also have at least one additional comorbid disorder, further highlighting the need for individualized treatment. This prevalence of comorbid disorders is a common experience among those with social anxiety, and it’s important to recognize that we are not alone in our struggles.

Major depression and substance abuse are the most common, followed by simple phobias and generalized anxiety disorder. Comorbid anxiety disorders, such as OC-D, panic disorder, and agoraphobia, are also evident.

When I returned to university in my late forties, recovery methods for our condition were still in their formative stages and, as I later discovered, poorly invested in social anxiety. It remains the most underrated and misunderstood of all disorders.

Research indicates that social anxiety exists on a continuum, from mild shyness to severe social anxiety disorder. The key distinction lies in the severity of the condition. We use the acronym SAD for social anxiety and social phobia/social anxiety disorder, as each indicates a moderate to high level of disability and functional impairment.

In addition to the common symptoms, individuals experiencing SAD are statistically more likely to face challenges such as dropping out of school, unemployment, underemployment, being unmarried or divorced, reduced social interaction, dissatisfaction with leisure activities, and experiencing suicidal thoughts.

Sixty to eighty percent of us also experience depression, substance abuse, and at least one other anxiety disorder. Because of its proximate comorbidity to depression, we are subject to the same sense of helplessness, hopelessness, undesirability, and worthlessness alluded to by the pioneer of cognitive behavior therapy, Dr. Aaron Beck.

Not only does SAD convince us that recovery is hopeless, but our negative self-appraisal is so overwhelming that we deem ourselves unworthy of happiness and convince ourselves we are helpless to do anything about it. We can’t envision a light at the end of the tunnel because so much negativity is blocking our view.

Understanding social anxiety is a deeply personal journey. Often referred to as the ‘neglected anxiety disorder’, it became clear to me that traditional treatments were not working, but the reasons remained elusive.

After extensive research and personal application, I came to understand that the complexities of social anxiety, much like the mysteries of the ancient Greek Eleusinian cult, are only revealed to those who have experienced it firsthand. This personal journey of understanding is something many of us can relate to, and it forms a crucial part of our recovery process.

In other words, only someone who has walked in our shoes and mastered the intricacies of social anxiety can effectively guide us through recovery. Clinically sound and well-intentioned recovery methods are problematic because they are designed for disorders that do not sustain themselves through irrational thoughts and behaviors.

“Dr. Mullen is doing impressive work helping the world. He is the pioneer of proactive neuroplasticity utilizing DRNI – deliberate, repetitive, neural information.” – WeVoice (Madrid, Málaga)   

What is SAD

SAD is a multifaceted and intricate health condition – a master of disguise that withholds its secrets from those who haven’t experienced its enigmatic and catastrophic nature. It is more emotionally complex than a hormonal teenager.

Social anxiety steals our autonomy, hopes, and dreams. It makes us feel unwelcome and exposed. It crushes our self-esteem, causing us to doubt our worth and abilities. And it saps our confidence and desirability, causing us to avoid social activities and personal connectivity.

Social avoidance is one of the most prevalent behaviors in SAD. Social connection improves our physical health and mental and emotional well-being. And SAD does not want us to be healthy and happy because that diminishes its power and releases us from its insidious grasp. 

I have worked with far too many incredible individuals who approach recovery with the best intentions but lack the resolve because their fears overwhelm them.

SAD sustains itself by compelling irrational thoughts and behaviors that become so habitual that they normalize. Although our condition causes a considerable amount of suffering, many individuals experiencing SAD do not seek medical attention because they do not perceive their condition as abnormal.

SAD traps us in a vicious cycle of fear and anxiety, restricting us from taking advantage of opportunities. Our fear of disapproval is so severe that we avoid the life-affirming experiences that connect us with others and the world. We fear the unknown and unexplored. We worry about how others perceive us and how we express ourselves. 

While occasional anxiety is a regular part of life, we tend to personalize and dramatize our anxiety, ostensibly blowing it out of proportion and obsessing over its alleged power and influence, not recognizing that we fuel its authority.

We endure anxiety for weeks before a situation, engaging in anticipatory processing, a term that refers to the habit of predicting worst-case scenarios. We project criticism, rejection, and embarrassment in every social engagement, and we mold our behaviors to make our self-fulfilling prophecy happen.

Afterwards, we engage in post-event processing, where we ruminate obsessively about every negative aspect of our participation, agonizing over every perceived mistake or flawed interaction.

It’s no wonder we avoid social and performance activities.

Experiencing SAD is like one of those movies in which aliens invade human bodies, controlling their thoughts and behaviors. The only remedy is logic and self-awareness, causing them to wither and die. Social anxiety feeds off our misery and hopelessness, surviving through our fears and anxieties.

Understanding how our social anxiety deceives and manipulates us is a crucial step towards recovery. By recognizing the symptoms and characteristics of our condition, we gain the tools to ameliorate its power. Enabling us to take control of our lives.

We fear situations in which we may be judged negatively, criticized, or even ridiculed. Since it is human nature to evaluate others and form opinions, we avoid situations and activities where there is even a slight likelihood of being scrutinized.

Subsequently, we avoid engaging with people, fearing we will embarrass or humiliate ourselves. Our self-esteem is so fragile that we often feign disinterest when someone approaches us. Convinced that we will be rejected as undesirable, awkward, or inferior.

We fear that others will notice our anxiety by revealing physical symptoms like blushing, sweating, nausea, or speaking incoherently. We desperately want to make a favorable impression and are unduly concerned that any detection of our anxiety will expose us and make others uncomfortable.

Social anxiety instills in us unsound fears and apprehensions that are disproportionate to the actual situation. It limits our expectations, causing us to miss opportunities for friendship and intimacy.

Knowing Ourselves

It is essential to understand how we are individually affected by SAD. Each of us, as unique individuals with diverse experiences, environments, beliefs, needs, and aspirations, experiences SAD in a highly subjective way.

Some of us are more severely affected than others. Some relate to specific symptoms, while others do not. And some individuals are afraid of all or almost all social situations. While others are afraid of only a few of them. Some coping mechanisms may be more effective than others or may work sporadically.

It is productive to distinguish the primary focus of our anxiety, e.g., anxiety related to social interaction versus anxiety related to performance.

Simple tasks, such as eating in front of others, talking on the phone, or using public transportation or a public restroom, can be unduly stressful.  We often find ourselves seeking invisibility to avoid participation.

One client bravely shared, “I spent high school trying to hide in every dark corner with a book in my face. I never once ate lunch in four years, and never once went to the bathroom in four years at my high school, for fear of having to interact with people.”

Living with SAD means navigating a paradoxical emotional landscape. We find ourselves craving companionship while shunning intimacy. Fearing that we will be deemed unlikable. This internal conflict can be overwhelming, leading to a constant state of anxiety and fear. 

It’s not fear that destroys our lives, but the strategies we develop to avoid confrontation. At the peak of my social anxiety, I would circle the block repeatedly before a social situation to bolster my courage. Often, I ended up in the bar across the street rather than the event, a clear example of self-loathing through avoidance.

Our social interactions are often clumsy, small talk is inelegant, and attempts at humor are embarrassing. Our anticipation of rejection motivates us to dismiss overtures that could offset any possibility of being turned down. 

SAD is repressive and intractable, imposing self-sabotaging thoughts and behaviors. It establishes its authority through defeatist measures, which are actions or thoughts that reinforce a sense of failure and inadequacy, produced by distorted and unsound interpretations of reality. These defeatist measures can include self-criticism, avoidance of social situations, and negative self-talk, all of which perpetuate the cycle of anxiety and fear.

Sharing our experiences with social anxiety is like trying to describe an obscure mathematical equation to someone who doesn’t understand math – a solitary and often fruitless endeavor, as others struggle to comprehend our issue. ‘So, you have anxiety. Who doesn’t?’ is a typical response. This leads to a reticence to disclose our condition, as we fear being misunderstood or ridiculed.

Alleviating the symptoms of social anxiety is a gradual process that requires patience, introspection, and persistence. It’s not about rushing to find the answers, but about understanding the journey and the process that leads to them.

What makes us tick? What triggers our fears and apprehensions?  Where do we feel anxious or fearful? What activities are we engaged in, and what thoughts arise? How do we feel (physically, intellectually, emotionally, spiritually)? What specific concerns or worries do we have? What is the worst thing that could happen?  What do we imagine might occur? Who, where, or what do we avoid due to these feelings?

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Associated Fears

Associated fears are the fears we experience during a fear-inducing situation. To identify these fears, it’s essential to pay attention to our thoughts, feelings, and physical sensations when we find ourselves in such situations. For example, if our fear involves a social gathering, our associated fears might include that no one will talk to us, that we will feel like we don’t belong, or that our physical symptoms will become obvious.

If our situation is the barber or beauty shop, our fears may stem from difficulty making small talk with our hairdresser. Or feeling like we are the glaring center of attention while trapped in the chair. If our fear occurs during Sunday dinner with family, our fears may stem from parental disapproval. Or the belief that our achievements are overshadowed by those of our siblings, making us feel small and inferior.

Every fear situation and associated fear are subjective, diverse, and extremely meaningful.   

One Size Does Not Fit All

It’s essential to recognize that social anxiety is a complex condition, and there’s no one-size-fits-all solution. A comprehensive treatment program must take into account our unique environment, heritage, background, and relationships. To achieve this, it employs a range of traditional and non-traditional methodologies, developed through a combination of client trust, cultural understanding, and therapeutic innovation.

This complexity underscores the uniqueness of your journey and the need for a personalized approach.

