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Anxiety and Depression in the LGBTQ Community

Abstract. Effectively establishing wellness models in mental health demands a fundamental change in language, power dynamics, and perspectives across the mental healthcare community and beyond.

Approximately 65 million U.S. adults and 18.5 million adolescents experience major depression and anxiety. Estimates indicate that 60% of those with anxiety also show depression symptoms, and both conditions often co-occur with substance abuse. The LGBTQ+ community is 1.5 to 2.5 times more likely to experience anxiety and depression than their straight or gender-conforming counterparts. Similar statistics apply to LGBTQ+ individuals with other mental and emotional disorders.

Anxiety and depression are leading causes of the 56% rise in adolescent suicide over the past decade. LGBTQ+ high school students are nearly five times more likely to attempt suicide than their heterosexual peers, and 40% of transgender adults have tried to take their own lives at some point.

Wellness should become the main focus of mental health because the disease model has been very ineffective. Instead of concentrating on disease and weaknesses, wellness models highlight character strengths and virtues that boost motivation, persistence, and perseverance necessary for recovery. Psychological science needs positive application through program integration, thorough evaluation, transparency, and proper information management. Empathy and communication must take precedence over etiology and misdiagnosis.

Wellness influences more than just mental health; it is a framework that also aims to promote complete physical, mental, and social well-being. This paper will demonstrate how the sociological focus of the wellness model on character strengths and attributes not only positively affects the self-beliefs and image of a person with mental illness but also aligns with sexual and gender-based identities and bodes well for the recovery and remission of an LGBTQ+ individual with a mental illness.  

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Introduction

To illustrate the potential impact of the wellness model, this paper focuses on LGBTQ+ individuals with anxiety and depression. “There is an urgent need to develop and disseminate tailored, evidence-based interventions that enhance the health of lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, and queer (LGBTQ) youth. (Wilkerson et al., 2016, p. 358).”

Depression and anxiety are the two most common types of mental health issues affecting millions of U.S. adults who are trapped in a tightly connected cycle of fear and social avoidance. Johns Hopkins (2020) reports that about 25 million U.S. adults have depression, and 45 million experience anxiety. The numbers for adolescents vary between 8 and 18 million (CDC, 2020; NIMH, 2017); the actual figure is unclear.

Data are even less reliable for the LGBTQ+ community because large-scale mental health studies rarely include questions about sexual and gender identity (NAMI, 2020b). “Federally funded surveys only recently have begun to identify sexual minorities in their data collections” (Medley et al., 2020, p. 1). Experts estimate that the infection rate in the LGBTQ+ community is 1.5 to 2.5 times higher “than that of their straight or gender-conforming counterparts” (Brenner, 2019, p. 1).

Depressive illnesses often occur alongside anxiety and substance abuse (Johns Hopkins, 2020). “Some estimates show that 60% of those with anxiety also have symptoms of depression, and the numbers are similar for those with depression who experience anxiety” (Salcedo, 2018, p. 1). Anxiety and depression are major factors in the 56% rise in adolescent suicide over the past decade (Curtin & Heron, 2019). “High school students who identify as lesbian, gay, or bisexual are nearly five times as likely to attempt suicide compared to their heterosexual peers,” and “40% of transgender adults have attempted suicide in their lifetime” (NAMI, 2020b, p. 1).

The psychological and sociological impact of anxiety disorders can be overwhelming. Physically, anxiety can result in sweating, trembling, fatigue, and a rapid heartbeat, weaken the immune system, and raise the risk of heart disease. People with depression may go through a lack of interest and pleasure in daily activities, significant weight changes, insomnia or oversleeping, exhaustion, difficulty concentrating, feelings of worthlessness, guilt, and recurring thoughts of death or suicide.

Anxious and depressed individuals often perform poorly in social situations (Hirsch & Clark, 2004; Hulme et al., 2012) due to fear of being perceived as unlikeable, stupid, or annoying. As a result, they tend to avoid speaking in public, sharing their opinions, or even socializing with peers.

These symptoms can be suppressive and difficult to change, leading to irrational thoughts and behaviors (Richards, 2014; Zimmerman et al., 2010) that influence perceptions of personal attractiveness, intelligence, and competence (Ades & Dias, 2013). Over time, these self-beliefs turn into automatic negative thoughts (Amen, 1998) that shape initial reactions to various situations or circumstances.

Mental Health and LGBTQ+ Culture

Halloran and Kashima (2006) define culture as “an interrelated set of values, tools, and practices that is shared among a group of people who possess a common social identity” (p. 140). Culture influences how mental illness is perceived or diagnosed, how services are organized, and how they’re funded. It also affects how patients express their symptoms… and how they cope within their community and family supports. (Daw, 2001, p. 1)

Research shows that mental health culture is shaped by related factors like public opinion, media portrayal, family rejection, distancing, and diagnosis. LGBTQ+ culture is characterized by its sexual and gender identities, which are different from those of the heterosexual and cisgender majority (NAMI, 2020b). Smaller groups within the community include “a diverse set of groups, including distinct groups based on sexual orientation and gender identity” (Lewis et al., 2017, p. 861), each working to gain recognition.

LGBTQ+’s social identity is shaped by oppression and its role in overcoming it. The community faces “numerous challenges and instances of heterosexism and homophobia in their daily lives” (UW-Madison, 2020, p. 1), including “discrimination, prejudice, denial of civil and human rights, harassment, and family rejection” (NAMI, 2020b, p. 1).

Transition

Working within a wellness model of mental health has become a key focus of international policy (Slade, 2010). As psychologist Kinderman (2014) writes, “we need wholesale and radical change, not only in how we understand mental health problems but also in how we design and commission mental health services” (p. 1). Decades of emphasis on pathology in psychological research and studies, negative diagnostic labels, stereotyping and stigma, public and institutional resistance, and the power imbalance between doctors and clients highlight the need to shift to a wellness paradigm.

Firmly establishing wellness models in mental health requires nothing less than a reformation of language, power structures, and perspectives throughout the mental healthcare community and beyond. Instead of focusing on disease and deficits, wellness models highlight character strengths and virtues that promote motivation, persistence, and perseverance for recovery.

This paper does not advocate for a complete dissolution of medical model approaches, but a review of their effectiveness and the psychological impact of their pathographic dominance is strongly warranted.

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Redefining Mental Health

Government agencies define mental illness as a “diagnosable mental, behavioral, or emotional disorder of sufficient duration to meet diagnostic criteria” that can “result in functional impairment which substantially interferes with or limits one or more major life activities” (Salzer et al., 2018, p. 3). This ‘defective’ emphasis has been the dominant psychiatric view for centuries. The pathogenic or disease perspective of diagnosis and recovery centers on a person’s history of suffering to aid in diagnosis. Schioldann (2003, p. 303) describes pathography as a

historical biography from a medical, psychological, and psychiatric viewpoint. It analyses a single individual’s biological heredity, development, personality, life history and mental and physical pathology, within the socio-cultural context of his/her time, in order to evaluate the impact of these factors upon his/her decision-making, performance and achievements. (Kőváry, 2011, p. 742)

We only need the American Psychological Association’s (APA, 2020) definition of neurosis to understand the mental health community’s pathographic focus. The 90-word overview includes terms such as: distressing, irrational, obsessive, compulsive, dissociative, depressive, exaggerated, unconscious, conflicts, anxiety, and disorders. DSM-3 abandoned the word ‘neurosis’ in 1980, but it still remains the go-to term in the mental health community. Coined by a Scottish physician in 1776, neurosis was defined as a functional derangement of the nervous system. Pathography focuses “on a deficit, disease model of human behaviour,” whereas the wellness model emphasizes “positive aspects of human functioning” (Mayer & May, 2019, p. 159).

Studies and research show that the mental health care community is drowning in pessimism (Henderson et al., 2014; Khesht-Masjedi et al., 2017; Pryor et al., 2009). “There is evidence to indicate the problem may be endemic in the medical health community” (Gray, 2002, p. 3), and it is also systemic (Knaak et al., 2017). Noted psychologist Alison Gray (2002) argues that more disordered persons would seek treatment if psychiatric services were less stigmatized and stigmatizing. Patients often report instances where staff members were excessively rude or dismissive.

They mention coercive measures, long wait times, paternalistic or demeaning attitudes, treatment programs focused on drugs with undesirable side effects, stigmatizing language, and overall therapeutic pessimism (Henderson et al., 2014; Huggett et al., 2018). Clients with more serious complications or illnesses are often considered “difficult, manipulative, and less deserving of care” (Knaak et al., 2017, p. 2). Nurses and clinicians point to a lack of collegial support, inadequate knowledge and training, and the fear of client self-harm (Henderson et al., 2014), which leads them to over-diagnose and over-prescribe (Huggett et al., 2018).

Shifting from the disease model’s pathographic language to the hopeful and supportive language of wellness models is everyone’s responsibility in the mental health community―its institutions, associations, practitioners, researchers, media, and clients. Among clinical psychologists, there is a growing belief that empathy and communication should come before etiology. 

We must move away from the disease model, which assumes that emotional distress is merely symptomatic of biological illness, and instead embrace a model of mental health and well-being that recognizes our essential and shared humanity. Our mental health is largely dependent on our understanding of the world and our thoughts about ourselves, other people, the future and the world. (Kinderman, 2014, p. 3)

Language and Perspective

Language shapes perspective, and linguists agree that the relationship between language and power is reciprocal (Ng & Deng, 2017). Language influences thought and behavior. Terms such as incapacity, deceit, unempathetic, manipulative, and irresponsible describe DSM-5 traits for various disorders. The point is not that these descriptions are invalid; rather, they are overwhelmingly negative and perceptually hostile. Based on public opinion, media portrayal, and mental health stereotypes and stigma, these words help shape how people with mental disorders are perceived (DeMare, 2016; Pinfold et al., 2005; Pryor et al., 2009).

Realistically, we cannot remove the word ‘mental’ from the culture. For 70 years, the disease model has been shaped by the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders. Unfortunately, the word ‘mental’ is a limited way to describe a disorder, and its negative connotations reinforce perceptions of incompetence, unworthiness, and undesirability. It is the main source of stigma, shame, and self-criticism. Psychologically, the word ‘mental’ frames a person or their behavior as somehow extreme or illogical. Adolescents often mockingly use the term for those who are unpopular, different, or socially awkward. The Urban Dictionary defines ‘mental’ as someone silly or stupid.

Hostile and demeaning language is widespread in mental healthcare, driven by the disease or medical model’s pathographic bias. This view influences public opinion, research, media portrayals, the doctor-patient power dynamic, community relations, and clients’ self-beliefs and self-image. Moving from the disease model to wellness approaches requires building a more balanced mental health perspective by addressing misunderstandings, misinformation, and the disease model’s heavy focus on diagnosis, disorder, deficit, and stigma. 

Misinformation stems from the psychological community’s difficulty in reaching consensus due to shifting criteria, “substantial discrepancies and variation in definition, epidemiology, assessment, and treatment” (Nagata et al., 2015, p. 724), and the intractability of the American Psychiatric Association. There are four common misconceptions about mental disorders. They are (1) abnormal and selective, (2) a consequence of behavior, (3) solely mental, and (4) psychotic. These misconceptions are addressed by the universality, age of onset, and complementarity of mental illness, as well as by clearly distinguishing psychosis from neurosis. 

Universality 

A recent article in Scientific American suggests that “mental illnesses are so common that almost everyone will develop at least one diagnosable mental disorder at some point in their life” (Reuben & Schaefer, 2017, p. 1). It is a typical aspect of natural human growth. One in four people has a diagnosable mental disorder.

According to the World Health Organization, nearly two-thirds of those who believe they have a mental disorder either reject or refuse to disclose their condition. Including those who deny or ignore their issues, we can conclude that mental disorders are widespread, affecting all groups, and have a universal impact.

Age of Onset

The origins of a disorder, according to Mayo Clinic (2019), is mainly due to early psychophysiological issues, although genetics and environment also contribute. Parental behaviors may be overprotective or controlling, or they might not provide emotional support (Cuncic, 2018). The affected juvenile could result from bullying, abuse, or coming from a broken home. “LGBT youths experience greater stressors from childhood into early adulthood, such as child abuse and unstable housing, that exacerbate mental health problems” (Mustanski et al., 2016, p. 527).

LGBTQ+ youth face disproportionately high levels of verbal and physical harassment, as well as other forms of peer victimization (Berlan et al., 2010; Reisner et al., 2015). “Gender minority youth had approximately four times higher odds of experiencing any bullying or harassment in the past year” (Reisner et al., 2015, pp. 35-36).

Childhood and adolescent exploitation or abuse are general terms that describe a wide range of experiences disrupting a young person’s optimal physical, cognitive, emotional, and social development (Steele, 1995). Numerous situations or events can increase vulnerability; these may be hereditary, environmental, or a result of a traumatic incident (Mayoclinic, 2019; NIH, 2019). Statistically, the LGBTQ+ community faces “a higher risk than their heterosexual counterparts for traumatic life experiences such as childhood physical, psychological, and sexual abuse” (Bandermann, 2014, p. 3).

Although the words ‘abuse’ and ‘exploitation’ imply intent, a toddler may still feel abandoned and develop emotional problems when a parent is distracted (Lancer, 2019). The child or adolescent is not to blame for their issues; no one may be intentionally responsible. Similarly, scientific research supports that while sexual and gender identities may have a genetic or biological basis, they are not chosen, and LGBTQ+ individuals are not at fault; unlike mental illness, there is no accountable person involved.

Undoubtedly, this sociological model conflicts with moral models that claim, “mental illness is onset controllable, and persons with mental illness are to blame for their symptoms” (Corrigan 2006, p. 53), and that sexual and gender-based orientation is a choice.

Complementarity 

To early civilizations, mental illness was seen as caused by supernatural forces and demonic possession. Hippocrates and 19th-century diagnosticians focused on the relative levels of bodily fluids. Lunar influence, sorcery, and witchcraft are longstanding explanations. In the early 20th century, it was considered somatogenic.