It incorporates complementary approaches, such as proactive and active neuroplasticity, cognitive-behavioral therapy, positive psychology, recovery-oriented cognitive therapy, schema therapy, acceptance and commitment therapy, rational emotive behavior therapy, and gradual exposure therapy, among other methods developed through research and our workshops.

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Counterintuitive and Counterproductive

Remember when our parents and teachers advised us to trust our intuition? Unless we’re sociopaths, that’s good advice. Unfortunately, social anxiety sustains itself by perpetuating irrational thoughts and behaviors, which, by their very nature, are counterintuitive to rational productivity.

Counterproductive means that any attempt to do something has the opposite of the desired effect. Social anxiety thrives by introducing thoughts and behaviors that are counterproductive to our emotional well-being.

Everything that stems from our condition – every idea, instinct, expression, thought, and behavior – is counterproductive unless we understand how social anxiety sustains itself. This is why our attempts at recovery have been ineffective.  They have been nonproductive, generating the opposite of the desired effect.

Counterintuitive means that our instincts and intuitions lead us to actions that are not in our best interest. For example, if our intuition tells us that something is logical and correct, it is likely wrong. This is why it’s important to remember that our intuition is likely counterproductive.

When our intuition prompts us to do something, it is prudent to do the opposite or do nothing. Because our actions will be counterintuitive and therefore counterproductive. And, if our intuition tells us that something is logical and correct, it is likely wrong.

Like the toddler given the choice of candy or a carrot, social anxiety compels us to choose the unhealthy option. The devil sits on our right shoulder, our angel on the left. Our condition deafens our left ear.

When we later discuss hemispheric synchronization, we learn that our cerebrum consists of two hemispheres. Our left hemisphere is the hub of logic, analysis, and rationality. While the right is the seat of creativity, imagination, and intuition. Before recovery, our actions are driven by emotions. Our right hemisphere overwhelms the left, leading us to make judgments and decisions based on our feelings rather than evidence.

Like salmon, we swim against the current.

Even when the logical choice is clear, SAD steers us in the opposite direction. It operates in its own ‘Bizarro’ world, where the rules of logic and reason are turned upside down. What appears right is usually wrong, and what makes sense is nonsensical.

While traditional recovery programs may be effective for most mental health conditions, social anxiety requires a distinct and specialized approach from someone who has journeyed with social anxiety and reached the destination of recovery. I understand social anxiety intimately. I’ve been there, experienced it, and have the T-shirt to show for it.

I’m here to tell you that there is a way out of this darkness. An escape from the sewer you find yourselves in. Recovery is a reality. However, contrary to some well-intentioned misinformation, there is no absolute cure for social anxiety disorder. But there is dramatic mitigation of its symptoms. Someone may have told you otherwise, or you may have read Internet success stories, but there is no magic pill.

Some experts claim pharmaceuticals cure our condition, but drugs are short-term solutions. Contrary to popular thought, medication does not permanently change brain chemistry.

Negative thoughts and behaviors have inundated our neural network since childhood. They are an integral part of who we are and the makeup of our personality. Recovery does not erase our past, memories, or experiences. That would require a lobotomy.

Recovery provides us with new, positive perspectives, but we cannot dismiss decades of negative self-appraisal. And that’s a blessing because these memories and experiences make us more aware and compassionate human beings.

Ultimately, it’s a fundamental choice. Are you content with who you are now, or do you aspire to change for the better? Do you choose to be miserable or to be happy? The power to make this choice is in your hands. Choose self-satisfaction, choose happiness. Don’t fall for SAD games. Choose recovery.

In the words of John Greenleaf Whittier. “Of all sad words of tongue or pen, the saddest are these, “It might have been.”

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WHY IS YOUR SUPPORT SO NECESSARY AND ESSENTIAL?  ReChanneling develops and implements programs to (1) mitigate symptoms of social anxiety and related conditions and (2) pursue personal goals and objectives – harnessing our intrinsic aptitude for extraordinary living. Our paradigmatic approach targets the personality through empathy, collaboration, and program integration utilizing neuroscience and psychology including proactive neuroplasticity, cognitive-behavioral modification, positive psychology, and techniques designed to regenerate self-esteem. All donations support scholarships for groups and workshops.   

INDIVIDUAL RECOVERY. The symptoms of social anxiety make it challenging for some to participate in a collective workshop. Dr. Mullen works one-on-one with a select group of individuals uneasy in a group setting. ReChanneling offers scholarships to accommodate the costs. What is absent in group activities is provided in our monthly, no-cost Graduate Recovery Group. In this supportive community, graduates interact with others who have completed the program.  Contact ‘rmullenphd@gmail.com’.        

Committing to recovery is one of the hardest things you will ever do.
It takes enormous courage and the realization that you are of value,
consequential, and deserving of happiness.

Automatic Negative Thoughts: Why We Have Them and How to Alleviate Them

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Social Anxiety and Related Conditions

Robert F Mullen, PhD
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The distinction between social anxiety and social anxiety disorder is in severity. We are not all affected by the same symptoms or relentlessness. The characteristics and traits are equivalent. These conditions originate homogeneously, their trajectories differentiated by environment, experience, and the diversity of human thought and behavior. While comorbidities dramatically benefit, the recovery methods identified are for social anxiety, social phobia, and social anxiety disorder, and reference to one includes the others.

Automatic Negative Thoughts: Why We Have Them and How to Alleviate Them

Excerpts from our upcoming book, A Tough Love, Common Sense Approach to Recovery from Social Anxiety, currently in final editing.

Automatic negative thoughts (ANTs) are the immediate, anxiety-provoking thoughts, emotions, memories, and images that occur when we are triggered during daily events and situations. ANTs reflect unpleasant and self-defeating expressions of our negative self-evaluation, affecting how we see ourselves, think others perceive us, and express these insecurities.

The question is, why are automatic negative thoughts so prevalent in social anxiety, and what can we do to alleviate their effect on our emotional well-being?

Our Neural Network

Our neural network, a complex system of interconnected nerve cells, circuits, and pathways, has the remarkable ability to adapt and change. This means we can continuously process information and respond favorably to our experiences, mitigating our self-sabotaging.

Social anxiety traps us in a cycle of fear and anxiety, hindering us from leading a normal life. We avoid opportunities to connect with others and the world around us. We are unduly conscious about how others perceive us and how we express that information.

Over the years, the metabolism of our brain has been inundated with an overabundance of adverse stimuli, but this does not mean we are destined to be trapped in a cycle of anxiety.

Despite its peculiar tendency to make traditional recovery efforts counterproductive, a robust awareness of the symptoms and traits of our condition provides a framework for reversing the lifelong path of emotional damage.

By examining the underlying causes and responding rationally, we can significantly reduce our social anxiety and create a brighter future.

You may be telling yourself all of that is well and good, but how did we get ourselves in this predicament in the first place? The following breaks down social anxiety’s negative trajectory, revealing how it developed into the irrational thoughts and behaviors we demonstrate daily

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The Trajectory of Our Belief System

Our belief system, which is the foundation of our thoughts, feelings, and behaviors, shapes how we see and interact with the world. They are broken down into three primary, interactive patterns: core beliefs, intermediate beliefs, and automatic thoughts.

Core Beliefs

Core beliefs are our most deeply held attitudes about ourselves and others, shaped by our childhood caregivers, environment, and experiences. Attitudes are our initial ways of thinking and feeling about someone or something, and how we express those mental and emotional beliefs.

When we decline to question our core beliefs, we accept them as facts, ignoring evidence that contradicts them. Thus, we create or interpret situations that reinforce these beliefs. While deeply rooted and formed early in life, core beliefs are malleable, influenced by our intermediate beliefs. This flexibility of beliefs encourages an open-minded and receptive approach to change, as it means we can challenge and alter our core beliefs with new experiences and evidence.

Intermediate Beliefs

Intermediate beliefs act as a bridge between our core beliefs and automatic thoughts. Unlike core beliefs, they become more flexible through the acquisition of knowledge and awareness generated by further thought, experience, and the senses. Our intermediate beliefs profoundly influence our attitudes, rules, and assumptions.

Our attitudes are how our feelings, beliefs, and actions define our general evaluations of people, things, and concepts. Rules are guidelines or principles we believe must be followed to support our beliefs and actions.

Assumptions are the decisions defined by our rules. We accept these assumptions as accurate, but they are just subjective assessments of life developed by our attitudes, rules, and assumptions.

Our intermediate beliefs are the conduit to our automatic thoughts. Our trajectory from negative core and intermediate beliefs to the manifestation of our social anxiety adversely impacts the thoughts and behaviors we carry with us in social and performance situations.

Automatic Thoughts

As described, automatic thoughts, those quick, involuntary mental or emotional responses to triggers in our environment, are heavily influenced by our intermediate beliefs. These beliefs, which are shaped by our experiences, play a significant role in how we perceive ourselves and the world around us.

Our automatic negative thoughts (ANTs) sustained by our social anxiety define our adverse automatic feelings and emotions.

Emotions are our automatic neurological responses to stimuli, and feelings are our unconscious interpretations of those emotions. It’s crucial to actively recognize and examine the feelings that arise from an emotion. This awareness is a vital part of engaging with our mental processes and understanding the triggers of our automatic negative thoughts.

Understanding the core and intermediate beliefs behind our automatic thoughts is a powerful tool. For instance, if we were often chosen last for high school events, we might develop the intermediate belief that we are unlikable and incapable, rooted in a core belief of insignificance. Conversely, if were are the captain of the popular girls’ volleyball team, our automatic thought might be, ‘I am talented and popular.’