The biological approach suggests that neuroses are linked to the brain’s physical functioning (McLeod, 2018), while pharmacology highlights chemical or hormonal imbalances. Carl Rogers’ study of how human system components work together to maintain physiological balance introduced the term ‘complementarity’ to describe their simultaneous mutual interactions..

All components of the human system must work together; they cannot operate independently. The interconnected interaction of all parts—mind, body, spirit, and emotions—is essential for maintaining mental health and recovery. This same mutual interaction is present in sexual and gender identities, just as it is in all individuals.

Psychosis versus Neurosis

When someone sees, hears, or responds to things that are not real, they are experiencing a psychotic episode. Although few people experience psychosis, everyone has moderate to high levels of anxiety, stress, and depression. A neurosis is a condition that negatively affects our emotional well-being and quality of life but does not necessarily disrupt normal daily functions. Since most mental disorders are neuroses, humans are all somewhat dysfunctional.

Language reveals power, reflects power, maintains existing dominance, unites and divides… and creates influence” (Ng & Deng, 2017, p. 15). The wellness model has a similar impact on the mentally ill and LGBTQ+ individuals. Replacing negative and hostile language with a positive dialogue of encouragement and appreciation fosters new perspectives that boost self-belief and self-image, leading to increased disclosure, discussion, and, in the case of mental illness, recovery and remission. The self-critical aspects of shame should fade; stigma becomes less intimidating.

Accepting that mental illness and sexual and gender identities are common and non-discriminatory should make it easier to discuss these topics within the family. Recognizing their closeness and general vulnerability should reduce the urge to distance or isolate. Accepting their widespread presence should help reduce prejudice, ignorance, and discrimination related to mental illness (Khesht-Masjedi et al., 2017; Pescosolido, 2013; Pinfold et al., 2005; Wood & Irons, 2017), as well as sexual and gender identities (Adamczyk & Liao, 2018; Dodge et al., 2016; Lewis et al., 2017).

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Resistance to Recovery

The term stigma-avoidance describes individuals who fear that public disclosure could lead to stigmatization and discredit. Statistics from the National Bureau of Economic Research show that survey respondents under-report mental health conditions 36% of the time when asked about diagnosis (Bharadwaj et al., 2017, p. 3).

A recent study by Salzer et al. (2018) indicates that only one-third of individuals with a disorder were in recovery or remission in 2017. Lower recovery-remission rates may be partly due to the inability to afford treatment, which is driven by anxiety-related financial and employment instability (Gregory et al., 2018).

For example, more than 70% of patients with social anxiety disorder are in the lowest economic group (Nardi, 2003). The LGBTQ+ community’s reluctance to disclose a mental disorder, seek treatment, or accept a diagnosis comes from the same reasons that lead to general hesitation: stigmatization, victimization, public opinion, media representation, family rejection, and the diagnosis itself

Stigmatization

Mental health stigma is the hostile expression of the extreme undesirability of individuals with mental health issues. Ninety percent of survey respondents with a mental disorder report being affected by mental health stigma (NAMI 2020a).

Stigmatization is deliberate and proactive, often characterized by overtones that aim to shame and isolate (Pryor et al., 2009). Revealing a mental disorder can threaten livelihoods, relationships, social status, housing, and overall quality of life (Huggett et al., 2018; Pinfold et al., 2005; Sowislo et al., 2016; Wood & Irons, 2017). “The deleterious effects of stigma and prejudice on the health of sexual minority individuals have been well-documented across both physiological and psychological domains” (Dodge et al., 2016, p. 1). 

For LGBTQ youth, the minority stress theory posits that their health is affected by the degree to which their social environment stigmatizes sexual and gender minorities and the extent to which LGBTQ+ youth in these environments are expected to hide their nonconformity. (Wilkerson et al., 2016, p. 359)

Mental health stigma manifests in three categories:

  • Tribal stigma devalues individuals.
  • Moral character stigma suggests amorality and weakness.
  • Abominations of the body stigma pertains to physical deformity or disease (Pryor et al., 2009).

Mental disorders are categorized in the last two groups. Ignorance links mental disorders to weakness or problematic behavior, while the medical model emphasizes the disease and deformity aspects. LGBTQ+ individuals face the added challenge that their sexual and gender identities are social and cultural constructs.

Victimization

Community-based samples of LGBT youths have shown that as many as 30% may experience psychological distress at clinically significant levels (Mustanski et al., 2016, p. 527). A study on the effects of cumulative victimization on LGBTQ+ youth’s mental health found that they “experience greater mental health problems, such as depression, anxiety, suicide attempts, and posttraumatic stress disorder (PTSD)… than do heterosexual and cisgender individuals” (Mustanski et al., 2016, p. 527).

Contributors include internalized homophobia, stigma consciousness, identity concealment, and experiences of heterosexism and victimization. Heterosexism is the sociological term for discrimination or prejudice against gay people by heterosexuals who assume heterosexuality is the normal sexual orientation.

Sexual and gender-identity minorities are disproportionately subject to bullying, harassment, and other forms of peer victimization (Berlan et al., 2010; Reisner et al., 2015). The LGBTQ+ community is “one of the most targeted communities by perpetrators of hate crimes in the country” (NAMI, 2020b, p. 1). 

Because of the greater risk of victimization in LGBT individuals compared with heterosexuals starting as early as adolescence, research is needed that examines how trajectories of sexual orientation-based victimization across development influence the risk for mental health problems for LGBT people. (Mustanski et al., 2016, p. 528)

Public Opinion 

 Although recognition, attributions, and service use may reflect prejudice related to mental illness, the core of stigma lies in social acceptance. The public still widely endorses the image of the dangerous, unpredictable mentally ill person (Corrigan & Watson, 2002; Pinfold et al., 2005). Stuart and Arboleda-Flórez (2012) analyzed two surveys (1990/2006) on public perception. They found, “between 80-100 percent of respondents . . . favoured involuntary hospitalization for that disorder when they thought that violence was an issue” (p. 7).

Attitudes toward sexual and gender-based identities became significantly more accepting during the 1970s, with the biggest change seen among 18- to 29-year-olds (Adamczyk & Liao, 2018; Dodge et al., 2016). “It is clear that Americans have become more accepting of same-sex sexual behavior and relationships, but it is unclear how universal those changes are and whether they are due to age, time period, or cohort” (Twenge et al., 2016, p. 10).

People tend to be more supportive, partly because ‘gay men and lesbians are then seen as less responsible for their orientation” (Adamczyk & Liao, 2018, p. 4). An overwhelming majority (92%) of the U.S. LGBTQ+ community believes that “society has become more accepting of them in the past decade and expect it to grow even more accepting in the decade ahead” (Pew, 2020, p 1).

However, many rights and benefits available to LGBTQ+ individuals depend on factors such as region, race and ethnicity, political beliefs, education, economic status, and religiosity (Adamczyk & Liao, 2018; Dodge et al., 2016; UW-Madison, 2020).

Religion is strongly linked to negative attitudes toward the legitimacy of LGBTQ+ “sexual behavior and marriage” (Twenge et al., 2016, p. 8). The level of intolerance varies by denomination and correlates with attendance frequency. Jews and moderate-to-liberal Protestants are generally more tolerant than Baptists, fundamentalists, and Catholics (Adamczyk & Liao, 2018; Schnabel, 2016). The Pew (2020) study indicates that 29% of LGBTQ+ individuals have felt unwelcome in a place of worship.

Heterosexual women consistently show more positive attitudes toward sexual and gender minority groups than heterosexual men, who are “traditionally expected to more rigidly conform to gender explicitly heteronormative norms and stereotypes” (Dodge et al., 2016, p. 4).

Attitudes toward lesbians and gay men are significantly more positive than toward transgender people (Adamcyzyk & Liao, 2018; Lewis et al., 2017), while “bisexual individuals commonly report experiencing stigma, prejudice, and discrimination from both heterosexual and gay/lesbian individuals” (Dodge et al., 2016, p. 1).

Education and interpersonal contact reduce prejudicial attitudes and behaviors toward both the mentally ill and LGBTQ+ individuals. Contact-based education has become the most influential factor in shaping public attitudes and behaviors toward people with mental health issues (Pinfold et al., 2005; Corrigan, 2006).

“Multiple studies have found that knowing someone who is LGBTQ+ is associated with more supportive attitudes” (Adamczyk & Liao, 2018, p. 10) and “may increase knowledge, reduce anxiety, and increase empathy” (Lewis et al., 2017, p. 862). This benefit has not extended to transgender people, likely because “personal contact is relatively small” (Lewis et al., 2017, p. 871).

According to the Pew Research Center (Pew, 2020), 30% of the LGBTQ+ community reported being threatened or physically attacked, 21% experienced unfair treatment from an employer, and 58% were the target of slurs or jokes. Heterosexism functions at individual, family, institutional, employment, political, and cultural levels and is openly evident in educational, career, religious, and social environments.

While public opinion has significantly improved for the LGBTQ+ community, the perception of people with mental health issues as dangerous and unpredictable, who should be isolated, has not changed much in decades (Stuart & Arboleta-Flórez, 2012). A main goal of wellness models is to reduce mental health stigma by shifting public perceptions. 

Media Representation 

A 2011 study showed that nearly half of U.S. media stories about mental illness mention or hint at violence (Pescosolido, 2013). News and social media, driven by far-right politics, fundamentalism, and fringe groups, contribute to discrimination and bias. Analyzing films, TV shows, and tabloids reveals three common myths: people with mental illness are dangerous maniacs, they have childlike perceptions of the world that should be admired, or they are rebellious, free spirits (Corrigan, 2006).

Portrayals of sexual and gender identity in the second half of the 20th century were mostly stereotypical exaggerations. “Beginning in the 1990s, some highly likable gay and lesbian TV and media characters started to appear” (Adamczyk & Liao, 2018, p. 10). Still, many gay-themed portrayals aim to shock, betray, or titillate. The media often promotes images that harm the self-esteem and image of LGBTQ+ and mentally ill people.

Family Rejection

Family stigma involves rejecting an LGBTQ+ or mentally ill child or sibling. A 2008 review found that about 38% of family members “attempt to hide their relationship to avoid bringing shame to the family” (Stuart & Arboleda-Flórez, 2012, p. 8). Another study showed that 34% of LGBTQ+ individuals reported rejection by family, 49% faced unfair treatment, and “52% were subject to anti-gay remarks from family members” (Bandermann, 2014, p. 3).

The sense of family rejection can negatively affect both mental health and self-esteem, which can be more life-limiting and disabling than the illness itself (Stuart & Arboleda-Flórez, 2012, p. 3). “The experience of rejection magnifies the difficulties of living with psychiatric distress” (Gray, 2002), potentially leading to mental and physical health problems, substance abuse, and addiction.

Etiology and Misdiagnoses

Etiology and diagnosis shape the disease model. Which disorder do people find most repulsive, and which presents the greatest threat? What behaviors contribute to the disorder? How progressive is it, and how effective are treatments? (Corrigan, 2006). It is crucial to understand how these beliefs influence public perception, treatment choices, and client self-image.

Until the 1950s, most homosexual individuals studied by psychologists and others were prisoners or mental patients, making it easy to link the two. In 1973, the APA declared that homosexuality was no longer classified as an illness. DSM diagnostic criteria have changed significantly from one edition to the next. Lynam and Vachon (2012) highlight therapists’ concern that criteria are “added, removed, and rewritten, without evidence that the new approach is better than the prior one” (p. 483). The social fears listed in the DSM-II in 1968 evolved into social phobia in the DSM-III (1980), and later became social anxiety disorder in DSM-IV (1994), earning it the nickname, the ‘neglected anxiety disorder.’

Revisions, substitutions, and contradictions among DSMs are never universally accepted. Even with a knowledgeable and caring clinician under optimal conditions, it can be challenging to obtain an accurate mental disorder diagnosis. Besides the nine types of depression, four anxiety disorders, and eight obsessive-compulsive disorders, the current DSM lists five types of stress responses and ten personality disorders, each sharing similar traits and symptoms with varying degrees of severity.

Bipolar disorder, for example, shares characteristics and symptoms with generalized anxiety disorder, social phobia, obsessive-compulsive disorder, posttraumatic stress disorder, and panic disorder (Sagman & Tohen, 2009).

The most common comorbidities associated with anxiety include major depression, panic disorder, posttraumatic stress disorder, and alcohol abuse or dependence. For example, social anxiety disorder is often comorbid with avoidant personality disorder, eating disorders, schizophrenia (Cuncic, 2018; Vrbova et al., 2017), ADHD, and agoraphobia (Koyuncu et al., 2019).

Self-Esteem

Maslow’s (1943/1954) hierarchy of needs illustrates how childhood disturbances can disrupt natural human development. Healthy growth depends on satisfying essential physiological and psychological needs. Experiences of detachment, exploitation, or neglect may prevent individuals from meeting their physiological and safety needs or the need to belong and feel loved, which can hinder the development of self-esteem. 

If the child is criticized, overly controlled, or not given the opportunity to assert itself, it begins to feel insecure in its ability to survive, and may then become overly dependent on others, develop low self-esteem, and experience a sense of shame or doubt in its own abilities. (Vanderheiden & Mayer, 2017, p. 15)

Research on people with depression and anxiety indicates that the disease model “diminishes hope, self-esteem, self-efficacy, empowerment, and quality of life” (Garg and Raj, 2019, p. 124). LGBTQ+ youth rejected because of their identity have lower self-esteem, are more isolated, and receive less support than those accepted by their families (House, 2018). 

Self-esteem shapes a person’s relationship with themselves, others, and the world. It acts as an umbrella for all positive self-qualities that support healthy functioning, such as self-respect, resilience, efficacy, reliance, compassion, value, worth, and other intrinsic wholesome attributes. Self-esteem affirms that one is important and deserving of love.

 A grassroots poll by Unite UK (2016) found that 62% of LGBTQ+ individuals believe they have low self-esteem. Exposure to historical alienation, ambiguous public opinion, adolescent bullying, heterosexualism, and other harmful influences can, over time, affect an LGBTQ+ person’s self-beliefs and self-image.