  • Core Beliefs
  • Intermediate Beliefs
  • Automatic Thoughts
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The Trajectory of Our Social Anxiety

Now that we’ve explained the evolution of our belief system, let’s explore the predictable, negative trajectory of our social anxiety. It starts with childhood disturbance.

Childhood Disturbance

We’ve discussed how childhood disturbance interferes with our optimal physical, cognitive, emotional, or social development. Stemming primarily from poor parental rearing (although environment and genetics may play a part), the disturbance fosters core beliefs such as abandonment, neglect, expendability, and inadequacy.

The disturbance may be a one-time occurrence or a series of events. It may be accidental or intentional, real or imagined. It is not the fault of the child, yet it greatly significantly influences our core beliefs, making the two mutually interactive.

  • Core Beliefs
  • Childhood Disturbance
  • Negative Core Beliefs
  • Negative Intermediate Beliefs
  • Automatic Negative Thoughts

SAD Onset

Social anxiety disorder commonly emerges during adolescence, typically around age thirteen, but it can also surface later in life. This delayed onset can sometimes lead individuals to believe they didn’t have social anxiety until their later years. However, the susceptibility to SAD ostensibly begins with childhood disturbance and manifests during early adolescence.

As I recall, I was fearless as an eleven-year-old, visiting the alleys and tenements of Skid Row searching for my father until I found him in a room with a dirty sink and no toilet. My social anxiety seemed to take hold in the summer before high school when I was thirteen, which supports the statistics.

The development of intermediate beliefs extends roughly from childhood through adolescence (roughly ages three through eighteen). Therefore, placing SAD onset between negative core beliefs and negative intermediate beliefs is not fully accurate, but reasonable.

  • Core Beliefs
  • Childhood Disturbance
  • Negative Core Beliefs
  • SAD Onset
  • Negative Intermediate Beliefs
  • Automatic Negative Thoughts

Situations

We understand a situation as a specific set of circumstances, including the facts, conditions, and events that affect us at a particular time and place. Our focus is on fear situations where we anticipate specific anxieties and worries will surface. These can vary widely and include social events, classroom settings, public swimming pools, beauty salons, and other common triggers for anxiety.

Each fear situation is as unique and subjective as the individuals experiencing it. By understanding these fear situations, we can better prepare for them.

Anticipated situations are those we know in advance will trigger our fears and anxieties. They may be one-time events, like a job interview or social gathering, or recurring events, such as a weekly class or everyday work setting.

Unexpected situations can catch us off guard, involving stress-inducing incidents such as a plumbing problem, an unanticipated guest, or losing a wallet.

By distinguishing between these two types of situations, we can better prepare ourselves to handle either scenario. For expected situations, we can strategize ahead of time to address our potential threats. This preparedness is a key tool in managing fear.

For unexpected situations, creating an emergency preparedness kit with practiced coping mechanisms is a practical reassurance.

To identify our expected fear situations, we ask ourselves several questions: Where are we when we feel anxious or fearful? What activities are we doing, and what thoughts might come up? What specific parts of the situation do we perceive as problematic? How do we feel physically, mentally, emotionally, and socially? What worries or concerns challenge us? What’s the worst outcome we believe could happen? What might we imagine could occur? Who or what do we avoid because of these feelings?

The situations that provoke our fears and anxieties obviously precede our automatic negative thoughts, and we have placed them appropriately on our chart.

  • Core Beliefs
  • Childhood Disturbance
  • Negative Core Beliefs
  • SAD Onset
  • Negative Intermediate Beliefs
  • Situation
  • Automatic Negative Thoughts

Triggers

A trigger is a psychological stimulus that evokes distressful feelings or memories and prompts an adverse emotional reaction or behavior. These triggers often originate from past experiences, incidents, observations, memories, images, and the behaviors of others.

It’s essential to acknowledge that even sensory reminders of a disturbance or traumatic event – such as sound, sight, smell, taste, or physical sensation – can trigger reactions, underscoring the profound impact of our past on our present responses.

For example, consider our toddler, Laura, from Chapter One, who developed core beliefs of insignificance and undesirability due to a lack of emotional support from her parents.

Years later, Laura’s difficulty making friends during high school lends credibility to her core and intermediate beliefs. Laura’s negative self-assessment is automatically triggered when a friend rejects her at a social event. She is consumed by automatic negative thoughts about her attractiveness and self-worth.

Automatic Negative Thoughts: Why We Have Them and How to Alleviate Them

It’s important to recognize that automatic negative thinking is a common response to social anxiety and does not indicate personal weakness.

Automatic Negative Thoughts

As we defined at the beginning of this chapter, automatic negative thoughts (ANTs) are the immediate, anxiety-provoking thoughts, emotions, memories, and images that arise when we are triggered during everyday events and situations.

ANTs reflect unpleasant and self-defeating expressions of our negative self-appraisal, influencing how we view ourselves, think others perceive us, and how we express these insecurities.

These thoughts are irrational, self-defeating, and originate from our negative core beliefs, which are sustained by intermediate negative beliefs and our condition.

Fortunately, these self-sabotaging thinking patterns are not set in stone and can be replaced with self-affirming, productive thoughts that we actively develop during recovery, leading to a significant improvement in our emotional well-being.

Solutions

Triggers lead to the activation of our automatic negative thoughts (ANTs). Once we have a basic understanding of these triggers and the ANTs they generate, we can explore solutions.

Coping mechanisms are learned psychological tools and techniques that reduce anxiety and discomfort during stressful situations. These can be traditional or non-traditional methods to counteract our triggers, automatic negative thoughts, and behaviors that harm our emotional well-being.

These can include deep breathing exercises, mindfulness techniques, or even engaging in a favorite hobby. As we progress, we will learn to identify and practice situationally effective coping mechanisms in simulated and real-world conditions.

There are many coping mechanisms to choose from. Some will be personally effective and others will not. Some may work only once or in specific situations. We practice, analyze, and determine which mechanisms prove most subjectively effective, ensuring that each individual’s unique needs are met.

Our automatic negative thoughts are emotional reactions rooted in our negative core and intermediate beliefs, as well as the self-defeating symptoms of our condition. But we are not powerless against these ANTs. Understanding them and challenging them with reason and objectivity enables us to regain control over our thoughts and behaviors, fostering a sense of empowerment and capability.

The three most powerful coping mechanisms include grounding, which is focusing on our physical presence in the present moment to redirect anxiety; reframing, where we consciously and spontaneously choose a positive perspective over negative stimuli; and rational coping statements.

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Rational Coping Statements

A rational coping statement is a logical, self-affirming response to automatic negative thoughts, intrusive thoughts, and other irrational or destructive self-assessments that threaten our emotional health. Once again, automatic negative thoughts are the immediate, involuntary, anxiety-provoking statements provoked by the thoughts, emotions, memories, and images that manifest when we are triggered.

For example, if we fear being criticized in a social setting, our intermediate thoughts might include, ‘I will be rejected,’ or ‘No one will talk to me.’ When triggered, these fears generate automatic negative thoughts, such as ‘I don’t belong here’ and ‘I am unwelcome.’

Remember, ANTs can be triggered by thoughts, emotions, memories, images, and sensory recall, but they stem from our core beliefs—like abandonment or detachment—that are reinforced by our negative intermediate beliefs.

It is crucial to recognize that our ANTs are not based on facts but on assumptions. An assumption is something we believe is true or likely to happen, but we have no proof (unless we’re mind readers or fortune tellers). Recognizing this can bring relief, as it reminds us that assumptions are generally inaccurate.

The ANTs, ‘I don’t belong here’ and ‘I am unwelcome’ are assumptions. We can effectively fight these assumptions by responding with rational coping statements. These statements, such as ‘I have every right to be here,’ or ‘I am deserving of acceptance and belonging,’ Are not just words. They are powerful tools that affirm our worth and dispel false beliefs, putting us back in control of our thoughts and emotions.

Remember, our anxieties are not real. They feel real but are intangible. Anxiety is an abstract idea; it has no power of its own. We create and nurture it, giving it strength and influence. This understanding puts us in the driver’s seat, reminding us that we are in control; anxiety is just a false projection that we can dismiss. It is a subjective, illogical projection, and we have the power to change it.

Devising Rational Coping Statements

First, we identify the situations that trigger our fears. Where do we feel anxious or scared? What activities are we involved in? What thoughts come up? Is it a networking event, speaking in front of a class, a social outing, a family dinner, or being in a public swimming pool? Everyone is different.

Next, we unpack the fears or anxieties associated with the situational triggers. What exactly is problematic? How do we feel physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually? What worries do we have? What’s the worst that could happen? What do we imagine might occur? Who or what do we avoid because of these feelings? What is being said or inferred?

From there, we unmask our corresponding ANTs. What negative messages do we tell ourselves when triggered? How do we express them? What involuntary emotional images or expressions do we experience? How do we negatively view ourselves during these moments?

Remember, our automatic negative thoughts are the immediate, involuntary, anxiety-provoking statements provoked by the thoughts, emotions, memories, and images that manifest when we are triggered. Statements such as ‘No one will talk to me,’ ‘I am unattractive,’ or ‘I will say something stupid.’

After thoroughly examining and analyzing our fear situations, triggers, associated fears, and corresponding ANTs, we generate rational coping statements.  We know our fears and ANTs are irrational reflections of our negative self-appraisal. By examining and analyzing the reasons behind them, we view them in the context of the situation. Are they practical? Are they real or false assumptions? How would a confident, self-assured individual respond to them?