Recovery

Recovery is a personal process. Humans have unique DNA, diverse sensitivities, memories, and abilities. One-size-fits-all methods are inadequate to fully address the complex and individual nature of a person’s personality and their specific needs. Mental illness is widespread and does not discriminate; dysfunction affects people from all walks of life. Additionally, “the LGBTQ+ community encompasses a wide range of individuals with separate and overlapping challenges regarding their mental health” (NAMI, 2020b, p. 1).

Recovery is “about seeing people beyond their problems – their abilities, possibilities, interests, and dreams – and recovering the social roles and relationships that give life value and meaning” (Slade, 2010, p. 2). Recovery programs must be flexible, integrating multiple traditional and non-traditional approaches developed through client trust, cultural understanding, and therapeutic innovation.

Any analysis must consider the subject’s environment, hermeneutics, history, and autobiography alongside their wants, beliefs, and aspirations. Otherwise, the complexity of personality is not appreciated, and the treatment becomes insufficient.

Positive Psychology and the Wellness Model

In 2004, the World Health Organization started promoting the benefits of a wellness perspective, defining health as “a state of complete physical, mental, and social well-being and not merely the absence of disease or infirmity” (Slade, 2010, p. 1). The World Psychiatric Association states, “the promotion of well-being is among the mental health system” (Schrank et al., 2014, p. 98). As psychologists highlight, “psychological well-being is viewed as not only the absence of mental disorder but also the presence of positive psychological resources” (Sin & Lyubomirsky, 2009, p. 468). 

The primary driver of the wellness model is positive psychology (PP), which began with Maslow’s (1943/1954) influential works on humanism; APA president Seligman endorsed it in 1998. Positive psychology and other optimistic methods emphasize the natural ability, “not only to endure and survive, but also to flourish” (Mayer & May, 2019, p. 160). 

Positive psychology is a relatively new field (since 1998) that, ostensibly, complements rather than replaces traditional psychology. Defined as the science of optimal functioning, PP’s goal is “to study, identify, and amplify the strengths and capacities that individuals, families, and society need to thrive” (Carruthers & Hood, 2004, p. 30). Cultural psychologist Levesque (2011) describes optimal functioning as the study of how individuals strive to realize their potential and become the best they can be.

Research supports using positive psychological constructs, theories, and interventions to improve understanding and mental health. PP interventions have “improved wellbeing and decreased psychological distress in mildly depressed individuals, in patients with mood and depressive disorders, [and] in patients with psychotic disorders” (Chakhssi et al., 2018, p. 16).

As Carruthers and Hood (2004) point out, “The things that allow people to experience deep happiness, wisdom, and psychological, physical, and social wellbeing are the same strengths that buffer against stress and physical and mental illness” (p. 30).

The field of positive psychology continues to develop evidence-based interventions that aim to evoke positive feelings, thoughts, or behaviors (Schotanus-Dijkstra et al., 2018). Positive psychology offers promising interventions “to support recovery in people with common mental illness, and preliminary evidence suggests it can also be helpful for people with more severe mental illness” (Schrank et al., 2014, p. 99). 

Positive Psychology 2.0

One of the initial challenges of positive psychology was its neglect of the negative aspects of character. Recognizing this, psychologists promoted a more holistic approach that includes the dialectical opposition of human experiences. As one psychologist stated, “people are not just pessimists or optimists. They have complex personality structures” (Miller, 2008, p. 598). Positive Psychology 2.0 (PP 2.0) was developed as a response to the narrow focus on optimism, adopting a more inclusive and balanced outlook (Rashid et al., 2014).

The disease model of mental health views recovery as the remission of symptoms or the reduction of significant interference or limitations (ADAMHA, 2012; Salzer et al., 2018). In contrast, the wellness model asserts that individuals with a mental disorder can lead satisfying and fulfilling lives regardless of symptoms or impairments related to their diagnosis (Slade, 2010).

Schrank et al. (2014) describe recovery as people “(re-) engaging in their life based on their own goals and strengths and finding meaning and purpose through constructing and reclaiming a valued identity and valued social roles” (p. 98).

By focusing on wellness rather than dysfunction, the positive psychology movement seeks to destigmatize mental illness by emphasizing “the positive while managing and transforming the negative to increase wellbeing” (Mayer & May, 2019, p. 163). Perkins and Repper (2003, p. 3) write: 

People with mental illness who are in recovery are those who are actively engaged in working away from Floundering (through hope-supporting relationships) and Languishing (by developing a positive identity), and towards Struggling (through Framing and self-managing the mental illness) and Flourishing (by developing valued social roles).  

Concluding Thoughts

Thomas Insel (2013), director of the National Institute of Mental Health, is “re-orienting its research away from DSM categories” (p. 2) and has declared that traditional psychiatric diagnoses have outlived their usefulness (Kinderman, 2014). NIMH is transforming diagnosis based on emerging research data and the doctor-patient communication dynamic rather than on current symptom-based categories. Kinderman (2014) suggests replacing traditional diagnoses with easily understandable descriptions of the issues.

A simple list of people’s problems (properly defined) would have greater scientific validity and would be more than sufficient as a basis for individual care planning and the design and planning of services. (1)

In mental wellness, recovery remission is the sustained, long-term alleviation of symptoms. Wellness influences more than just mental health; it is a paradigmatic approach that aims to promote a state of complete physical, mental, and social well-being. Its sociological focus on optimal human functioning, designed to counter the pathographic emphasis of other models, not only positively affects the self-beliefs and image of a person with mental illness but also resonates in sexual and gender identities and suggests a hopeful outlook for the recovery and remission of an LGBTQ+ individual with mental health challenges.

There are many approaches to recovery. Psychology author Farreras (2020) cites 400 different schools of psychotherapy. Mayer and May (2019) describe current positive psychology as “a balanced, interactive, meaning-centered and cross-cultural perspective” (p. 156) that considers equally “positive emotions and strengths and negative symptoms and disorders” (Rashid et al., 2014, p. 162).

Positive psychology works best when combined with other programs, and its mental health interventions have been successful in reducing symptoms of depression, anxiety, and other disorders. “Growing research suggests that a positive psychological outlook not only improves ‘life outcomes’ but enhances health directly” (Easterbrook, 2001, p. 23).

Training in prosocial behavior and emotional literacy can be valuable additions to targeted interventions. Behavioral exercises improve the practice of resilient and generous social skills. Positive affirmations also hold significant subjective value. Evidence supports mindfulness and acceptance-based approaches to re-engage and foster positive thoughts, feelings, and memories.

Castella et al. (2014) propose motivational enhancement strategies to help clients overcome resistance. Ritter et al. (2013) highlight the benefits of positive autobiography in countering destructive thoughts and behaviors. The significance of thoroughly examining the nuanced and unique dynamics in the relationships among emotional expression, intimacy, and overall relationship satisfaction for dysfunctional individuals and LGBTQ+ persons should be recognized (Montesi et al., 2013).

However, this paper avoids throwing out the baby with the bathwater, suggesting that the current diagnostic system should be part of a more comprehensive analysis that includes communication and highlights the character strengths that foster motivation, persistence, and perseverance toward recovery and remission. All “patients with mental disorders deserve better” (Insel, 2013, p. 2).

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INDIVIDUAL RECOVERY. The symptoms of social anxiety make it challenging for some to participate in a collective workshop. Dr. Mullen works one-on-one with a select group of individuals uneasy in a group setting. ReChanneling offers scholarships to accommodate the costs. What is absent in group activities is provided in our monthly, no-cost Graduate Recovery Group. In this supportive community, graduates interact with others who have completed the program.  Contact ‘rmullenphd@gmail.com’.        

Committing to recovery is one of the hardest things you will ever do.
It takes enormous courage and the realization that you are of value,
consequential, and deserving of happiness. 

Emotional Well-Being Dictates Boundaries

Recovery from Social Anxiety and Related Conditions

Robert F Mullen, PhD
Director/ReChanneling

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The primary distinction between social anxiety and social anxiety disorder lies in the severity of symptoms experienced. Not everyone is affected in the same way; the intensity and persistence of symptoms vary greatly from person to person. Although the characteristics and traits of these conditions may appear similar across individuals, each person’s experience is shaped by a unique combination of environment, life experiences, and the diversity of human thought and behavior.

Additionally, it is important to recognize that comorbidities—other mental health conditions that occur alongside social anxiety—are highly prevalent. This reality highlights the complex nature of these anxiety disorders. As such, effective recovery mechanisms must address not only social anxiety, social phobia, and social anxiety disorder, but also the multiple related conditions that often coexist. When recovery methods are discussed for one of these conditions, they are intended to apply to all three.

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A Survivor's Common Sense Approach To Recovery From Social Anxiety By Dr. Robert F. Mullen

Emotional Well-Being Dictates Boundaries

Boundaries are the standards of treatment we believe we are entitled to. They define what behaviors toward us are acceptable or unacceptable. Boundaries shield us from invasions of our space, feelings, limitations, and expectations. They allow us to assert our identity, advance our goals and objectives, and prevent others from manipulating, exploiting, or taking advantage of us. In essence, they give us the power to shape our own lives.

Cumulative evidence shows that a toxic childhood is a significant contributor to emotional instability and insecurity, laying the groundwork for social anxiety and related conditions. Children who have endured emotional neglect or trauma often carry this burden into adulthood, making it challenging to set boundaries.

Our social anxiety can profoundly affect our ability to express ourselves. The fear of criticism and ridicule can breed an obsessive concern with others’ opinions. This desire for acceptance often overshadows our need to assert our conditions for security and happiness. The fear of upsetting or distancing others can further inhibit our ability to set boundaries.

It’s not uncommon for us to create codependent relationships. In these situations, our low self-esteem and craving for approval can lead us to attach ourselves to controlling or manipulative individuals, becoming overly dependent on them for a sense of worth.

Relationship Boundaries

Our social impotence often leads us to believe that setting boundaries hinders our ability to form and maintain healthy relationships. We fear that asserting ourselves will lead to rejection and isolation. These negative thoughts lead us to believe that setting boundaries will only worsen our loneliness.

Rather than saying no, we overextend ourselves, putting others’ needs above our own, leaving us feeling inferior, resentful, and exploited. Learning to say no can bring a sense of relief, easing the burden of constantly putting others’ needs before our own.

Boundaries are the foundation of all healthy relationships. They don’t distance us from others but bring us closer by clearly defining our personal values. By setting boundaries, we encourage open communication, ensuring that we live in alignment with our own needs and values while respecting those of others.

SAD’s Impact on Boundaries

Our condition has negatively affected our emotional well-being and quality of life since childhood.Our obsession with our performance and shortcomings consistently reminds us of our imperfections. And our self-critical analysis provokes feelings of helplessness, hopelessness, undesirability, and worthlessness.

The long and short of it is that we want to be loved, and we don’t believe we are because we are unworthy. In pursuing perfectionism, we often become consummate enablers and codependents, compensating for our feelings of undesirability and worthlessness. We allow ourselves to be bullied and taken advantage of, seeking affirmation and appreciation. Understanding that this pattern of behavior harms our well-being and relationships is crucial.

Boundaries not only establish the standard of treatment we believe we are entitled to but also empower us. They protect our personal or mental space, like fences that give neighbors privacy and help them feel safe. Boundaries are the physical and emotional limits of appropriate behavior between people. They help define where one person ends, and another begins.

Setting boundaries can be particularly daunting for those grappling with issues of self-worth. The fear of rejection and isolation often hinders our ability to assert ourselves. However, there are strategies we can employ. We can learn to prioritize our needs and avoid feelings of inferiority, resentment, and aloneness.

“Dr. Mullen is doing impressive work helping the world. He is the pioneer of proactive neuroplasticity utilizing DRNI – deliberate, repetitive, neural information.” – WeVoice (Madrid, Málaga

Personal and Emotional Boundaries.

Let’s focus on the eight personal and emotional boundaries that affect our well-being. Since they don’t all affect each of us, it is expedient to focus on those that do.

PHYSICAL: This includes bodily autonomy and personal space. Healthy boundaries define our comfort zone. We might say, “I prefer not to hug people,” to set a physical boundary. “It’s a personal choice” or “It’s a cultural thing.”

INTELLECTUAL/MENTAL: This comprises our ideas, beliefs, and thoughts. A thoughtful boundary recognizes that others’ ideas may differ. When someone dismisses, belittles, or invalidates our ideas or thoughts, they ignore our intellectual boundaries. It’s better to say, “I appreciate your opinion, but I don’t fully support it.” or “Let’s agree to disagree.”

EMOTIONS: Our feelings and personal details are part of emotional boundaries. When someone criticizes, minimizes, or shares our feelings or personal information without our permission, they violate our emotional boundaries. This can lead to feelings of betrayal, loss of trust, and emotional distress.

MATERIAL/FINANCIAL: When we feel pressured to lend or give things away or to spend money when we prefer not to, our boundaries for financial resources and belongings are breached. We should be able to say, “I’m on a tight budget. I prefer to share expenses this evening.”

INTERNAL/SELF REGULATING: Occasionally, we prioritize the energy we expend on others over our personal needs. An acceptable response might be, “I’ve been working all week. I need time to recoup and spend quality time with myself.”

CONVERSATIONAL: Topics we may or may not feel comfortable discussing. “I am unwilling to discuss this and would rather not be part of this conversation.”

TIME: When we juggle a job, relationships, children, or other responsibilities, it’s challenging to maintain healthy time boundaries. These boundaries are crossed when others make unreasonable demands or requests for our time. It is prudent to avoid overextending ourselves by being assertive from the get-go. “I can only stay for half an hour. I have another commitment this evening.”

SEXUAL: Sexual boundaries consist of our intimate personal space. They include choices around types of sexual activity, timing, and partners. When someone pressures us into unwanted or unwarranted intimacy, touching, or sexual activity, or when someone expresses hostility toward our choices, they are invading our sexual boundaries.

Healthy Boundaries

We establish and maintain healthy boundaries when we:

  1. Retain the ability to decline anything we don’t want to do.
  2. Express our feelings responsibly.
  3. Talk about our shared experiences freely and honestly.
  4. Set our boundaries in the moment.
  5. Address problems directly with the person involved rather than with a third party.
  6. Make our expectations clear. It is irrational to assume people will figure them out.
  7. Be able to say “no” comfortably and accept when someone else says “no.”
  8. Communicate our wants and needs clearly.
  9. Honor and respect the needs of others without compromising our own.
  10. Respect others’ values, beliefs, and opinions, even if they differ from ours.

Unhealthy Boundaries

When boundaries are unhealthy, the relationship’s safety is compromised. This safety lapse may lead to dysfunctional relationships in which needs remain unmet. Here are some examples where we have failed to set appropriate boundaries. When we:

  1. Find it challenging to say “no” or have difficulty accepting “no” from others.
  2. Neglect to communicate our needs and wants clearly.
  3. Easily compromise our personal values, beliefs, and opinions to satisfy others.
  4. Become coercive or manipulative to persuade others to do something they don’t want.
  5. Unwittingly overshare personal information.
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How to Set Healthy Boundaries

Setting healthy boundaries is an empowering act rooted in self-awareness. It’s about being transparent about our expectations of ourselves and others, as well as what makes us uncomfortable in specific situations. This process requires strong communication skills that convey assertiveness and clarity. Most importantly, it’s a testament to our self-esteem, affirming that our interests are valued and that we are in control of our lives.

Assertiveness is not about making demands but about expressing our feelings openly and respectfully. It’s a communication style that encourages people to truly listen to us, fostering understanding and respect. It’s always done in a positive light, free from hostility. Setting healthy boundaries is about asserting our needs and priorities, a crucial form of self-care that respects our worth and ensures we are understood and valued.

Here are a few things to consider when we set our boundaries:

  • Understand Our Motivations. Why do we need to set this boundary?
  • Set a Clear Goal. What is the outcome we want to achieve in setting this boundary?
  • Be Courageous. There are repercussions to setting boundaries because people, in general, are defensive.
  • Be Aware. Setting boundaries can be challenging and uncomfortable.
  • Prepare and Practice.  If verbalizing a boundary makes us nervous, we can write out what we want to say beforehand.
  • Keep It Simple. Less is more when it comes to communicating our boundaries. It’s prudent not to overload someone with too many details.
  • Be Kind to yourself and others.
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WHY IS YOUR SUPPORT SO RELEVANT AND ESSENTIAL?  ReChanneling develops and implements programs to (1) mitigate symptoms of social anxiety and related conditions and (2) pursue personal goals and objectives – harnessing our intrinsic aptitude for extraordinary living. Our paradigmatic approach targets personality through empathy, collaboration, and program integration, leveraging neuroscience and psychology, including proactive neuroplasticity, cognitive-behavioral modification, positive psychology, and techniques to regenerate self-esteem. All donations support scholarships for groups and workshops.   

Committing to recovery is one of the hardest things you will ever do.
It takes enormous courage and the realization that you are of value,
consequential, and deserving of happiness.

INDIVIDUAL RECOVERY. The symptoms of social anxiety make it challenging for some to participate in a collective workshop. Dr. Mullen works one-on-one with a select group of individuals who are uncomfortable in group settings. ReChanneling offers scholarships to accommodate the costs. What is absent from group activities is provided in our monthly Graduate Recovery Group. In this supportive community, graduates interact with others who have completed the program.  Contact ‘rmullenphd@gmail.com’.

Blame and Forgiveness in Recovery

Recovery from Social Anxiety and Related Conditions

Robert F. Mullen, PhD
Director/ReChanneling

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The primary distinction between social anxiety and social anxiety disorder lies in the severity of symptoms. Not everyone is affected in the same way, as the intensity and persistence of symptoms vary widely from person to person. Although the characteristics and traits of these conditions may appear similar across individuals, each person’s experience is shaped by a unique combination of environment, life experiences, and the diversity of human thought and behavior.

Additionally, it is important to recognize that comorbidities—other mental health conditions that occur alongside social anxiety—are highly prevalent. This underscores the complexity of these anxiety disorders. As such, effective recovery strategies must address not only social anxiety but also its related conditions. Throughout this book, when recovery methods are discussed for social anxiety, social phobia, and social anxiety disorder, they are intended to apply to all three.

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A Common Sense Approach To Recovery From Social Anxiety By Dr. Robert F. Mullen

Blame and Forgiveness in Recovery

The urge to assign blame reinforces our anxiety and depression, as it justifies our insecurities and judgmentalism. Unless addressed and resolved, this pattern of blaming can have significant adverse effects on our psychological well-being.

Blaming Others for Our Abuse

It is natural and understandable to blame others when we feel harmed. Yet, as Buddhaghosa reminds us in The Path of Purification, “Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; we are the ones who get burned[1].” The only person who truly suffers from these noxious emotions is the one who has been wronged.

Those responsible for the harm are frequently unaware, indifferent, or have forgotten their actions. If they don’t acknowledge their role, they leave the injured party bearing the burden of unresolved anger and resentment. Persistently clinging to these hostile emotions is irrational, as it congests our minds with unnecessary negativity.

Seeking Perspective and Understanding

When forgiveness is difficult, it is prudent to consider the situation from the other person’s perspective. What circumstances were they facing? What external factors may have influenced their actions? And what part did we play in the unfolding of events?  Thoughtful introspection will help answer these questions.

Every story has multiple sides. Considering alternative perspectives can deepen our understanding of the perpetrators’ motivations and the pressures confronting them.

Assessing these factors does not excuse harmful behavior, but it can facilitate absolution. Forgiving is not an act of weakness; rather, it is a decision that frees us from the need for retaliation, dissolves the cycle of victimization, and enables us to shape our future by resolving past adversity.

Blaming Ourselves for Hurting Others

Taking responsibility for harming another person is a healthy and vital process. While we can’t undo past actions, we can learn from them, commit to avoiding similar actions, and move forward. Self-forgiveness involves letting go of the shame and guilt we create by our actions and reclaiming control over future behaviors.

Forgiving is a powerful act of self-healing. In many cases, our own wrongdoing impacts us more deeply than the victim, and is only reconcilable by accepting responsibility, making amends, either directly or indirectly, and ultimately forgiving ourselves.

The Unique Impact of Self-Blame

Self-blame is particularly damaging for those of us struggling with social anxiety, as it reinforces our sense of unworthiness. This mindset fosters self-pity, contempt, and other self-sabotaging behaviors that erode our self-esteem.

It diminishes our personal value, perpetuating the belief that we are unworthy of care and concern. Such self-directed hostility intensifies our anxiety and inflicts deep psychological wounds.

Forgiveness for self-blame is the most challenging form of forgiveness because our condition tells us we are inferior and worthless. However, clinging to self-pity allows these harmful beliefs to dominate our thoughts and actions. By forgiving ourselves for our fallibility and self-abuse, we can quiet our social anxiety and continue to heal.

Blame and Social Anxiety

We are not responsible for our condition, which should nullify self-blame. Blaming our parents or genetics serves little purpose. , We cannot alter the past.

 Recovery is about focusing on the present and its influence on the future. While the past is not insignificant, it does not directly address our current fears and anxieties. We learn from the past; we do not live in it.

Bad Tenants

By withholding forgiveness, we allow both the person who wronged us and the wrong itself to occupy valuable space in our brains. Persistent and unwelcome “bad tenants” depreciate our quality of life.

We should use this mental real estate for growth and productivity. Our neural network has less capacity for healthy input until we make room for positive reinforcement and constructive change.

Holding onto self-sabotaging emotions further aggravates our anxiety and depression. This emotional toxicity compels us toward irrational behaviors that diminish our self-esteem.

Misdirected Blaming

External

External blaming, or externalization, occurs when we attribute responsibility for our own actions to outside forces. Rather than acknowledging our own role in adverse outcomes, we place the blame elsewhere. When our social anxiety makes managing stressful situations overwhelming, it becomes emotionally easier to fault outside sources rather than assume responsibility.

For example, failing an exam might lead us to blame the instructor for perceived bias, rather than acknowledge our insufficient preparation. Similarly, arriving late to work may prompt us to blame traffic, although the real cause is our hangover. These examples illustrate external blaming, where we avoid personal accountability by focusing on false factors.

Internal

Internal blaming, or internalization, happens when we take responsibility for problems that we did not cause and over which we have no control. Our struggle with low self-esteem generated by SAD can make us feel inferior or inadequate, leading us to blame ourselves for situations beyond our influence.

For instance, if a dinner guest seems unenthusiastic, we might question our cooking or hosting skills rather than consider other explanations. Similarly, if a roommate is facing personal issues, we may convince ourselves that their problems stem from something we did or said. 

Relying on the behaviors of others for our sense of worth and identity establishes an unhealthy codependency.


Dr. Mullen is doing impressive work helping the world. He is the
pioneer of proactive neuroplasticity, utilizing DRNI – deliberate,
repetitive, neural information. – WeVoice (Madrid, Málaga)   

Letting Go: The Path to Recovery

Recovery is only possible when we let go of negative self-perceptions, unrealistic expectations, and harmful beliefs. This process frees us from the ongoing cycle of shame, guilt, and other adverse emotions that keep us trapped in the past.

Forgiving opens us to new possibilities, allowing us to move forward unencumbered by previous mistakes and trauma. Through self-liberation, we create space for new ideas and personal growth.

Forgiving Is Not Forgetting

Forgiveness is an essential tool for expelling negativity. We cannot hope to function optimally without forgiving ourselves and others whose actions affect our emotional well-being. Offensive behaviors may seem indefensible, but forgiveness is a crucial step on our journey toward healing and acceptance.

Forgiving does not mean forgetting or condoning harmful actions. It does not excuse the perpetrator or the deed. Our noble self chooses to forgive, while our pragmatic self remembers. Blaming ourselves or others for harmful behaviors may sometimes be justified, but holding onto the residual emotions is self-destructive.

As Mahatma Gandhi once observed, “The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.”

By committing to change and embracing our role as architects of our own growth, we reap the rewards of personal transformation. Through forgiveness, we free ourselves to move forward and cultivate a more balanced and harmonious life.

When left unresolved, three types of resentments adversely impact our psychological well-being by sustaining our victimization and abuse.

  1. Mistreatment of us by others.
  2. Mistreatment of others by us.
  3. Mistreatment we inflict on ourselves. 

In each instance, we are victims and abusers. Victimized by the transgression against us, we self-abuse with our anger and resentment. When we transgress, we abuse the victim and victimize ourselves with our shame and guilt.

The victimization we embrace when we harm ourselves is aparticularly insidious form of emotional self-abuse. Victims are likely to experience depression and anxiety, which aggravate and perpetuate our condition.

We retain an abundance of destructive information formed by our negative trajectory. Much of this information stems from the unresolved debris of negative emotions that adversely affect our emotional well-being. 

They influence our thoughts, behaviors, and relationships. When unresolved, they continue to permeate our neural network with negative energy and obstruct recovery.

Mistreatment by Others

We often hold onto anger and resentment because we convince ourselves that they impact those who harmed us. However, the perpetrators are obliviously unaware of, have forgotten, or take no responsibility for their mistreatment. The only person affected, then, is the injured party. 

Forgiving removes our need for blaming; it mitigates our vindictiveness

Mistreatment of Others

Forgiving ourselves for harming another is accepting and releasing the toxicity of our actions. Our mistreatment not only impacts the recipient but our emotional well-being as well. We feel guilt for hurting them and shame for being the type of person who would cause harm. 

It is prudent to remain mindful that the emotional upheaval provoked by our social anxiety can contribute to the cycle of abuse common in such situations. The mistreated often displace their mistreatment or unconsciously hurt others as a result of their pain.

These self-destructive emotions are resolved by accepting responsibility and our humanness, making amends, and forgiving ourselves. When making personal amends is unfeasible, performing a random act of kindness or other compassionate social behavior alleviates our shame and guilt. 

Self-Transgression

Self-transgression is particularly destructive. It defines us as deserving of abuse. Self-pity, contempt, and other hyphenated forms of sabotage devalue our self-esteem. Forgiving the self is challenging for those of us with social anxiety because of our negative self-appraisal.

Anxiety and depression make us feel helpless, worthless, and undesirable. A worthless individual feels undeserving of forgiveness, a helpless one lacks fortitude, and one without hope has no reason to forgive. However, the act is necessary to rebuild our self-esteem.


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Freeing Up Space for New Growth

Our brain’s neural network is inundated with negative information from childhood disturbance, negative core and intermediate beliefs, low self-esteem, negativity bias, and social anxiety – not to mention the constant adversity of world events and society in general. 

One of the key strategies in our recovery journey is to flood our neural network with rapid, concentrated positive stimulation. This is crucial to counterbalance the overwhelming negative information that often dominates our thoughts. By evicting the hostile tenants of negative beliefs and self-esteem issues, we create space for new, healthier thought patterns. And forgiveness, my friends, is the key that unlocks this door to freedom. 

Retaining the toxicity of our self-destructive emotions aggravates our anxiety and depression, compelling behavioral issues, avoidance, and other personality shortfalls that can severely jeopardize intimacy and other forms of relationships. 

Recovery from social anxiety and related conditions requires letting go of our negative self-analysis, expectations, and beliefs. It opens our minds to new ideas and concepts. Holding onto shame, guilt, and other hostile self-indulgences keeps us imprisoned in the past. Forgiving opens us to new possibilities unencumbered by prior acts. 

Forgiving takes work. In the words of Mahatma Gandhi, “The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.”

Forgiving is Not Forgetting

We cannot hope to function optimally without absolving ourselves and others whose actions impaired our emotional well-being. They may seem indefensible, but forgiving is purely subjective. It is for our well-being.

Let’s be clear: forgiveness is not about forgetting or condoning. It’s not about excusing the transgressor or the transgression. It’s about reclaiming our power. Our noble self forgives; our pragmatic self remembers and remains mindful of the circumstance. This is the true essence of forgiveness.