With this information, we devise rational coping statements to counteract or alleviate our ANTs.

Eventually, we will expose ourselves to our fear situations by confronting our associated anxieties and corresponding ANTs in real life. This exposure occurs after a suitable period of graded exposure – usually in a workshop or therapeutic environment – which involves gradually increasing the intensity of the fear situation to establish a comfort zone and familiarity with the prescribed tools and techniques.

Steps to Devising Rational Coping Statements

  1. Identify Our Fear Situation
  2. Unpack Our Associated Fear(s)
  3. Unmask Our Corresponding ANT(s)
  4. Analyze Our Associated Fear(s) and Corresponding ANT(s)
  5. Generate Rational Coping Statements

Intrusive Thoughts

Not all thoughts are caused by specific situations or unexpected events. Intrusive thoughts are unpleasant thoughts, memories, or images that suddenly come into our minds without any clear reason. They tend to be strange, disturbing, repetitive, and difficult to dismiss.

While they can be linked to stressful situations, we differentiate intrusive thoughts from automatic negative thoughts, which are responses to specific situations, because intrusive thoughts appear out of nowhere, usually without identifiable triggers.

It’s important to remember that intrusive thoughts are common. They often produce disturbing and offensive images, such as violence, sexual explicitness, or socially inappropriate behavior. These are not reflections of our true selves, but rather dark fantasies that most of us have entertained at some point.

Some common examples of intrusive thoughts include thoughts of suddenly swerving your car into a crowd of people. Or tossing a brick through a store window at a rude salesclerk. Maybe we fantasize about shoplifting to see if we can get away with it. Or cheating on our significant other who has been dismissive.

It’s normal to experience intermittent intrusive thoughts. However, some can be especially difficult to manage. These might be repetitive thoughts that keep us awake at night. Or violent images that we can’t seem to shake off.

The unwanted and unexpected nature of intrusive thoughts sets them apart from other thoughts, worries, ruminations, or desires. These disturbing thoughts are often so opposite to our character and wishes that they can cause distress or disgust when we have them.

Other Negative Influences on Our Thinking

People experiencing social anxiety often cling to information that confirms their negative self-view while ignoring evidence that contradicts those beliefs. This behavior leads to cognitive biases—unconscious errors in thinking that distort how we perceive information, ultimately affecting the accuracy of our perceptions and decisions.

Adding to this problem is our inherent negativity bias. Humans are biologically predisposed to notice, react to, and remember negative stimuli more easily than positive ones. This tendency can worsen the symptoms of our condition.

We often expect the worst-case scenarios, anticipate criticism, fear ridicule and rejection, worry about embarrassing ourselves, and imagine undesirable outcomes. This pattern can create self-fulfilling prophecies, supported by behaviors that turn our negative predictions into reality.

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Neuroplasticity and Positive Behavioral Change

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What is the role of neuroplasticity in positive behavioral change? It is to access and utilize both hemispheres of the brain to accelerate and consolidate learning. I am a radical behaviorist. What does that mean? Radical behaviorism not only considers observable behaviors but also the diversity of human thought and experience. That calls for a collaboration of science, philosophy, and psychology. And philosophy, existentially defined, welcomes religious and spiritual insight. All this information requires full implementation of our neural network.

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The definition of recovery is regaining possession or control of something stolen or lost. Self-empowerment is making a conscious decision to become stronger and more confident in controlling our lives. In neuroses such as anxiety, depression, and comorbidities, what has been stolen or lost is our emotional well-being and quality of life. In self-empowerment, it is the loss of self-esteem and motivation. So, both recovery and self-empowerment deal with regaining what has been lost. And both are supported by neuroplasticity.

If there is an underlying theme in recovery, it is that we are not defined by our disorder, but by our character strengths, virtues, attributes and achievements.

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Neuroplasticity

Plasticity is the quality of being easily shaped or molded. Neuroplasticity is our brain’s constant adaptation and restructuring to information.  

Before 1960, researchers thought that neurogenesis, or the creation of new neurons, stopped after birth. Today, science recognizes that our neural network is dynamic and malleable – realigning its pathways and rebuilding its circuits in response to information.

What is information? Thought, experience, phenomena, sensation, sights, sounds, smells, tactile impressions – anything and everything that impacts our neural network. Our wonderful brain never stops learning and unlearning. Absent that, we would be incapable of replacing unhealthy behaviors with productive ones.

What is significant is our ability to dramatically accelerate and consolidate learning by compelling our brain to repattern its neural circuitry. Our neural network is structured around negative information. The primary objective in recovery and self-empowerment is replacing or overwhelming that negative information with positive neural input.

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Three Forms of Neuroplasticity

Human neuroplasticity comes in three forms. The two that concern us are active and proactive. Reactive neuroplasticity is our brain’s natural response to things over which we have limited to no control – stimuli we absorb but do not initiate or focus on. Our neural network automatically restructures itself to what happens around us.

Active neuroplasticity is cognitive pursuits like teaching, aerobics, journaling, and creating. We control this aspect of neuroplasticity because we consciously choose the activity. An important component of active neuroplasticity is ethical and compassionate social behavior. We’ll expand on that shortly.

The third form is proactive neuroplasticity – the deliberate, repetitive, neural input of information called DRNI. It is the most effective means of accelerating and consolidating learning and unlearning.

Both active and proactive neuroplasticity empower us to transform our thoughts and behaviors, creating healthy NEW mindsets, skills, and abilities. Through informed and deliberate engagement, we compel change rather than reacting to it. 

What does all this mean?  It confirms that our psychological health is self-determined. We control our emotional well–being. Now bad things happen, much of which we have limited to no control over. We are impacted by outside forces: life experiences, physical deterioration, hostilities, the quirks of nature. Psychological well–being means how we react to things is self–determined. How we respond to adversity as well as fortune and prosperity

Trajectory of Negative Self-Beliefs

So, where does all this negative information come from? What are its origins and trajectory? Why are our neural networks so clogged with harmful, growth-impeding information? 

It starts with our core beliefs. Core beliefs are the deeply held convictions that determine how we see ourselves in the world. We form them during childhood in response to information and experiences, and by accepting what we are told as true. Core beliefs can remain our belief system throughout life unless challenged.

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Childhood Disturbance

Cumulative evidence that a toxic childhood is a primary causal factor in emotional instability or insecurity has been well established. During the development of our core beliefs, we are subject to a childhood disturbance – a broad and generic term for anything that interferes with our optimal physical, cognitive, emotional, or social development.

Disturbances are ubiquitous –  they happen to all of us. What differentiates us is how we react or respond to the disturbance – our susceptibility and vulnerability. Any number of things can precipitate childhood disturbance. Our parents are controlling or don’t provide emotional validation. Perhaps we are subject to sibling rivalry or a broken home. It is important to recognize, the disturbance may be real or imagined, intentional or accidental.

I give the example of the toddler, whose parental quality time is interrupted by a phone call. That seemingly insignificant event can foster in the child a sense of abandonment, which can then generate feelings of unworthiness and insignificance. We are not accountable for childhood disturbance or subsequent behaviors. As we mature, we are responsible for addressing our destructive behaviors, but we are not accountable for their origins. It’s important to remain mindful of that.

Negative Core Beliefs

Feelings of detachment, neglect, exploitation are common consequences of childhood disturbance, and they generate negative core beliefs so rigid, we refuse to question them, and ignore evidence that contradicts them. This establishes what is called a cognitive bias – a subconscious error in our thinking that leads us to misinterpret information, questioning the accuracy of our perspectives and decisions. This is why we have such societal divisiveness. We don’t challenge our hard-core beliefs.

Intermediate Beliefs

The confluence of childhood disturbance and negative core beliefs impacts our intermediate beliefs, the next phase of our psychological development. Intermediate beliefs establish our attitudes, rules, and assumptions. Attitudes refer to our emotions, convictions, and behaviors. Rules are the principles or regulations or moral interpretations that influence our behaviors. Our assumptions are what we believe to be true or real. These intermediate beliefs, of course, are influenced by our social, cultural, and environmental experiences.

Let me emphasize, that none of this negative trajectory is extraordinary. It is a natural progression common to all of us. Our unique personalities and experiences determine our susceptibility to it and the severity of its impact.

Self-Esteem

This accumulation of negative core and intermediate self-beliefs impacts the development of our self-esteem. Self-esteem, loosely defined, is a complex interrelationship between how we think about ourselves, how we think others think about us, and how we process and present that information.

We are social beings, driven by a fundamental human need for intimacy and interpersonal exchange. Human interconnectedness is necessary for our mental and physical health. Low levels of self-esteem jeopardize our social competency and impact our motivation to recover and pursue certain goals and objectives, to self-empower.

We also have an inherent negative bias, similar to our cognitive bias, which compels us to focus more on negative experiences than positive ones. When we lie in bed reminiscing about experiences, it’s usually about bad ones. Add to our accumulation of negativity are the experiences of life – outside forces over which we have little to no control. Hostility, divisiveness, illness, social media. The long and short of it, our brains are structured around an overabundance of negative information. Proactive and active neuroplasticity counter that negativity with positive neural input. That is their role.

Let’s briefly talk about what goes on [in our brain] with active and proactive neuroplasticity. Neurons are the core components of our brain and central nervous system. They convey information through electrical impulses or energy. Whether that energy is positive or negative depends upon the integrity of our information. Our brain receives around two million bits of data per second but is capable of processing roughly 126 bits, so it is important to provide substantial and incorrupt information. 