Holding ourselves or others accountable for harmful behavior is a justifiable response. Clinging to the corresponding anger and resentment is self-destructive. We forgive to promote change within ourselves, and, as architects, we reap the rewards. 

Stand Outside of the Bullseye

Our social anxiety compels us to personalize, inhibiting consideration of alternative viewpoints. Cognitive distortions close our eyes to options that conflict with our self-centered point of view. We neglect to consider the multiple perspectives of every situation. 

When we find it challenging to forgive someone, it is helpful to consider the larger narrative. Stepping outside of the bullseye not only broadens our understanding of the perpetrator’s motivations but also encourages us to evaluate their pressures, temperament, influence, and environment, fostering a more comprehensive perspective. 

While imperfect motivations may not justify or excuse the act, taking the time to understand the intent can empower us, alleviating residual hostility and making us feel less victimized. 

Write a Forgiveness Letter

Many experts endorse the psychological benefits of writing a forgiveness letter, sharing our perspective of the event. The letter describes in detail the injury or offense. How did it make us feel? What are its residual effects? How did it impact our relationship with the perpetrator? 

How would we have approached the situation? What would we have done differently to mitigate its emotional impact? What is our responsibility?

The act of forgiving mitigates our obsession with the incident and our resentment, shame, and guilt. However, it is inadvisable to send the letter for a variety of reasons. This is a subjective exercise that promotes personal growth and emotional well-being.

Whether we journal or write a letter to ourselves, the key is to approach it with self-compassion. This practice allows us to recognize and accept our imperfections, fostering a sense of understanding and acceptance. There is no logical reason to allow a past, intangible act to impede our growth. 

Why hold onto something emotionally disturbing from the past that cannot be altered? The past is immutable. We have no control over it. It is the here-and-now and how it reflects on the future that is of value. The only logical response is to accept that it happened and realize it has no material impact on the present unless we allow it to fester. It is time to let it go and move on.

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WHY IS YOUR SUPPORT SO NECESSARY? 
ReChanneling develops and conducts programs to alleviate the symptoms of social anxiety and help individuals tap into their innate potential for extraordinary living. Our unique approach focuses on understanding personality through empathy and collaboration, integrating neuroscience and psychology. This includes proactive neuroplasticity, cognitive-behavioral modification, positive psychology, and techniques designed to reclaim and rebuild self-esteem. Every contribution, regardless of its size, supports individuals who strive to make a positive change in their own lives and the lives of others. All donations go towards scholarships for groups and workshops.

INDIVIDUAL RECOVERY. The symptoms of social anxiety make it challenging for some to participate in a collective workshop. Dr. Mullen works one-on-one with a select group of individuals who are uneasy in group settings. ReChanneling offers scholarships to accommodate the costs. What is absent in group activities is provided in our monthly Graduate Recovery Group. In this supportive community, graduates interact with others who have completed the program.  Contact ‘rmullenphd@gmail.com’.

Committing to recovery is one of the hardest things you will ever do.
It takes enormous courage and the realization that you are of value, 
consequential, and deserving of happiness.

Reconstructing Our Neural Network

Recovery from Social Anxiety and Related Conditions

Robert F. Mullen, PhD
Director/ReChanneling

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The primary distinction between social anxiety and social anxiety disorder lies in the severity of symptoms. Not everyone is affected in the same way, as the intensity and persistence of symptoms vary widely from person to person. Although the characteristics and traits of these conditions may appear similar across individuals, each person’s experience is shaped by a unique combination of environment, life experiences, and the diversity of human thought and behavior.

Additionally, it is important to recognize that comorbidities—other mental health conditions that occur alongside social anxiety—are highly prevalent. This underscores the complexity of these anxiety disorders. As such, effective recovery strategies must address not only social anxiety but also its related conditions. Throughout this book, when recovery methods are discussed for social anxiety, social phobia, and social anxiety disorder, they are intended to apply to all three.

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Reconstructing Our Neural Network

Neural information that impacts us is registered stimuli, i.e., neurally detected (noticed) and recorded. Registered information can be positive, negative, or neutral.

External stimuli we don’t notice or react to do not register and elicit a neural response. Our conscious thought formation processes only about 10 bits of data per second of the two billion bits surrounding our sensory systems,

While all human neural networks are inundated with adverse information due to life’s vicissitudes, the causes and effects of our disorder produce an overabundance of negative information. Those include childhood disturbance, negative core and intermediate beliefs, disorder onset, cognitive bias, negativity bias, and adverse self-appraisal.

Offsetting Negative Information

One of the primary objectives in recovery is to produce positive neurological stimulation to offset the negative polarity of our neural network. Neural stimuli include sensory stimuli, such as sights, sounds, and tactile impressions; mental information in memory, experience, and ideas; and emotional experiences incited by images, words, and music. 

Neuroplasticity

Plasticity is the quality of being shaped or molded. In physiology, plasticity is the adaptability of an organism to changes in its environment or differences between its various habitats. Human neuroplasticity is the continual reorganization of our brain’s synaptic connections in response to stimuli or information.

Dr. Mullen is doing impressive work helping the world. He is the
pioneer of proactive neuroplasticity, utilizing DRNI – deliberate,
repetitive, neural information. – WeVoice (Madrid, Málaga)   

Three Forms of Human Neuroplasticity

Human neuroplasticity occurs in three forms. Reactive neuroplasticity is our brain’s natural response to registered information, which we have limited to no control over. This is stimuli we absorb but do not initiate: a car alarm, lightning, or the smell of baked goods. Our neural network automatically restructures itself in response to what happens around us. 

Active neuroplasticity occurs through pursuits like creating, yoga, and journaling. We control active neuroplasticity by choosing the activity. A significant component of active neuroplasticity is our altruistic and compassionate social behavior, e.g., teaching, compassion, and random acts of kindness.

What is significant is that we can dramatically accelerate and consolidate the intake of positive information by consciously compelling our brains to repattern their neural circuitry through proactive neuroplasticity. The deliberate, repetitive neural input (DRNI) of positive information accelerates and consolidates neural restructuring.

Proactive neuroplasticity empowers us to transform our thoughts and behaviors, proactively creating healthy new mindsets, skills, and abilities. We compel the positive restructuring of our neural network by inputting succinct, self-affirming, and self-motivating thoughts and statements.

The deliberate, repetitive neural input (DRNI) of information accelerates and consolidates the process. Through proactive neuroplasticity, we compel change rather than react or respond to it.

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The obvious question is: How can a regimen of deliberate neural input – no matter how often repeated – offset the abundance of negative information accumulated over decades?

To understand how affirmative statements or positive activities can counteract years of negative neural activity, imagine a large pitcher half-filled with dark blue water, representing the accumulated neural negativity of social anxiety.

Bright yellow water symbolizes our positive neural input.

When we add yellow to blue, the resultant green water represents the evolving state of our emotional well-being. Each addition of yellow water lightens the green, illustrating how our deliberate positive input dissipates negativity over time.

While our state will never be purely yellow (as blue will always remain a permanent part of our past), consistent positive input ensures the green will continue to lighten.

We strive for progress rather than unattainable perfection.

Information Must Register

Remember, our brain only registers information it notices; most stimuli remain undetected. If information does not register,  receptor neurons are not activated, and information is not processed. Since our conscious thought formation processes only about 10 bits of data per second of the two billion bits surrounding our sensory systems, it is crucial to craft and input information that supports our objectives.

The most potent information input is deliberate and repetitive.

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Deliberate Neural Input

A deliberate act is intentional. Proactive, in the context of neuroplasticity, means that we consciously and intentionally cause something to happen. We initiate and control the process. Proactive neuroplasticity is the deliberate act of reconstructing our neural network through rapid, concentrated neurological stimulation. It’s about taking control and making the change rather than simply reacting.

The purpose is to offset harmful, toxic neural input with healthy, positive information.

Repetitive Neural Input 

Repetition is a primary principle of learning—an intricate process that involves the formation and strengthening of neural connections in our brains. It’s not just common practice but a scientifically proven method to enhance memory consolidation and retention. While many factors contribute to effective learning, repetition is a key factor.

It’s not just common practice but a scientifically proven method to enhance memory consolidation and retention. When we encounter new information, our brain initially forms weak connections between the neurons that process that information.

Repetition strengthens these connections, leading to faster, more efficient communication between neurons. With proactive neuroplasticity, the key is to repeat self-affirming and self-motivating thoughts and statements, such as positive personal affirmations.

Repetition plays a crucial role in triggering long-term potentiation (LTP), a process that leads to the persistent strengthening of synapses based on recent activity patterns. When we repeat something, our brain interprets it as significant, thereby accelerating and consolidating the neural connections associated with that information.

Repetition plays a crucial role in transferring the learned information from short-term to long-term memory. Short-term memory has limited capacity and duration, so new knowledge can quickly dissipate without repetition. Through repetitive, durable learning, we store information more effectively in our long-term memory banks, boosting confidence in our learning strategies.

Hebbian Learning

Hebbian Learning, a key principle in understanding the impact of repetition on learning, states that the repeated, persistent stimulation of a presynaptic neural cell increases the efficiency of the postsynaptic cells that generate a neural chain reaction. This principle is instrumental in describing how proactive neuroplasticity accelerates and consolidates learning.

Repetition and duration build up myelin, a group of organic compounds that sheath the nerve fibers (axons) to protect them and increase the rate at which electrical impulses pass along the axon. As we repeatedly perform actions, myelin builds up around the network, strengthening our neural connections. This process gives us a sense of achievement as the brain processes cell signals faster and more efficiently, leading to better performance.

Hemispheric Synchronization

Hemispheric synchronization is the collaboration of our brain’s left and right hemispheres to achieve optimal coherence, i.e., a rational-analytical brain. Our brain’s right hemisphere manages our emotions, creativity, intuition, and imagination, domains of active neuroplasticity. Proactive neuroplasticity governs our left hemisphere’s rational, analytical, and quantitative pursuits.

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While the benefits of active neuroplasticity are apparent, the deliberate, repetitive neural input of proactive neuroplasticity is a controlled process. It devises the positive statements we commit to memory and mentally or orally repeat to expedite learning and unlearning, giving us a sense of control over our cognitive processes.

Our Neural Network

Our human neural network is a biological system consisting of interconnected brain neurons—specialized cells that process and transmit information through electrical and chemical signals.

Our brain’s metabolism refers to the intricate chemical and electrical processes that influence and reshape our neural circuitry. Positive neurological stimulation shifts the polarity of our neural network from a toxic state to a healthier one.

Neurons are the core components of our brain and central nervous system. They convey information through electrical activity. Registered information activates receptor neurons, which, in turn, activate presynaptic neurons. This process relays information to postsynaptic neurons, triggering a chain reaction involving billions of interconnected neurons.

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Neural Benefits of Neuroplasticity

In addition to long-term potentiation, repetition and duration process higher levels of BDNF (brain-derived neurotrophic factors) – proteins associated with improved cognitive functioning, mental health, and memory.

According to previous research, each human brain contains around 86 billion neurons, which relay electrical signals. However, new data suggests that the real count far exceeds earlier estimates.

The neural chain reaction generated by repetition reciprocates the energy of the information in abundance. Millions of neurons amplify the electrical activity on a massive scale.

When the activity of the axon pathways heightens, the neurotransmission of roughly 50 chemical hormones accelerates, including GABA for relaxation, dopamine for pleasure and motivation, endorphins to boost our self-esteem, and serotonin for a sense of well-being. Acetylcholine supports neuroplasticity, glutamate enhances our memory, and noradrenaline improves concentration.

Conversely, this also happens with negative information because our brains do not differentiate between positive and negative input. Therefore, the value of positive reinforcement cannot be overstated. It empowers us to take control of our neural network and steer it towards productive outcomes.

Criteria for DRNI

DRNI applies to proactive neuroplasticity, which is deliberate, repetitive neural input. Active neuroplasticity, e.g., pursuits like creating, martial arts, and puzzle assembly, are not deliberately repetitive. These conscious activities promote neural restructuring at an incalculable rate, different from proactive neuroplasticity

The most effective sources of proactive neuroplasticity are positive personal affirmations and rational coping mechanisms to counter our automatic negative thoughts (ANTs).

We begin by identifying the goal of our information. What is our intention and motivation? Are we focused on a specific challenge? Are we reinforcing character strengths and attributes? What is our end goal – the personal milestone we want to achieve? Firm, specific goals enable the process. We deliberately construct our information, e.g., the self-empowering statement(s) that support our goal. We make it

The intent and content of our information determine its positive or negative energy, i.e., the size, amount, or degree of that which passes from one neural atom to another. Therefore, our objective is to provide copious, conscious, positive information.

The most productive information is rational, reasonable, possible, positive, unconditional, goal-focused, succinct, and in the present or future tense.

Rational: Our objective is to subvert the irrationality of our negative self-beliefs. This is a left-brain, analytical activity that engages our intellect and helps us overcome negative thought patterns. 

Reasonable: By setting realistic goals, we exercise sound judgment and sensibility. For instance, expecting to publish a novel is unreasonable if we’re illiterate.

Possible: Setting achievable goals is crucial. It keeps us grounded in reality and ensures that our efforts are not in vain. For instance, ‘I will win a Grammy for singing‘ is not a viable option for the tone-deaf. It’s important to set goals that are within our reach.

Positive: Optimistic. Maintaining a positive mindset is crucial for achieving our primary objective. Anything else is counterproductive and can hinder our progress.

Unconditional: Placing limitations on our commitment by using words like maybe, might, and perhaps is our unconscious avoidance of accountability. Saying I might do something essentially means we may or may not do something depending upon our mood or disposition. How comfortable are we when someone says, I might consider paying you for your work?

Goal-Focused. Staying goal-focused is key. Our path will be unfocused and meandering if we do not know our destination. Having a clear goal helps us stay on track and progress.

First-Person, Present or Future Tense: The past is immutable, and the future is indeterminate. “I am confident.” “I will be supportive.”

Succinct: Brief, clearly expressed, and easily memorized.

The importance of productive neural input is indisputable. It expedites and integrates our three complementary goals. Deliberately replacing our negative thoughts and beliefs with healthy, productive ones changes the energy polarity of our neural network.

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The primary distinction between social anxiety and social anxiety disorder lies in the severity of symptoms. Not everyone is affected in the same way, as the intensity and persistence of symptoms vary widely from person to person. Although the characteristics and traits of these conditions may appear similar across individuals, each person’s experience is shaped by a unique combination of environment, life experiences, and the diversity of human thought and behavior.

Additionally, it is important to recognize that comorbidities—other mental health conditions that occur alongside social anxiety—are highly prevalent. This underscores the complexity of these anxiety disorders. As such, effective recovery strategies must address not only social anxiety but also its related conditions. Throughout this book, when recovery methods are discussed for social anxiety, social phobia, and social anxiety disorder, they are intended to apply to all three.

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Perfectionism and Unreasonable Expectations

Poor self-analysis compels us to overcompensate. Perfectionism is a byproduct of overcompensation. Perfectionism leads us to set unreasonable expectations.

None of us is perfect; we all have aspects we hide, fearing they may make us appear defective or inadequate. Ostensibly, we conceal these perceptual shortcomings or justify them through defense mechanisms such as repression and projection. Or we displace our anger, deny our faults, and rationalize our actions.

Living with persistent negative self-appraisal is emotionally destabilizing. People experiencing social anxiety crave connection with others, but fears of intimacy and rejection make it challenging to initiate, develop, and maintain healthy relationships. These insecurities compel us to create defense mechanisms to justify our avoidance.

Defense Mechanisms

Defense mechanisms are short-term psychological coping mechanisms that safeguard unresolved threats to our emotional well-being. They excuse the irrational thoughts, emotions, and behaviors that our conscious minds are currently unwilling or unable to manage.

Without coping mechanisms, healthy or otherwise, we risk decompensation—the inability or unwillingness to develop effective psychological alternatives to the symptoms of our condition, which can lead to personality disturbances or disintegration.

Nonetheless, defense mechanisms can be healthy tools for managing trauma and other distressful thoughts and behaviors until we are ready to resolve them.

Compensation

Compensation is a defense mechanism in which we overachieve in one area of our lives to compensate for perceived defects in another. For instance, someone who feels socially inadequate might become a performer, while a teenager may excel in sports to offset learning difficulties.

Compensation can be a powerful tool for personal growth when used appropriately. We counter negative thoughts and behaviors by replacing them with positive, productive ones. We compensate for low self-esteem by acknowledging our strengths, virtues, and achievements.

Overcompensation

Because we want to mitigate the pain of experiencing our condition as swiftly as possible, we overcompensate. We push the envelope. Overcompensation, especially when unconscious, often leads to adverse consequences such as burnout, strained relationships, and missed opportunities.

Moderation, as always, is the key.

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Perfectionism

Overcompensation, a struggle many of us can relate to, often leads to the trap of perfectionism, which is not merely a desire to do well but a need to be flawless. Anything less feels unsatisfactory. Perfectionism is widespread among individuals experiencing social anxiety.

As perfectionists, we overreact when our expectations are unmet. We struggle to move forward when things do not go as planned. Research shows that individuals experiencing social anxiety have lower implicit and explicit self-esteem compared to healthy individuals. Perfectionists tend to experience higher levels of anxiety and lower levels of psychological well-being.

To a perfectionist, anything less than perfect is catastrophic. We often engage in polarized thinking, viewing situations in extremes. Our colleagues are either for us or against us. The world is black or white, with no room for compromise. We see ourselves as either exceptional or failures.

A Parallel Relationship

Perfectionism and social anxiety often go hand in hand.

Perfectionists and people with SAD tend to avoid situations that might lead to failure or embarrassment. We fear saying or doing something inappropriate, being criticized, or facing negative evaluations. These apprehensions only intensify our self-criticism and defensiveness.

Our critical nature and fear of rejection often lead us to isolate ourselves, which affects our ability to connect with others and maintain satisfying relationships.

Our perfectionism drives us to set unreasonable expectations, such as performing flawlessly, never making mistakes, and always being in control. These expectations are often impossible to achieve, resulting in further feelings of inadequacy and anxiety.

Reasonable Expectations

An expectation is a strong emotional belief that something will happen in the future. When we set expectations, we become invested in the outcome. But what happens if our expectations are unmet? We psychologically attach ourselves to them because we have a stake in the result. In our minds, we perceive our expectations as happening. When things don’t go as planned, we typically respond with anger and disappointment.

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Unmet Expectations

Disappointment is a powerful emotion. Experts describe the reaction to disappointment as a form of sadness – an expression of desperation or grief due to loss. While it’s true that we can’t lose what we never had, setting an unreasonable expectation makes it feel real, and we experience the loss intensely. This feeling can lead to depression, self-loathing, and symptoms associated with perfectionism and social anxiety.

How do we set reasonable expectations when our perfectionism demands the brass ring? It is human nature to aspire to excellence.

Determine Expectations Early On

Setting expectations carefully in advance allows us to plan strategies and coping mechanisms to help meet them. Expectations should be rational, reasonable, achievable, and constructive. For instance, an unreasonable expectation at a networking event would be to find the job of our dreams. On the other hand, a reasonable expectation could be to hand out our business card to a potential contact.

Going to a social event expecting to form a lasting relationship is also unrealistic. A more reasonable expectation would be to meet people who share similar interests.

Don’t Beat Yourself Up

No matter how reasonably we set them, our expectations will occasionally be partially or wholly unmet. We may need to modify them to accommodate the situation, more practice, or an extension of our planned timeframe.

Reasonable expectations require flexibility. While we control our reactions and responses to situations, we are subject to external factors over which we have no control. This is part of the learning process. By reframing our perspective, we learn to recognize the positive aspects of experience.

Be Mindful of Distorted Thinking

People experiencing social anxiety are highly susceptible to cognitive distortions and other defense mechanisms. Recognizing, understanding, and accepting the self-destructive nature of these and other defense mechanisms is essential to recovery. This can be achieved through therapy, self-reflection, and mindfulness practices.

We can only reasonably set expectations for ourselves. Setting expectations of others will result in frustration and disappointment because we have no control over their outcome. It is called self-esteem, not other-esteem. We only have jurisdiction over subjective expectations.

Self-Appreciation

Self-appreciation is recognizing and enjoying our qualities and achievements. For every positive attempt or interaction, congratulate yourself. You deserve to experience the pride and satisfaction that accompany such efforts fully. Always be kind to yourself.

A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step. If we are foolishly determined to fly, our wings will melt and hurl us back to earth. Reasonable expectations will keep us on the ground.

Recovery is a life’s work in progress. There is no absolute cure for social anxiety, no magic pill, but by practicing recovery tools over time, we experience an exponential and dramatic moderation of our symptoms. The key is always progress over perfection.

Perfectionism is a byproduct of overcompensation. Perfectionism leads us to set unreasonable expectations.

Reasonable expectations align our projections with the probability of success.

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INDIVIDUAL RECOVERY. The symptoms of social anxiety make it challenging for some to participate in a collective workshop. Dr. Mullen works one-on-one with a select group of individuals who are uneasy in group settings. ReChanneling offers scholarships to accommodate the costs. What is absent in group activities is provided in our monthly Graduate Recovery Group. In this supportive community, graduates interact with others who have completed the program.  Contact ‘rmullenphd@gmail.com’.

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The primary distinction between social anxiety and social anxiety disorder lies in the severity of symptoms. Not everyone is affected in the same way, as the intensity and persistence of symptoms vary widely from person to person. Although the characteristics and traits of these conditions may appear similar across individuals, each person’s experience is shaped by a unique combination of environment, life experiences, and the diversity of human thought and behavior.

Additionally, it is important to recognize that comorbidities—other mental health conditions that occur alongside social anxiety—are highly prevalent. This underscores the complexity of these anxiety disorders. As such, effective recovery strategies must address not only social anxiety but also its related conditions. Throughout this book, when recovery methods are discussed for social anxiety, social phobia, and social anxiety disorder, they are intended to apply to all three.

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Positive Psychology Waves in Recovery

There are two distinct but potentially complementary methods of psychological healthcare. The “wellness model” and the pathographic or “disease model,” which remains the current predominant approach. Its clinical, impersonal methodology focuses on the biological and neurological origins of mental well-being, emphasizing the disease rather than the individual.

To balance this myopic perspective, we need to incorporate the more empathetic, personalized approach of the wellness model.

The wellness model seeks to balance the disease model’s myopic perspective by considering the individuals’ assets. Such as their character strengths, virtues, attributes, and achievements. This model recognizes that a person’s condition is not simply a collection of negative traits. But rather a dynamic expression of thoughts, feelings, and behaviors that reflect their emotional, mental, and moral character, and subsequent mental health.

The disease model, often viewed as defect-oriented, sharply contrasts with the asset-oriented wellness model. Essentially, the disease model of mental health concentrates on identifying what is wrong with us. While the wellness model emphasizes what is right about us.

 A coalescence of both approaches is the ideal solution.

Humanistic Psychology

Positive psychology (PP) serves as the cornerstone of the wellness model. It has its roots in humanistic psychology. Supported by early influential figures such as Emerson, Thoreau, Carl Rogers, and Abraham Maslow. Pioneers of current positive psychology include Martin Seligman, Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi, Carol Ryff, and Paul Wong.

Positive psychology provides essential elements for recovery from social anxiety and related conditions.

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Humanistic Psychology

Humanistic psychology emphasizes the whole individual, stressing concepts such as free will, self-efficacy, and self-actualization. This approach fosters a holistic understanding of an individual, enabling them to live authentic and meaningful lives. It reminds us that we are not merely a collection of symptoms. But complex, unique individuals with the potential for growth and self-fulfillment, underlining the value of our individuality.

From Maslow to Seligman

Abraham Maslow first coined the term “positive psychology” in his 1954 seminal work, Motivation and Personality. He argued that psychology’s focus on disorder and dysfunction fails to capture human potential adequately. Maslow categorized human needs into five levels: physiological needs, safety and security, love and belonging, self-esteem, and self-actualization. He later expanded this hierarchy to include cognitive, aesthetic, and transcendence needs. Maslow’s hierarchy illustrates the importance of satisfying each level for psychological well-being and how each level influences the others.

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Several decades later, Martin Seligman and Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi introduced the concept of optimal human functioning, which became the foundation of positive psychology. Seligman legitimized this field during his presidency of the American Psychological Association in 1998.

Interestingly, this development coincided with the publication of the 1984 fourth edition of the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (APA, 2014), which officially replaced the term “social phobia” with “social anxiety disorder (SAD).” The manual defined SAD as a “marked and persistent fear of one or more social or performance situations in which the person is exposed to unfamiliar people or possible scrutiny by others.” This historical context laid the foundation for the common characteristics and traits associated with social anxiety disorder.

Positive Psychology Interventions

Research by Chakhssi et al. (2018) has shown that positive psychology interventions can improve well-being and decrease psychological distress in individuals with mild depression, mood disorders, and even psychotic disorders. Studies support the use of positive psychological constructs, theories, and interventions to better understand and improve mental health.

Intervention research has tested various approaches to promoting well-being. A recent study found that positive psychology interventions resulted in “significant improvements in mental well-being (from non-flourishing to flourishing mental health) while also decreasing both anxiety and depressive symptom severity” (Schotanus-Dijkstra et al., 2018).

Continuing research suggests that a positive psychological outlook can directly improve life outcomes and enhance health. A meta-analysis by Sin and Lyubomirsky (2009) of 51 studies involving 4,266 individuals demonstrated that positive psychology interventions significantly enhance well-being and decrease depressive symptoms.

The academic discipline of positive psychology continues to develop evidence-based interventions that foster positive feelings, thoughts, or behaviors. The aforementioned study by Chakhssi et al. (2018) indicated that positive psychology interventions “decreased psychological distress in individuals with mood and depressive disorders and in patients with psychotic disorders, improving quality of life and well-being.”

Positive psychology presents promising strategies “to support recovery in people with common mental illnesses, and preliminary evidence suggests it can also be beneficial for those with more severe mental conditions” (Schrank et al., 2014).

The positive psychology perspective asserts that individuals with a mental disorder can lead satisfying and fulfilling lives, regardless of the symptoms or impairments associated with their diagnosis (Slade, 2010). Positive psychology aims “to emphasize the positive while managing and transforming the negative to increase well-being.”

By focusing on enhancing well-being and optimal functioning in addition to alleviating symptoms, the positive psychology movement seeks to destigmatize mental illness. Positive psychologists believe that the positive psychology perspective is essential to contemporary research to complement the long tradition of pathogen orientation.

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Recovery Goal and Objectives

The goal of recovery is the dramatic alleviation of the symptoms of our social anxiety and related conditions.

The following three objectives support the goal.

1.     Produce rapid, concentrated positive stimulation to offset the abundance of negative information in our brain’s metabolism.

2.     Reclaim and rebuild our self-esteem and reintegrate into society through recognition and reinforcement of our character strengths, virtues, attributes, and achievements.

3.     Replace, offset, or overwhelm our irrational thoughts and behaviors with healthy, productive ones.

Positive Psychology

Positive psychology works through three sequential waves or aspects to address these recovery objectives. By focusing on our character strengths, positive psychology helps regenerate our self-esteem, undermined by social anxiety’s adverse self-appraisal. Additionally, it activates proactive neuroplasticity—the deliberate, repetitive input of positive information— to counterbalance the negative information stemming from core beliefs and assumptions related to our condition.

Positive psychology is called the science of optimal functioning. Its objective is to identify the strengths, virtues, and attributes necessary for individuals and society to live productive lives. Optimal functioning involves striving to reach our full potential and not just enduring life but flourishing in it.

Positive psychology began as a methodology that complements and supports traditional psychology rather than replacing it. Today, it is an umbrella term encompassing research on positive emotions and related topics. Such as creativity, optimism, resilience, empathy, compassion, humor, and emotional well-being. As a powerful tool for self-empowerment, positive psychology helps us reclaim our positive identity and understand our inherent strengths.