Neural Trajectory of Information

Information alerts or sparks a receptor neuron that algorithmically converts it into electrical impulse energy which forwards that energy to a sensory neuron that stimulates presynaptic or transmitter neurons that pass that energy to postsynaptic or receiving neurons that then forward that energy to millions of participating neurons, causing a cellular chain reaction in multiple interconnected areas of our brain. Confusing? Absolutely.

Here’s an easy way to visualize it.

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Neural Benefits

Neurons don’t act by themselves but through circuits that strengthen or weaken their connections based on our information. Like muscles, the more repetitions, the more robust the energy of the information, and the stronger the circuits.

In addition to positively restructuring our neural network, proactive and active neuroplasticity trigger what is called long-term potentiation. Neurons repeatedly stimulate succeeding neurons sometimes for weeks on end. This strengthens the nerve impulses along the connecting pathways, generating more energy and more neural chain reactions.

They produce higher levels of BDNF (brain-derived neurotrophic factors) – proteins associated with improved cognitive functioning, mental health, memory, and concentration.

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The positive energy of our information is picked up by millions of neurons that amplify the impulse (or energy or activity) on a massive scale. Positive information in, positive energy reciprocated in abundance. Conversely, negative information in, negative energy reciprocated in abundance. Thus the significance of positive reinforcement.

Chemical Hormones

When the activity of the connecting pathways is heightened, the natural neurotransmission of chemical hormones accelerates, releasing cognitive and physiological support. GABA for relaxation, dopamine for pleasure and motivation, endorphins to boost our self–esteem, and serotonin for a sense of well-being.

Acetylcholine supports neuroplasticity, glutamate enhances our memory, and noradrenaline improves concentration. 

Chemical Hormones Social Anxiety

Those are the highlights. Scientists have identified over fifty chemical hormones in the human body. Every input or bit of information or data accelerates and consolidates the neurotransmission of these hormones. 

Unfortunately, as physics would have it, we receive these same neural benefits whether our information is positive or negative. All information is rewarded by restructuring, long–term potentiation, BDNF, reciprocation, and supportive hormones. The same neural responses are activated. That’s one of the reasons breaking a habit, keeping to a resolution, or mitigating our behaviors is challenging. O

ur brain acclimates to whatever we input and every time we repeat a destructive behavior or a bad habit, our neural circuits adapt and reward us. Thus, the importance of the integrity of our information.

Physiological Aversity to Change

We are already physiologically averse to change. Our bodies and brains are structured to attack anything that disrupts their equilibrium. A new diet or exercise regimen produces uncomfortable, physiological changes in our heart rate, metabolism, and respiration. Inertia senses and resists these changes, and our basal ganglia – the group of nuclei responsible for our emotional behaviors and habit formation –  resist any modification in our patterns of behavior. Thus, habits like smoking, gambling, or gossiping are hard to break, and new undertakings like recovery, improvement, and self-empowerment, are challenging to maintain. 

We inherently desire to be better persons and to contribute to others and society. But we are entrenched with negative self-beliefs. We have tried everything to overcome our condition and achieved less than desired results, which makes us feel incompetent and worthless, generating an overriding sense of futility. 

We beat ourselves up daily for our perceptual inadequacies. Our inherent negative bias causes us to store information consistent with our negative beliefs and image. Psychology still focuses on what’s wrong with us. We consume ourselves with our problems instead of celebrating our achievements, and we constantly look for ways to justify or support our thoughts and behaviors. We blame ourselves for our defects as if they are the pervading forces of our true being, rather than celebrate our character strengths, virtues, attributes, and achievements. 

Additional Negative Influx

We are consumed and conditioned by negative words. By the age of sixteen, we have heard the word no from our parents, roughly, 135,000 times. That’s a statistic and we take statistics with a large grain of salt but, you get the drift.  Some of us use the same unfortunate words over and over again. The more we hear, read, or speak a word or phrase, the more power it has over us. Our brain learns through repetition.

It is not just the words we say aloud in criticism and conversations. The self-annihilating words we silently call ourselves convince us we are helpless, hopeless, undesirable, and worthless – the four horsemen of emotional dysfunction. They cause our neural network to transmit chemical hormones that impair our logic, reasoning, and communication, impacting the parts of our brain that regulate our memory, concentration, and emotions.

Our neural network is replete with toxic information.

Proactive Neuroplasticity

Proactive neuroplasticity is initiated by DRNI – the deliberate, repetitive, neural input of information. What is this information? It is self-motivating and empowering statements that help us focus on our goals, challenge negative, self-defeating beliefs, and reprogram our subconscious minds. Individually focused statements that we repeat to ourselves to describe what and who we want to be. Think of them as aspirations or self-fulfilling prophecies. We incorporate them into positive personal affirmations and rational responses to our negative self-beliefs.

  • I belong here.
  • I am valuable and significant.
  • I am confident and self–assured.
  • I am strong and resilient.
  • I am worthy of success and abundance.

Neural Information

We drastically underestimate the significance and effectiveness of these self-affirming statements when we do not understand the science behind them. Practicing positive personal affirmations and rational responses dramatically accelerate and consolidate the positive restructuring of our neural network and we experience a perceptible change in our thoughts, behaviors, and outlook on life. 

It is the integrity of the information that compels the algorithmic conversion into positive electrical impulse or energy. Information of integrity is honest, unconditional, sound, and of strong moral principles. We have established certain criteria so that our neural network will recognize the integrity of our information and restructure accordingly. Our information is rational, reasonable, possible, positive, goal–focused, unconditional, and first–person present or future time. Again, we recognize that actual wording is not as important as its integrity, but it is better emotionally if we are secure in our intent.

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Information Criteria

  • Rational. The only logical recourse to irrational thought. 
  • Reasonable. Unreasonable aspirations get us nowhere. It’s unreasonable to expect a grammy for song of the year if we’re tone-deaf.
  • Possible. If we are incapable of achieving our goal, it is ridiculous to pursue it. 
  • Positive. Negative information is counterproductive to positive neural restructuring. 
  • Goal-focused. If we do not know our destination, we will not recognize it when we arrive. 
  • Unconditional. Our commitment must be certain. The affirmation, I will give up drinking – when my wife is in the room, defeats the purpose.
  • First-person present or future. The past is irrevocable so let’s concentrate on what we have control over.
  • Brief. Succinct and easily memorized. Our personal affirmations are mantras; they evolve. We change them according to need and circumstance.

Let’s talk about how proactive and active neuroplasticity support each other and how their collaboration advances our goal. While proactive neuroplasticity accelerates neural restructuring because of our deliberate, repetitive, neural input, incorporating both active and proactive neuroplasticity consolidates the process. It reinforces and strengthens our efforts. DRNI is a mental process designed to initiate the rapid, concentrated, neurological stimulation that transmits the electrical energy. It is proactive because we construct the information prior to utilizing it.

However, we are more than mere mental organisms. We are also emotional, social, and spiritual beings. Neglecting these human components is limiting and irrational. Mind, body, spirit, social, and emotions are the gestalt of our humanness. Proactive neuroplasticity is a mental exercise.

Active Neuroplasticity

Active neuroplasticity taps into the emotional, the social, and the spiritual. Beyond healthy activities like yoga, journaling, creating, and listening to music, is our ethical and compassionate social behavior. Altruistic contributions to society are extraordinary assets to neural restructuring. The value of volunteering – providing support, empathy, and concern for those in need, random acts of kindness – is extraordinary, not only in promoting positive behavioral change but in enhancing the integrity of our information. The social interconnectedness established by caring and compassion supports the regeneration of our self-esteem and self-appreciation.

Brain Hemispheres | Proactive Neuroplasticity VS Active Neuroplasticity

One more rather mundane reason we turn to active neuroplasticity. DRNI requires a calculated regimen of deliberate, repetitive, neural information that is not only tedious but also fails to deliver immediate tangible results, causing us to readily concede defeat and abandon hope in this era of instant gratification. I can tell you from experience, it is challenging to maintain the rigorous process demanded of DRNI – the tedious repetition. Tedium generates avoidance, and we know how difficult it is to establish and maintain new habits. Active neuroplasticity fills any gaps and brings our entire being into play.

In Closing

Proactive and active neuroplasticity are formidable tools in neural restructuring and the corresponding positive transformation of our thoughts, behaviors, and perspectives. Recovery and self-empowerment are achieved through a collaboration of targeted approaches that compel the rediscovery and self-appreciation of our character strengths, virtues, and attributes. While the realignment of our neural network is the framework for recovery and self–empowerment, a coalescence of science and east-west psychologies is essential to capture the diversity of human thought and experience. 

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INDIVIDUAL RECOVERY. The symptoms of social anxiety make it challenging for some to participate in a collective workshop. Dr. Mullen works one-on-one with a select group of individuals uneasy in a group setting. ReChanneling offers scholarships to accommodate the costs. What is absent in group activities is provided in our monthly, no-cost Graduate Recovery Group. In this supportive community, graduates interact with others who have completed the program.  Contact ‘rmullenphd@gmail.com’.        

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It takes enormous courage and the realization that you are of value,
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Subscribers’ Monthly Newsletter #6

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September 15, 2025

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Dear Subscribers, you are the backbone, heart, and soul of our organization. Your encouragement, wisdom, and support have been priceless to our growth and progress. We continue to build a meaningful and engaging relationship with those who need us and support us. The newsletter acts as a platform for your thoughts and contributions, showcasing your participation.

There is no newsletter for September. I am currently overwhelmed with refining the book and handling weekly edits for a tentative submission scheduled for the end of November. I am still negotiating with several publishers. Including Fulton Books, Palmetto, and McGilligan.