One of the first steps in our recovery journey is to identify these strengths and attributes that social anxiety may have obscured. A significant limitation of early positive psychology was its tendency to prioritize positive qualities. While overlooking the negative or real-world aspects of the human condition.

Positive Psychology 2.0

Recognizing the need for balance, psychologists advocated for a more holistic approach to well-being. Positive Psychology 2.0 emerged as a response to the previous singular focus on optimism, incorporating both positive and negative aspects of the holistic individual. Such an approach demonstrates the dialectical nature of human thought and behavior, recognizing that we possess both assets and flaws. This balanced self-awareness is essential for healing and growth, promoting a sense of equilibrium and a deeper understanding of our motivations.

Optimal human functioning is not solely about positivity. It involves living a balanced and meaningful life that fully engages both our positive and negative dimensions.

Positive Psychology 2.0 plays a crucial role in identifying and addressing the irrational fears and anxieties that contribute to negative self-appraisal, which can lead to the formation of automatic negative thoughts (ANTs). This process encourages us to respond to these thoughts with rationality, transforming them into opportunities for personal growth and change.

Positive Psychology 3.0

The third wave of positive psychology, PP 3.0 fosters a sense of community and belonging by broadening the focus of research and practice beyond the individual. It encompasses relationships, groups, organizations, and societies, exploring how our character and values reflect and contribute to the communities we are part of.

This third wave of development supports our reintegration into society by equipping us with tools and strategies for navigating transitions. Being mindful of our value and significance, enhanced by improved self-esteem, motivates us to pay it forward by supporting others, thereby strengthening our sense of connection.

In summary, Positive Psychology 1.0 focused on our character strengths, virtues, and attributes, serving as a powerful tool in early recovery. By recognizing and emphasizing our positive qualities, we counteract the abundance of neural negativity and adverse self-appraisal. This process helps us rediscover and prioritize our strengths, virtues, and achievements rather than our negative traits.

Recovery involves not only recognizing our strengths and virtues but also acknowledging our shortcomings. This balanced perspective is essential for healing and moving forward. The recovery process entails learning to identify the irrational fears and anxieties that drive our thoughts and behaviors, which contribute to the establishment of automatic negative thoughts (ANTs). Positive Psychology 2.0 provides the tools we need to navigate these challenges effectively.

Positive psychology 3.0 has expanded the focus of research and practice from just the individual to include relationships, groups, communities, organizations, and societies. This shift emphasizes how we can reintegrate into and contribute to our communities.

Self-esteem is a crucial aspect of our recovery. It embodies an empowering awareness of our qualities and character, including our imperfections. It involves not only how we perceive ourselves but also how we believe others perceive us and how we process that information. A healthy level of self-esteem reassures us of our worth and significance, empowering us to navigate our recovery journey with confidence and capability.

As we develop a renewed awareness of ourselves, we cultivate self-compassion and self-appreciation. Recognizing our unique contributions inspires and motivates us to share them with others. Interconnectedness is not just a natural progression of self-esteem. It’s a vital one that fosters a sense of caring and empathy, demonstrating the positive outcomes of recovery.

Positive psychology plays a significant role in our recovery journey. It goes beyond self-care; it’s about understanding our worth and potential while championing these beliefs in others. This moral evolution is a natural part of recovery, and positive psychology is a critical force in this process.

It’s essential to recognize that positive psychology is just one component of an effective recovery program. A comprehensive plan that incorporates closely related approaches, such as cognitive-behavioral therapy, active and proactive neuroplasticity, recovery-oriented cognitive therapy, schema therapy, cognitive-behavioral modification, acceptance and commitment therapy, rational emotive behavior therapy, and gradual exposure therapy, provides the necessary support for a well-rounded recovery program.

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Slade, M. (2010) Mental illness and well-being: the central importance of positive psychology and recovery approaches. BMC Health Serv Res 10, 26 (2010). https://doi.org/10.1186/1472-6963-10-26

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INDIVIDUAL RECOVERY. The symptoms of social anxiety make it challenging for some to participate in a collective workshop. Dr. Mullen works one-on-one with a select group of individuals who are uneasy in group settings. ReChanneling offers scholarships to accommodate the costs. What is absent in group activities is provided in our monthly Graduate Recovery Group. In this supportive community, graduates interact with others who have completed the program.  Contact ‘rmullenphd@gmail.com’.

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The primary distinction between social anxiety and social anxiety disorder lies in the severity of symptoms. Not everyone is affected in the same way, as the intensity and persistence of symptoms vary widely from person to person. Although the characteristics and traits of these conditions may appear similar across individuals, each person’s experience is shaped by a unique combination of environment, life experiences, and the diversity of human thought and behavior.

Additionally, it is important to recognize that comorbidities—other mental health conditions that occur alongside social anxiety—are highly prevalent. This prevalence underscores the complexity of these anxiety disorders. As such, effective recovery strategies must address not only social anxiety but also its related conditions. Throughout this book, when recovery methods are discussed for social anxiety, social phobia, and social anxiety disorder, they are intended to apply to all three.

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Before getting to the main topic of this post, I would like to address a question I frequently receive from our readers. Why, in the subheading, do we emphasize social anxiety’s related conditions?

There is a high degree of comorbidity between social anxiety and other mental health problems, most notably depression and substance abuse. The Anxiety and Depression Association of America and other experts include many emotional and mental disorders related to, components of, or consequences of social anxiety disorder, including avoidant personality disorder, panic disorder, generalized anxiety disorder, PTSD, eating disorders, OCD, and schizophrenia. I have seen statistics showing that 25% to 70% of people experiencing social anxiety also have depression and substance abuse problems.

A comprehensive treatment program must not only address the symptoms of social anxiety but also any related conditions that impact an individual’s recovery.

Dealing with Loss in Recovery

The three primary objectives in recovery from social anxiety are to:

  1. Produce rapid, concentrated positive stimulation to offset the abundance of negative information in our brain’s metabolism.
  2. Reclaim and rebuild our self-esteem and reintegrate into society through redeployment of our character strengths, virtues, attributes, and achievements.
  3. Replace, offset, or overwhelm our irrational thoughts and behaviors with healthy, productive ones.

Each objective in recovery is achieved by replacement. To replace is to put something or someone in the place of another. Consequently, we experience the loss of that which has been replaced.

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repetitive, neural information. – WeVoice (Madrid, Málaga)   

Neuroplasticity

Neuroplasticity is the brain’s ability to form and reorganize synaptic connections, especially in response to learning or experience. Each time we register new information—meaning our brain notices or detects it—our neural network realigns and restructures. This ongoing process leads to significant changes in our behavior and perspective.

Through neuroplasticity, we change the form and configuration of our neural network. Our brains are not fixed entities; they constantly adapt and evolve in response to new information. They gain and lose synapses, promote neurogenesis, and rewire circuits.

We experience a renewed sense of self as well as a feeling of emptiness and longing for what we have replaced or unlearned.

We usually think of loss in the broader sense—that of a job, home, or a loved one. In recovery from social anxiety, the primary loss is of irrational thoughts and behaviors. The empowerment we gain from our new mindsets compensates for this loss. Still, we experience a sense of missing elements of our personalities to which we have been attached, sometimes for decades.

The loss can be a disturbing experience – one whose subtlety does not usually reach the severity of trauma but is subconsciously present just the same. Trauma may occur if the replacement of certain habits, such as substance abuse, causes an intense emotional and physiological reaction. The loss of adverse habits alone can generate a vacuum that can moderately impact the emotional well-being of someone who is depressive or anxious.  

Awareness of this factor is essential to recovery.

Replacement Creates Loss

Through treatment for social anxiety and related conditions, we mitigate our destructive thoughts and behaviors by replacing them with healthier alternatives. Notwithstanding, we still experience the residual effects of those thoughts and behaviors that permeated our neural network for years.

There is a weaning process that occurs when we modify or replace ingrained habits.

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Hardwired Resistance to Change

We are genetically hardwired to resist change and physiologically structured to attack anything that disrupts our status quo. Our bodies and minds naturally resist change, as it disrupts our sense of balance and stability.

Experiencing loss can alter our heart rate, metabolism, and respiration. Physiological inertia senses and resists these changes, while our basal ganglia, involved in processes such as emotions, motivations, and habits, oppose any modification of our patterns of thought and behavior.

Neurological Impact

Our neural network, the complex web of interconnected neurons in our brain, doesn’t distinguish between healthy and toxic information. It responds identically to all registered stimuli. It activates the same long-term potentiation. A process that strengthens the connection between neurons and provides the same BDNF proteins associated with improved cognitive functioning.

It also releases the same chemical hormones that support us physiologically and psychologically. This activity means that the loss we experience can have a subtle negative impact on our brain, leading to confusion, depression, guilt, and withdrawal. Understanding this neurological impact can help us navigate the recovery process more effectively.

It is human nature to experience and regret the loss of things that have been part and parcel of our being. It is prudent to be mindful of this loss because it can affect our minds, bodies, emotions, and dispositions. In early recovery, this can be problematic if not understood and anticipated. There is continuing potential for recidivism.

However, with the awareness of the inevitability of loss, no matter how seemingly inconsequential, we can help circumvent recidivism and feel more in control of our recovery journey. This understanding is essential to the recovery process, as it allows us to acknowledge and manage those feelings of loss that will inevitably arise.

Awareness and preparedness can effectively moderate adverse reactions.

As the godfather of positive psychology, Abraham Maslow, assures us, “…the loss of illusions and the discovery of identity, though painful at first, can be ultimately exhilarating and strengthening.”

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ReChanneling develops and conducts programs to alleviate the symptoms of social anxiety and help individuals tap into their innate potential for extraordinary living. Our unique approach focuses on understanding personality through empathy and collaboration, integrating neuroscience and psychology. This includes proactive neuroplasticity, cognitive-behavioral modification, positive psychology, and techniques designed to reclaim and rebuild self-esteem. Every contribution, no matter the size, supports individuals striving to make a positive change in their own lives and the lives of others. All donations go towards scholarships for groups and workshops.

INDIVIDUAL RECOVERY. The symptoms of social anxiety make it challenging for some to participate in a collective workshop. Dr. Mullen works one-on-one with a select group of individuals who are uneasy in group settings. ReChanneling offers scholarships to accommodate the costs. What is absent in group activities is provided in our monthly Graduate Recovery Group. In this supportive community, graduates interact with others who have completed the program.  Contact ‘rmullenphd@gmail.com’.

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It takes enormous courage and the realization that you are of value, 
consequential, and deserving of happiness.

Healthy Resolutions for the New Year

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Healthy Resolutions for the New Year

In a recent post, we discussed the benefits of taking a break in our recovery. “Allowing yourself this time off enables your neural network to process and integrate the work you’ve done. Let your brain do the heavy lifting while you enjoy your break.” So, whether you are deep into recovery, just beginning, or even considering it, you are feeding your neural network positive information.

This is especially important during the holiday season. Our holiday schedules are filled with family reunions, gift shopping, and other activities that take precedence over recovery. That doesn’t mean we’re neglecting our new learning. It just means we’re taking a necessary break from it. The learning doesn’t stop. Our neural network continues to process information, and our recovery goes on.

Recovery from social anxiety takes hard work and dedication. It is not a quick fix. It’s a gradual process that begins immediately and grows incrementally and exponentially.

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Resolutions

In a couple of recovery groups, we briefly discussed traditional New Year’s resolutions. Most of us don’t take them seriously because it’s common knowledge that people rarely adhere to them. They’re short-term commitments that are forgotten by the second week of January.

Recovery is already filled with long-term resolutions and processes necessary for mitigating our symptoms and improving our emotional well-being and quality of life.

So, to start this new year, rather than trying to come up with easily neglected, pointless resolutions, let’s take credit for some of the long-term learning tools we already use in our recovery.

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Recovery Resolutions

Avoid Perfectionism. We are imperfect in our humanness. The unreasonable pursuit of perfectionism to compensate for our adverse self-image aggravates our anxiety and depression. Chasing the unattainable distracts us from issues and concerns that require your immediate attention.

Choose Supportive Relationships. Spend Time with people who make you happy. Don’t waste time on people who don’t treat you well. Spending time with people who treat you poorly is foolish and irrational. While we can’t always choose our family or certain colleagues, we can choose our friends and romantic partners.

Cultivate Gratitude. Take time to acknowledge and appreciate the good people, things, and experiences in your lives. Expressing gratitude enhances your mental, emotional, and physical well-being, strengthening social connections and relationships.

Do Things You Enjoy. Start by making a list of things you like to do—things that make you happy. Try to do something from that list every day. Be mindful that you are valuable, consequential, and deserve to be happy.

Embrace Joy and Laughter. The endorphins and hormones released during joyful moments significantly enhance your psychological health. Laughter and joy invigorate your cardiovascular and muscular systems, elevate your energy, and bolster your immune defenses.

Smiling and laughing stimulate neurotransmitters that reduce fear and anxiety while promoting learning, concentration, and motivation. (Social anxiety does not thrive in a joyful environment.)

Embrace Your Humanness. To foster genuine self-esteem and support your recovery, it helps to accept your totality—the good, the bad, and the ugly. You are unique individuals, defined by a dynamic interplay of strengths, weaknesses, and idiosyncrasies. Understanding yourself is a key element of recovery.

Establish and Maintain Boundaries. Boundaries define which behaviors you find acceptable. They safeguard your space, feelings, limitations, and expectations. They enable you to assert your identity and shield you from manipulation and exploitation. Setting boundaries equips you to manage others’ influence on your life.

Evaluate Upsetting Thoughts. Treat negative, intrusive thoughts as signals to try new, healthy patterns. Ask yourself, “What can I think and do to make this feeling or perspective less stressful?”

Focus on the Positive. Think about the parts of your life that work well. Remember the skills you’ve used to cope with challenges. Recognize and utilize your character strengths, virtues, attributes, and achievements.

Forgive. Holding onto hostility and resentment is self-indulgent and emotionally enervating. Forgiving frees up valuable space in your neural network. It opens you to new possibilities, allowing you to move forward unencumbered by the past.