I will continue to publish our weekly article on the ReChanneling website but have postponed any additional recovery workshops until 2026. Of course, I continue my work with my long-term clients and am always available to assist you with any issues or consultation at ‘rmullenphd@gmail.com’.

Additionally, much of my internet information was hacked last week. Which required a flurry of setting new passwords and replacing a number of credit cards. Luckily, I keep most of my password info on a separate portable flash drive. However, some older info was still on Google Password without 2-step verification and/or Authenticator. It was Google Password that was hacked. Word of advice, use Google Password for inconsequential passwords, but keep important information on a separate portable, removable flash drive.

Thank you for your patience and understanding. Have a great month.

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Cognitive Reframing our Social Anxiety

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The distinction between social anxiety and social anxiety disorder is in severity. We are not all affected by the same symptoms or relentlessness. The characteristics and traits are equivalent. These conditions originate homogeneously, their trajectories differentiated by environment, experience, and the diversity of human thought and behavior. While comorbidities dramatically benefit, the recovery methods identified are for social anxiety and social anxiety disorder, and reference to one includes the other.

Cognitive Reframing Our Social Anxiety

Coping Mechanism

Coping mechanisms are tools that enable us to manage our emotions, alleviate anxiety, and navigate stress. They encompass a wide range of strategies, from learned skills like distractions and visualization to natural responses such as hiking or listening to music.

Cognitive Reframing

A core coping mechanism is cognitive reframing, a CBT tool that helps us identify, challenge, and replace negative or distorted thought patterns with healthier, more life-affirming perspectives. This technique is instrumental in developing a more positive view of ourselves, others, and the world, thereby reducing symptoms of anxiety, depression, and stress.

For instance, if a social event sparks feelings of inadequacy, we reframe it as an opportunity to enhance our social skills, thereby boosting our confidence and self-esteem.

When we recognize our inherent capacity to choose joy and positivity over despondency and self-pity, it becomes the logical and liberating option for emotional well-being.

Positive reframing induces us to transform a negative situation into a positive one. We identify our adversarial circumstance and determine how we choose to experience, react, and respond to it.

Every Situation Offers Multiple Perspectives

Every situation can be perceived through multiple perspectives. While we cannot control everything that happens, we always have the power to choose how we wish to react and respond. Recognizing this power of choice in managing our emotional well-being is crucial to recovery. If we have the option to choose serenity over anxiety, it is illogical not to seize that opportunity.

We reframe a problem or issue as a challenge or opportunity. We defuse an argument by considering the other person’s perspective. During a snowstorm, we can feel trapped and despondent, or we can take out the sleds and ice skates and enjoy the day. Experts agree that reframing is crucial for mental and emotional health.

While it may appear to be a straightforward solution to our self-destructive thoughts and activities, overcoming negative thinking is challenging for someone experiencing social anxiety. Childhood disturbance, negative core and intermediate beliefs, and adverse self-appraisal have rooted themselves in our minds like squatters resisting eviction.

Moreover, because of our condition, we are unduly influenced by discomforting input from external sources, including cynical and false media, adverse public opinion, stigma, and clinical disinformation.

While positive reframing becomes automatic at some point in our recovery journey, learning the necessary skills for effective coping takes time, but practice, repetition, and deliberation accelerate and consolidate the process.

Multiple Strategies

Reframing is not just an abstract commitment to changing every negative thought or situation into a positive one. Multiple strategies support our resolution to approach the negativity of our condition with favorable perspectives.

Through these strategies, we create a more nuanced and balanced perspective that encourages positivity, growth, and resilience. By practicing emotional self-regulation, which involves recognizing and managing our emotions appropriately, we reduce the frequency and severity of recurring negative perspectives and self-appraisal.

In recovery, we don’t resist our fears; we embrace them. Rather than confronting them, which implies hostility, or challenging them, which signals competition, we recognize and accept all facets of our humanness as a part of resolving our issues.

Whether in pre-recovery, where our fears and anxieties run rampant, or in recovery, where we establish governance, our experiences are part of our being—who we were, who we are, and who we have the potential to be. Reframing negative experiences is not just about control; it’s about instilling hope and fostering transformation. It’s about seeing the potential for growth and change in every experience.

Embracing is not acquiescence, resignation, or condoning. Acquiescence is accepting our condition and doing nothing to change it. Condoning is accepting it even though we know it’s detrimental. Resignation is defeatism.

Embracing our condition is accepting who we are –  human beings with character strengths, virtues, attributes, shortcomings, and vulnerabilities. It’s about acknowledging our condition and working towards positive change, rather than allowing it to define us. We embrace our totality, recognizing that our condition is just one aspect of our complex and unique selves.

Social anxiety disorder is ostensibly the most underrated, misunderstood, and misdiagnosed disorder. It sustains itself by compelling irrational thoughts and behaviors. Emotionally, we feel depressed and lonely. Physically, we are subject to trembling, hyperventilation, nausea, fainting, and muscle spasms. Mentally, our thoughts are distorted and illogical. Spiritually, we define ourselves as useless and insignificant.

Because of shame and guilt, we see ourselves as failures. While we remain governed by our social anxiety disorder, we wallow in the cognitive quartet of helplessness, hopelessness, undesirability, and worthlessness.

Since SAD generally onsets during adolescence, many of us have endured the distress of these negative self-perceptions for decades. Estimates reflect that the majority of us also have depression and are prone to substance abuse.  Recovering from social anxiety is a commitment that SAD will do anything to prevent us from making.

Dr. Mullen is doing impressive work helping the world. He is the
pioneer of proactive neuroplasticity, utilizing DRNI – deliberate,
repetitive, neural information. – WeVoice (Madrid, Málaga)   

Recovery Goal and Objectives

The primary goal of recovery from social anxiety is the moderation of our irrational fears and anxieties. We achieve this process through a three-pronged approach. To:

  1. Replace or overwhelm our negative thoughts and behaviors with healthy, productive ones.
  2. Produce rapid, concentrated positive stimulation to offset the abundance of negative information in our brain’s metabolism.
  3. Regenerate our self-esteem through positive reinforcement and mindfulness of our assets, utilizing methods targeted toward our individuality.

Each activity in the recovery process is a catalyst for transformation – a rigorous and dramatic change in form and nature. Through proactive neuroplasticity, our neural network changes its form and configuration. Thought and behavior self-modification subverts the destructive nature of our negative self-beliefs. Mindfulness of our character strengths, virtues, and attributes regenerates our self-esteem. Hence, our form and nature have changed.

The Metamorphosis of Recovery

The difference between pre-recovery, when we are overwhelmed by our negative beliefs, and in-recovery, whenwe transform our form and nature, is profound. This metamorphosis is evidence of the power of transformation. We are not the same entity.

Mindfulness of our assets compels us to recognize and embrace the extraordinariness of our lives, self-confirming that we are of value, desirable, and consequential.

There is no absolute cure for social anxiety disorder, but recovery dramatically alleviates its symptoms. Reframing them doesn’t erase our past, memories, or experiences; it enhances them with a new positive perspective. Candid self-awareness, a cornerstone of self-esteem, is crucial. If we can’t understand ourselves, flaws and all, we can’t fully understand others.

Benefits of Recovery

As a behaviorist and expert in recovery, I differentiate the millions of people experiencing social anxiety into two distinct groups: static and dynamic. Static SAD individuals are inactive – stuck in their unhappy condition, unable or unwilling to break the bond of emotional malcontent.

On the other hand, dynamic SAD persons are engaged in constant change, activity, and progress, actively seeking ways to manage their social anxiety and improve their lives.

This contrast between the two states, the dynamic and the static, becomes evident as we break free from the cycle of fear and avoidance of social situations. Being a dynamic SAD individual means taking control of our emotional well-being and quality of life by actively seeking ways to manage our social anxiety.

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Characteristics of a Dynamic SAD Person

We lose our sense of hopelessness with a renewed optimism, embracing possibility over inconceivability. We subvert our core sense of helplessness by reanimating our self-reliance and resilience. Our confidence makes us approachable, which mitigates any irrational sense of undesirability.

We rediscover our worth.

This renewed self-awareness, an essential aspect of recovery, opens us to new relationships and opportunities, fostering a more compassionate perspective. This shift in awareness is a powerful tool in our recovery, helping us navigate social situations with greater ease and understanding.

We are curious and adventurous because we are embarking on a journey of discovery. We open our minds to new concepts and tools that guide us through recovery. And we become flexible and adaptable because those are the qualities of someone who fearlessly challenges what lies ahead.

We are creative thinkers because we are now problem solvers. We are risk-takers, ready and willing to do what it takes to heal. And we are energetic and enthusiastic about the change we perceive on the horizon.

A dynamic SAD person is self-empowered to overcome the obstacles that recovery will thrust upon us. We are passionate about transforming our lives.

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WHY IS YOUR SUPPORT SO NECESSARY AND ESSENTIAL?  ReChanneling develops and conducts programs to alleviate the symptoms of social anxiety and help individuals tap into their innate potential for extraordinary living. Our unique approach focuses on understanding personality through empathy and collaboration, integrating neuroscience and psychology. This includes proactive neuroplasticity, cognitive-behavioral modification, positive psychology, and techniques designed to reclaim and rebuild self-esteem. Every contribution, no matter the size, supports individuals striving to make a positive change in their own lives and the lives of others. All donations go towards scholarships for groups and workshops.

INDIVIDUAL RECOVERY. The symptoms of social anxiety make it challenging for some to participate in a collective workshop. Dr. Mullen works one-on-one with a select group of individuals uneasy in a group setting. ReChanneling offers scholarships to accommodate the costs. What is absent in group activities is provided in our monthly Graduate Recovery Group. In this supportive community, graduates interact with others who have completed the program.  Contact ‘rmullenphd@gmail.com’.

Committing to recovery is one of the hardest things you will ever do.
It takes enormous courage and the realization that you are of value, 
consequential, and deserving of happiness.

How Can We Offset Negative Neural Information?

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The distinction between social anxiety and social anxiety disorder is in severity. We are not all affected by the same symptoms or relentlessness. The characteristics and traits are equivalent. These conditions originate homogeneously, their trajectories differentiated by environment, experience, and the diversity of human thought and behavior. While comorbidities dramatically benefit, the recovery methods identified are for social anxiety and social anxiety disorder, and reference to one includes the other.  

How Can We Offset Negative Neural Information?

Our brain’s neural network is inundated with abundant negative information from childhood disturbance, negative core and intermediate beliefs, low self-esteem, negativity bias, and social anxiety – not to mention the constant negativity of world events and life in general.  

Goal and Objectives

The primary goal of recovery from social anxiety is the mitigation of our irrational fears and apprehensions. In self-empowerment, it is the rebuilding of our self-esteem and motivation. We execute these goals through a three-pronged approach.

  1. Replace or overwhelm our negative thoughts and behaviors with healthy, productive ones.
  2. Produce rapid, concentrated positive stimulation to offset the abundance of negative information in our brain’s metabolism.
  3. Reclaim and rebuild our self-esteem and reintegrate into society through recognition and reinforcement of our character strengths, virtues, attributes, and achievements.

Our brain’s metabolism involves the complex chemical and electrical processes that impact our neural circuitry. Our neural network is the biological system of interconnected brain neurons that processes data. 

Positive neurological stimulation changes the polarity of our neural network from toxic to healthy.

The deliberate, repetitive neural input of information (DRNI) accelerates and consolidates the process. Through proactive neuroplasticity, we compel change rather than reacting or responding to it.

The obvious question is: How can a regiment of deliberate neural input – no matter how often we repeat and practice it – offset the abundance of negative information accumulated over decades?  

There are two factors to be mindful of: 

  • Abundance is defined as a larger quantity of something. Negative neural abundance means that our brain has accumulated a larger quantity of negative than positive information. The amount can be offset or overwhelmed with practice and repetition. 
  • Not all accessible information impacts our neural network. Our brain’s metabolism only accumulates registered information.
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Three forms of neuroplasticity:

  1. Reactive neuroplasticity is our brain’s response to accessible information – stimuli we do not initiate or may not register, such as a car alarm, lightning, or the smell of baked goods. Our neural network automatically restructures itself according to what we access. 
  2. Proactive neuroplasticity is our deliberate, repetitive neural input of information.
  3. Active neuroplasticity happens through pursuits like creating, yoga, and journaling.

Information Must Register

For something to register, it must be detected (noticed) and recorded. Obviously, proactive and active neuroplasticity are deliberate actions. We detect and record them because we initiate and control the process.

Our response to the majority of reactive information amassed over the years is nugatory. If the information has no personal relevance, it does not register, i.e., our brain’s metabolism does not detect and record it.

“Dr. Mullen is doing impressive work helping the world. He is the pioneer of proactive neuroplasticity utilizing DRNI – deliberate, repetitive, neural information.” – WeVoice (Madrid, Málaga)   

Our neural network receives around two million bits of data per second but can process roughly 126 bits. If our brain does not register the information, our receptor neurons are not stimulated, and subsequently, nothing is forwarded to participating neurons (pre– and post-synaptic and onward). Proactive and active neuroplasticity are intentional inputs and, therefore, register.  

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WHY IS YOUR SUPPORT SO NECESSARY AND ESSENTIAL?  ReChanneling develops and implements programs to (1) mitigate symptoms of social anxiety and related conditions and (2) pursue personal goals and objectives – harnessing our intrinsic aptitude for extraordinary living. Our paradigmatic approach targets the personality through empathy, collaboration, and program integration utilizing neuroscience and psychology, including proactive neuroplasticity, cognitive-behavioral modification, positive psychology, and techniques designed to regenerate self-esteem. All donations support scholarships for groups and workshops.   

INDIVIDUAL RECOVERY. The symptoms of social anxiety make it challenging for some to participate in a collective workshop. Dr. Mullen works one-on-one with a select group of individuals uneasy in a group setting. ReChanneling offers scholarships to accommodate the costs. What is absent in group activities is provided in our monthly, no-cost Graduate Recovery Group. In this supportive community, graduates interact with others who have completed the program.  Contact ‘rmullenphd@gmail.com’.        

Committing to recovery is one of the hardest things you will ever do.
It takes enormous courage and the realization that you are of value,
consequential, and deserving of happiness.

Devising Rational Coping Statements

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Devising Rational Coping Statements

Coping Mechanisms

Coping mechanisms are tools that enable us to manage our emotions, alleviate anxiety, and navigate stress. They encompass a wide range of strategies, from learned skills like distractions and visualization to natural responses such as hiking or listening to music.

Cognitive coping mechanisms enable us to craft rational responses to irrational thoughts, while behavioral coping mechanisms equip us with the means to adjust our actions.

Among the many coping mechanisms, three stand out for their effectiveness in situations where we anticipate fear—that is, those scheduled in advance that we project will trigger stress and anxiety. These can be single events, such as a job interview or a social gathering, or recurring ones, like a daily or weekly class or work environment.

In contrast, unexpected situations catch us off guard, bringing stress-provoking incidents like a plumbing failure, an unexpected guest, or missing house keys.

Three Effective Coping Mechanisms

The three coping mechanisms are grounding, which involves redirecting our anxiety into present-moment awareness; cognitive reframing, where we consciously choose to see a circumstance in a more positive light; and rational coping statements, which are logical, self-affirming statements aimed at counteracting automatic negative thoughts (ANTs) that arise in fear situations.

Once we have learned and practiced the nuances of cognitive reframing and grounding, we can apply them almost spontaneously, during any fear situation. On the other hand, rational coping statements are most effective when explicitly prepared for an anticipated fear situation.

This writing outlines the process of devising rational coping statements in anticipation of fear-inducing situations. Cognitive reframing and grounding will be covered in the following weeks.

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repetitive, neural information. – WeVoice (Madrid, Málaga)   

Automatic Negative Thoughts

Automatic negative thoughts (ANTs), also called negative automatic thoughts (NATs), are the immediate, involuntary, anxiety-provoking thoughts that pop into our heads when we are in a fear-inducing situation.

ANTs are irrational assumptions rooted in our negative core and intermediate beliefs, as well as the self-defeating symptoms of our condition. For example, automatic negative thinking during a fear situation might include phrases such as, ‘I will be rejected,’ ‘No one will talk to me,’ ‘I don’t belong here,’ and ‘I am not undesirable.’

By challenging these ANTs with reason and positive self-validation, we can regain control and prevent them from dictating our actions. This is the power of rational coping statements.

Rational Coping Statements

Rational coping statements are logical, self-affirming responses to our situational fears, anxieties, and automatic negative thoughts. For instance, if we are afraid of rejection, a rational coping statement might be, ‘I belong here as much as anyone,’ ‘I am valuable and significant,’ or ‘I am approachable and likeable.’

These statements are designed to directly counteract the negative thoughts and feelings provoked by our negative self-appraisal. Essentially, they are provisional, positive personal affirmations designed for anticipated fear situations.

Rational coping statements are accurate, self-affirming responses to our unreasonable, self-defeating thoughts. Remember, our fears and anxieties are not real. They may feel real, but that is a cognitive distortion called emotional reasoning, which involves forming judgments and decisions based solely on our emotions, disregarding evidence to the contrary.

Anxiety is an abstraction; it has no power on its own. We create and feed it, making it real and giving it strength and power.

The first step in managing our ANTs is to recognize that our fears are not based on facts, but assumptions rooted in our past experiences, imagination, and reactions to perceived threats. A horror flick may stimulate our terrors, but they are alleviated once we leave the movie house. The power of our trepidations lies in our acceptance of them as reality rather than perception.  

It’s not the fears that adversely impact our emotional well-being; it’s the things we do to avoid them. Our goal in recovery is to eliminate the anxiety responsible for the expression of the ANT by examining and analyzing its causes. Since the fear is irrational, logic dictates that the corresponding ANT is also. Thoughts such as ‘I don’t belong here’ and ‘I am not welcome’ are subjective projections.

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The following strategy is designed to help us develop rational coping statements to counteract our ANTs.

Steps to Devising Rational Coping Statements

  1. Identify Our Fear Situation
  2. Identify Our Associated Fear(s)
  3. Unmask Our Corresponding ANT(s)
  4. Examine and Analyze the Cause(s) of Our Associated Fear(s) and Corresponding ANT(s)
  5. Generate Rational Coping Statements

Fear Situation

First, we identify the anticipated fear situations that provoke our fears. Where do we feel anxious or fearful? What activities are we engaged in, and what thoughts arise? Is it a networking event, speaking in front of the class, a social engagement, a family dinner, or a trip to the public swimming pool? They’re different for everyone. Most of us have multiple fear situations.

Associated Fears

Next, we unpack the actual fears associated with the fear situation. What is problematic for me during this fear situation? How do I feel (physically, intellectually, emotionally, spiritually)? What activities are we engaging in? What is being said? What’s the worst outcome we project happening? What might occur?