Forgive Yourself. Everyone makes mistakes. But mistakes aren’t permanent reflections of you as a person. They’re moments in time. Mistakes are evidence of our humanness.

Make Healthy Choices. It is crucial to follow guidelines for good health. This includes engaging in at least 30 minutes of exercise daily, maintaining a healthy, moderate diet, and ensuring restful, undistracted sleep.

Positive Personal Affirmations. A primary asset for neural restructuring, positive personal affirmations are also practical tools for managing triggers, associated fears, corresponding ANTs, and other stressful situations.

Practice Self-Compassion. You deserve to be happy. This means prioritizing self-care, engaging in activities that bring satisfaction and joy, and surrounding yourself with people who recognize your worth and uplift you.

Reframe Your Perspective. You control your emotional well-being. No one has that power. Your tendency to view the glass as half empty perpetuates anxiety and depression. Instead, create optimistic outcome scenarios and reframe potential problems as opportunities for growth and learning.

Change your perspective on social anxiety. Rather than viewing it as a monster, we should reframe it as a unique yet remediable experience that has made us stronger and more resilient in the face of adversity.

Reward Yourself. Self-reward is tangible appreciation of our effort and progress. When you reward yourself, your brain releases a chemical rush of dopamine that makes you feel good. This feeling strengthens the connection between your constructive behavior and the positive outcome, making you more likely to repeat the action in the future. Reward also releases endorphins for mood elevation, GABA and serotonin for relaxation, and oxytocin and endorphins that generate feelings of satisfaction and pleasure.

Set Realistic Expectations. Success comes from setting practical, attainable goals that help build your confidence in overcoming challenges. When you set reasonable expectations, you help ensure a positive outcome.

Silence Your Inner Critic. By refusing to listen to your SAD-induced inner critic, you break the cycle of self-sabotage. Learn to say “no” to your symptoms and negative self-appraisals. Distancing yourself from self-critical thoughts rebuilds your self-confidence and fosters a more favorable outlook on life.

Use Hopeful Statements. Social anxiety compels you to project unsatisfactory outcomes. Challenge that thinking by focusing on the positive. Remember, it is unhealthy and irrational to choose outcomes that are harmful and unproductive. Filter out negative projections.

Do not define yourself by your social anxiety. Define yourself by your character strengths, virtues, attributes, and achievements.

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WHY IS YOUR SUPPORT SO NECESSARY? 
ReChanneling develops and conducts programs to alleviate the symptoms of social anxiety and help individuals tap into their innate potential for extraordinary living. Our unique approach focuses on understanding personality through empathy and collaboration, integrating neuroscience and psychology. This includes proactive neuroplasticity, cognitive-behavioral modification, positive psychology, and techniques designed to reclaim and rebuild self-esteem. Every contribution, no matter the size, supports individuals striving to make a positive change in their own lives and the lives of others. All donations go towards scholarships for groups and workshops.

INDIVIDUAL RECOVERY. The symptoms of social anxiety make it challenging for some to participate in a collective workshop. Dr. Mullen works one-on-one with a select group of individuals who are uneasy in group settings. ReChanneling offers scholarships to accommodate the costs. What is absent in group activities is provided in our monthly Graduate Recovery Group. In this supportive community, graduates interact with others who have completed the program.  Contact ‘rmullenphd@gmail.com’.

Committing to recovery is one of the hardest things you will ever do.
It takes enormous courage and the realization that you are of value, 
consequential, and deserving of happiness.

Journal in the New Year

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Robert F. Mullen, PhD
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All of us who keep ReChanneling running smoothly would like to wish our subscribers, clients, colleagues, and friends a healthy and productive 2026.

Some updates for the new year.

We are still in the process of finalizing, with the publisher, the editing of our upcoming book, A Survivor’s Common-Sense Approach to Recovery from Social Anxiety. Accounting for the average schedule to edit and get to print, we hope to make this book available sometime in the early spring.

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Group and Workshop Opportunities

Once the book is published, we will once again offer groups and recovery workshops specifically designed for individuals dealing with social anxiety and its comorbidities. Our commitment includes continuing online support groups and workshops. We are also considering reinstating site workshops to be held in the San Francisco Bay Area.

If your group or organization is interested in sponsoring a seminar or workshop outside the Bay Area, we are eager to collaborate and bring our programs to your location.

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We also plan to resume our regular schedule of weekly updates and posts, keeping everyone informed and engaged with the latest news and resources.

Scholarship Fund Growth

Finally, we are pleased to announce that our scholarship funds have now grown to $4,575.

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The Importance of Journaling in the Recovery Process

The following information is well covered in our upcoming book.

Keeping a written or electronic journal plays a crucial role in the recovery journey. Journaling is much more than simply jotting down random thoughts or notes—it is a thoughtful and intentional practice that encourages both personal growth and self-reflection. Journaling helps us broaden our self-awareness through regular reflection and honest expression.

By recording our experiences and examining how our condition affects us personally, we can shape our own story and actively participate in our healing process.

How Journaling Impacts the Brain

Scientific studies have shown that journaling activates several vital areas of the brain. One of these is the prefrontal cortex, which governs rational thinking and decision-making. Journaling also influences the limbic system, a central region that helps manage our emotions.

Journaling contributes to the rewiring of our neural pathways—a process known as neuroplasticity. This change is fundamental to recovery because it helps establish healthier patterns of thought and behavior.

Additionally, journaling can decrease the activity in the amygdala, the part of the brain associated with our stress responses, thereby reducing the influence of our fear- and anxiety-provoking hormones.

Journaling as a Tool for Self-Expression

Writing provides a safe and dependable outlet for complete self-expression. It allows us to communicate our thoughts and feelings without fear of interruption or criticism, creating a private space to explore and understand ourselves more deeply.

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Other Benefits of Journaling

Physical Benefits

Journaling offers a range of physical health benefits. For instance, writing before bedtime can help us fall asleep more quickly. By focusing on worries or creating a to-do list, we may improve the overall quality of our sleep experience.

Studies have also found that writing and gratitude journaling can strengthen our body’s immune function.

Additionally, research links journaling to improved overall physical and mental wellness, with enhanced physical functioning observed among medical populations.

Mental Benefits

Journaling can be a powerful tool for managing mental health. Expressive writing, for example, is shown to effectively reduce symptoms of depression.

Journaling can also alleviate symptoms of anxiety, especially through “positive affect journaling,” which focuses on positive emotions.

Certain journaling practices have been shown to help reduce stress. One study found that burnout and compassion fatigue rates decreased significantly among nurses who participated in a series of journaling classes.

Narrative writing, which involves writing about traumatic events, has been shown to reduce symptoms of post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD).

Journaling can also help us develop self-distance—the ability to reflect on past events and emotions as an objective observer. This skill reduces emotional reactivity and physical distress.

The act of writing about experiences and reflecting on them has proven helpful in mental health settings, facilitating recovery and improving self-awareness.

Journaling can boost emotional intelligence by increasing our awareness of personal emotions and feelings, whether we are in therapy or journaling independently.

A specific method called “reflective practice journaling” (RPJ) has been linked to improved self-confidence, self-knowledge, and coping skills, especially among nursing students.

Classroom journaling and expressive writing have also contributed to greater self-efficacy and a stronger sense of self-control, fostering personal growth.

Academic Benefits

Journaling can enhance academic performance in several ways. Reflective journaling has been shown to improve critical thinking skills in both nursing faculty and students.

Journaling as a meditative activity can inspire creativity, boost personal growth, and increase emotional awareness.

When journaling includes writing down goals, it may help increase our chances of achieving them, as found in multiple studies.

If our journaling practice combines drawing with writing, we may experience better recall of events compared to writing alone, according to a 2022 report.

Finally, a 2022 study found that regular journaling helps improve study habits, prioritize tasks, and boost overall productivity, thereby strengthening academic performance.

Courtesy of verywellhealth and Sarah Bence

Have a healthy and productive 2026 and keep journaling.

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WHY IS YOUR SUPPORT SO NECESSARY? 
ReChanneling develops and conducts programs to alleviate the symptoms of social anxiety and help individuals tap into their innate potential for extraordinary living. Our unique approach focuses on understanding personality through empathy and collaboration, integrating neuroscience and psychology. This includes proactive neuroplasticity, cognitive-behavioral modification, positive psychology, and techniques designed to reclaim and rebuild self-esteem. Every contribution, no matter the size, supports individuals striving to make a positive change in their own lives and the lives of others. All donations go towards scholarships for groups and workshops.

INDIVIDUAL RECOVERY. The symptoms of social anxiety make it challenging for some to participate in a collective workshop. Dr. Mullen works one-on-one with a select group of individuals who are uneasy in group settings. ReChanneling offers scholarships to accommodate the costs. What is absent in group activities is provided in our monthly Graduate Recovery Group. In this supportive community, graduates interact with others who have completed the program.  Contact ‘rmullenphd@gmail.com’.

Committing to recovery is one of the hardest things you will ever do.
It takes enormous courage and the realization that you are of value, 
consequential, and deserving of happiness.

Understanding Setbacks in Recovery

Growth, Learning, and Patience on the Path to Overcoming Social Anxiety

Robert F. Mullen, PhD
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Setbacks: An Essential Part of Recovery

Recovery from social anxiety and its comorbidities is often an exacting process. The challenges arise from our natural resistance to change and the complexity involved in learning new patterns of thought and behavior.

Successful recovery requires heightened awareness—recognizing, comprehending, and accepting not only new terms and concepts, but also our personal transformation.

Taking Breaks: Not a Setback, But a Step Forward

It’s essential to understand that stepping back from this intensive learning process does not mean we’re failing to grasp its complexities. On the contrary, taking breaks is a crucial aspect of the journey. These periods of rest allow us to return to our recovery with renewed clarity and deeper understanding.

Embracing Setbacks

Setbacks are inevitable; we should expect and welcome them. They are not signs of defeat, but rather an integral part of the learning process. There is no need to feel overwhelmed or to doubt our ability to learn. Instead, recognize that setbacks are simply waypoints along the journey, not the final destination.

The Continual Nature of Learning

Learning and growth persist even during interruptions or detours. Our neural networks are constantly operating, whether we are awake, asleep, or engaged in other activities. The process of change does not halt when we pause our conscious efforts; our brains continue working in the background, doing what they do best: processing, organizing, and retaining information.

Dr. Mullen is doing impressive work helping the world. He is the
pioneer of proactive neuroplasticity, utilizing DRNI – deliberate,
repetitive, neural information. – WeVoice (Madrid, Málaga)   

Retention of Progress

Although stress or cognitive neglect may temporarily disrupt our neural circuits, the knowledge and progress we have gained remain accessible—except in extreme cases of advanced neural atrophy. While we may sometimes compartmentalize or misplace information, we cannot truly lose it. The evolution of our neural network is a forward-moving process.

Once we begin the journey of recovery, the skills and insights we acquire are ours to keep. Recovery is not just about fixing what was wrong, but about ongoing growth and learning. The progress we make cannot be unlearned.

Patience and Perseverance

It is perfectly acceptable to take time away from active recovery practices. Setbacks, obstacles, and unexpected detours are a natural part of the recovery path, and we can still reach our goals despite these meanderings.

Recovery is not a quick fix; it is a gradual process that begins immediately and grows both incrementally and exponentially. There is no instant cure for social anxiety, and prescription medications do not offer a permanent solution. Actual change comes from persistent effort and ongoing self-development.

Focusing on Progress

Rather than striving for perfection, which is unattainable, we should focus on daily progress. Each step forward, no matter how small, contributes to the overall journey of recovery.

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The Importance of Practice and Time

Many individuals have lived with social anxiety for decades, so it is only natural that recovery will take time and practice. Patience and perseverance are essential. Just as champions train for years and musicians dedicate countless hours to their craft, overcoming social anxiety requires sustained effort. As Lao Tzu wisely reminds us, “The journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.”

Put down the book or the practice sessions and allow yourself a well-deserved rest. Set aside a couple of days to step back from your current routine and reward yourself for all the effort and hard work you have invested.

Allowing yourself this time off enables your neural network to process and integrate the work you’ve done. Let your brain do the heavy lifting while you enjoy your break.

Taking Time to Rest and Recharge

After investing significant energy and dedication into your recovery journey, it is important to recognize when you need a break. . Take a couple of days to step back from your current routine and acknowledge all the effort you have put in by rewarding yourself.

Engaging in Enjoyable Activities

During this break, focus on activities that bring you happiness and relaxation. Choose to engage in a favorite hobby or pursue something that you genuinely enjoy. Whether you decide to go to a movie, spend quality time with friends, or simply rest and recharge at home, give yourself permission to unwind and let go of any pressures.

Integrating Progress Through Rest

Giving yourself this time off allows your neural network to process and integrate the work you’ve accomplished. Let your brain do the heavy lifting while you take this necessary break, knowing that rest and self-care are essential parts of your ongoing progress.

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WHY IS YOUR SUPPORT SO NECESSARY? 
ReChanneling develops and conducts programs to alleviate the symptoms of social anxiety and help individuals tap into their innate potential for extraordinary living. Our unique approach focuses on understanding personality through empathy and collaboration, integrating neuroscience and psychology. This includes proactive neuroplasticity, cognitive-behavioral modification, positive psychology, and techniques designed to reclaim and rebuild self-esteem. Every contribution, no matter the size, supports individuals striving to make a positive change in their own lives and the lives of others. All donations go towards scholarships for groups and workshops.

INDIVIDUAL RECOVERY. The symptoms of social anxiety make it challenging for some to participate in a collective workshop. Dr. Mullen works one-on-one with a select group of individuals who are uneasy in group settings. ReChanneling offers scholarships to accommodate the costs. What is absent in group activities is provided in our monthly Graduate Recovery Group. In this supportive community, graduates interact with others who have completed the program.  Contact ‘rmullenphd@gmail.com’.

Committing to recovery is one of the hardest things you will ever do.
It takes enormous courage and the realization that you are of value, 
consequential, and deserving of happiness.