Corresponding ANTs

Then, we unmask our corresponding ANTs. What do we tell ourselves when triggered?  How do we perceive ourselves in these moments? What are our self-defeating responses to these triggers?

Examine and Analyze Our Associated Fears and Corresponding ANTS

We know our fears and ANTs are irrational and self-destructive reflections of our negative self-appraisal. By examining and analyzing the reasons behind them, we view them in the context of the situation. Are they practical? Are they real or false assumptions? How would a confident, self-assured individual respond to them?

Devise Rational Coping Statements

Finally, we devise our rational coping statements. This is a relatively simple process. We respond to our irrational, automatic negative thoughts by devising reasonable, logical, self-supporting, and empowering statements.

Eventually, we will confront our fear situation in real life. This happens once we have resolved and practiced steps 1-5, and after a suitable period of graded exposure. i.e., gradually reducing the intensity of our fears and anxieties in a workshop environment and through external exercises.

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WHY IS YOUR SUPPORT SO NECESSARY AND ESSENTIAL?  ReChanneling develops and conducts programs to alleviate the symptoms of social anxiety and help individuals tap into their innate potential for extraordinary living. Our unique approach focuses on understanding personality through empathy and collaboration, integrating neuroscience and psychology. This includes proactive neuroplasticity, cognitive-behavioral modification, positive psychology, and techniques designed to reclaim and rebuild self-esteem. Every contribution, no matter the size, supports individuals striving to make a positive change in their own lives and the lives of others. All donations go towards scholarships for groups and workshops.

INDIVIDUAL RECOVERY. The symptoms of social anxiety make it challenging for some to participate in a collective workshop. Dr. Mullen works one-on-one with a select group of individuals uneasy in a group setting. ReChanneling offers scholarships to accommodate the costs. What is absent in group activities is provided in our monthly Graduate Recovery Group. In this supportive community, graduates interact with others who have completed the program.  Contact ‘rmullenphd@gmail.com’.

Committing to recovery is one of the hardest things you will ever do.
It takes enormous courage and the realization that you are of value, 
consequential, and deserving of happiness.

Winding Roads: A Profile of Robert F. Mullen

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As many of you know, I have the distinct advantage of experiencing severe social anxiety disorder for the first half of my life, and extensively studying how it impacts each of us, creating recovery options in the second half. This shared experience, combined with my academic studies and practical application, provides a distinctive perspective. Everything I have experienced in my life influences who I am today, and I wouldn’t change or forget any of it.  Experts believe that the most effective analysts and facilitators of recovery from social anxiety are those who have lived in the sewer and escaped to share the path out of it into the light and freedom of emotional well-being. – Robert F. Mullen

Winding Roads: A Profile of Robert F. Mullen

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October 13, 2024
Revised: August 15, 2025

Diverse Paths

The thought that we only have one life to live can be daunting. There’s an idea that we are limited to only one profession and excel in it throughout a lifetime. There are some people, like Dr. Robert F. Mullen, who challenge this concept. He has navigated a diverse career path, from the entertainment industry to corporate negotiations to helping clients who suffer from Social Anxiety Disorder (SAD).

Mullen’s dark eyes light up behind his glasses when he talks about his work with anxiety and depression, discussing the recovery approaches he’s pioneered, which have significantly improved the lives of his clients. His experiences working with students and conducting workshops have been instrumental in shaping his understanding of SAD. One might assume from his graying hair that Mullen has been in this field for his entire adult life, but it was a relatively recent change. He concluded his Ph.D. studies in his early fifties.

Lived Experiences

Dr. Mullen has lived many lives in this one and has found a way to bring his lived experiences together, turning them into a passion for helping others. His dedication and empathy in this field are truly inspiring. 

He took many different paths to get him to where he is today. He spent years working in the entertainment industry – from playwriting and directing to teaching Stanislavski, familiarizing himself with every B-list actor (his words) in Hollywood. As a performer, he earned his Equity card working with James Burrows and Bob Crane at San Diego’s Off-Broadway Theatre, and his SAG membership staring up from the cutting room floor of Report to the Commissioner.

Dr. Mullen is doing impressive work helping the world. He is the pioneer of proactive neuroplasticity, utilizing DRNI – deliberate, repetitive, neural information. – WeVoice (Madrid, Málaga)   

Early Life

Much of this was during what he calls his “delinquent” era, where his stories are better kept secret, credit given to his severe social anxiety disorder. He did, however, have a few stories to share, such as living with Brenda Dickson, star of The Young and the Restless, partying with Sal Mineo, or getting underage drunk at the Insomniac in Hermosa Beach with Caesar and Cleo, later known as Sonny and Cher.

Family

He speaks fondly about this time, but it was also a decade-long period where he distanced himself from his family, leaving behind three young nephews: Brian, Kevin, and Geoff. When asked to identify what prompted his return to the fold, Mullen once stated, “I don’t think anyone knows why they do anything. It’s a whole cacophony of things.”

His return to his family marked a significant turning point in his life, reflecting his growing understanding of the importance of human connection. Now, as a humanist who believes in the inherent potential and capacity of humankind, he has revised his thinking.  

Post Graduate

Dr. Mullen’s lived experiences became better understood in university when he first learned of the existence of social anxiety disorder, recognizing how it had adversely impacted his life since adolescence. Exploring his affliction, which often left him feeling isolated and misunderstood, was a significant hurdle in his personal and professional life. It also fueled his passion for understanding and helping others experiencing similar struggles.

His return to university was, admittedly, due to government support, but his growing interest in psychology, religion, and philosophy soon molded his overriding perspective. With his PhD in tow, Mullen has spent the past fifteen years researching SAD and its comorbidities, pioneering proactive neuroplasticity and other innovative approaches to recovery.

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Neuroplasticity

Neuroplasticity refers to the brain’s ability to reorganize and adapt to new information more quickly and effectively. The deliberate, repetitive neural input (DRNI) of information, a concept he developed, involves consciously and repeatedly exposing the brain to positive, productive thoughts and behaviors to replace the accumulated toxicity in our neural network.

Mullen’s unwavering commitment to scientific inquiry is a cornerstone of his approach. As a radical behaviorist, he considers a wide range of thoughts from philosophy and psychology to spiritual perspectives to gain a deeper understanding of those he serves. 

Career

Mullen’s life is now centered around his work and his passion for helping others. He starts his mornings with writing, finding a sense of purpose and permanency in it. Currently, he is focused on finishing a book about recovery from social anxiety. In addition to writing, He loves everything about working with people, and although it can be challenging at times, he thrives on their growth and transformation.

His personal experiences, having lived through similar situations, allow him to empathize with his clients: “I have been where you are now, and I want to show you that there is a way out. I know the controlling, devious, and manipulative nature of this disorder” (Mullen).

Turning something negative into a positive and productive part of life is an incredible achievement for individuals experiencing social anxiety. 

Influences

While he might not fully understand how his earlier life connects to his current one, Mullen credits many of the people he worked with, including Dr. Edith Eva Eger, who shared stories about dancing as a young girl for the angel of death, Josef Mengele, and John Cleese, a member of Monty Python. Although he is not actively working in television and film, Mullen still enjoys attending the theater and improvisational groups to watch and participate.

As someone who had to learn to value relationships, Dr. Mullen makes sure to stay in contact with his nephews, as he sees each as a personification of his own life. Brian is most like him, a family-oriented workaholic who also overcame a troubled adolescence. Kevin is the compassionate nephew with an enduring zest for life, and Geoff shares Robert’s talent for writing.

The Winding Road

Mullen’s journey is a testament to the idea that life is not a straight path but a series of winding roads, each offering unique lessons and opportunities. His ability to pivot from the entertainment industry to helping others navigate their struggles with social anxiety exemplifies the power of resilience and perseverance.

He shows us that it’s never too late to make a change. and commends those who travel diverse paths to discover their life’s niche. The legacy he leaves behind is rooted in his unwavering dedication to witnessing others find their way out of darkness, a passion for knowledge and exploration, and the belief that we can all make a difference.

Ultimately, Dr. Mullen’s career reflects the understanding that professional trajectories are rarely linear, instead comprising winding paths replete with distinct lessons and possibilities. These lessons include the importance of empathy, the value of diverse perspectives, and the power of resilience. Mullen’s legacy extends beyond individual accomplishments—it embodies his unwavering dedication to helping others, passion for continual learning, and the ability to transform personal challenges into meaningful contributions.

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Madelyn is majoring in communication at San Diego State University. She enjoys reading and rock climbing and aspires to build a career that enables her to make a positive impact on others, although she is still exploring the specific path that she may take.  

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WHY IS YOUR SUPPORT SO NECESSARY AND ESSENTIAL?  ReChanneling develops and conducts programs to alleviate the symptoms of social anxiety and help individuals tap into their innate potential for extraordinary living. Our unique approach focuses on understanding personality through empathy and collaboration, integrating neuroscience and psychology. This includes proactive neuroplasticity, cognitive-behavioral modification, positive psychology, and techniques designed to reclaim and rebuild self-esteem. Every contribution, no matter the size, supports individuals striving to make a positive change in their own lives and the lives of others. All donations go towards scholarships for groups and workshops.

INDIVIDUAL RECOVERY. The symptoms of social anxiety make it challenging for some to participate in a collective workshop. Dr. Mullen works one-on-one with a select group of individuals uneasy in a group setting. ReChanneling offers scholarships to accommodate the costs. What is absent in group activities is provided in our monthly Graduate Recovery Group. In this supportive community, graduates interact with others who have completed the program.  Contact ‘rmullenphd@gmail.com’.              

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